Yiqiniso, wayazi ukuthi ukuzalwa kwengane akuyona injabulo enkulu kuphela, kodwa futhi nomsebenzi omkhulu. Ufunda ukuthi emva kokubeletha, abesifazane abaningi banemizwa yokudumala nokukhohlisa. Futhi-ke, awuzange ucabange ukuthi kuzokuthinta wena uqobo. Kodwa kuthiwani uma uzizwa ukuthi izilindelo ozihlobanise nokuzalwa kwengane azilungile? Ngabe-ke ukubuyisela injabulo yokuba ngumama, naphezu kokudumazeka?
Ungacabangi ukuthi le mizwa izodlula ngokwabo. Yiqiniso, isikhathi siyaphulukisa. Kodwa ngezinye izikhathi kudingeka usebenze ngokwakho. Futhi ikhambi eliphumelela kakhulu lokukhungatheka ukubona iqiniso ngaphakathi komuntu, futhi ukungabambeleli ekulindeni okungalindelekile, futhi wamukele ... ngokubonga.
Ukubeletha akuyona iholidi
Maye, inkambo yokubeletha ivame ukuhlukana nesimo esimnandi osibumbene kusengaphambili. Endaweni ethile inqubo yokuzalwa ayikwazi ukuhamba ngokusho kohlelo, kungase kube nesimo esiphuthumayo. Izihlobo zingaziphatha ngendlela engalindelekile, futhi umntwana ngokwakhe angeke abe yilokho ocabanga ukuthi abe khona.
Imithi yokudabuka
Ukuze ubhekane nokubonakala okungalungile okunjalo esikhathini sokuhamba kwesikhathi, kuyafaneleka ... uthi "ngiyabonga". Okokuqala, ngiyabonga - noma kunjalo, wenza lokho, wanikeza impilo kumuntu omncane. Akudingeki uhlangabezane nokulindela - akuyona eyakho, noma umndeni wakho, noma umfundisi wezinfundo zabafazi abakhulelwe. Uvele wenza - wazala, futhi lokhu kuyiqiniso elingenakuphikwa!
Uma impande yokukhungatheka intukuthelo yabasebenzi bezokwelapha, zama ukuyibuka ngaphesheya. Akekho udokotela ofuna ukulimaza umama nengane. Ngakho-ke, ngokuqinisekile udokotela wakho wenza lokho akubheka njengento elungile kakhulu ngaleso sikhathi. Ukuzalwa okuhlangene akuzange kuphile ngokulindelekile? Futhi ngubani owaziyo ukuthi ngabe behamba kanjani uma oshade naye engazange azungeze ... Futhi okubaluleke kakhulu - vele uthathe imvuthuluka yakho, umbuke. Nansi - umphumela omkhulu wemizamo yakho. Akazange yini aziphendulele?
Umama ekhaya
Zingaki izikhathi zokuhlangenwe nakho okuwela kumama ngemuva kokubuya esibhedlela! Lapho befunda isimo sokucindezeleka kwabesifazane esikhathini esilandelayo, izazi zafinyelela esiphethweni sokuthi umama osanda kuzalwa akudingeki ukuba ajwayele ukwenza isimiso esisha nsuku zonke (futhi ekuqaleni - ukungabi khona kwakhe), ukuba ahlale ekhululekile - futhi ekuqaleni engakhululekile - ukuncelisa, ukukhathala, kodwa kanye nesimo esisha emndenini. Phela, kwakungakanani ngaphambi kokuzalwa? Umama wesikhathi esizayo wayephakathi nendawo yokunakekelwa nokunakekelwa, futhi manje le ndawo ihlala ngokufanele ingane esanda kuzalwa. Kodwa emva kwakho konke, umama, owafaka umzamo omkhulu ekubukeni kwakhe, naye ufanelwe ukusekelwa!
Kwabaningi, ukukhathazeka, ngokuphambene nalokho, isimo sengqondo esingaguquki - ngokuvamile esivela eceleni komlingani. Kwenzeka emindenini lapho ukuqonda okuhambisanayo, inhlonipho, ububele beswele. Futhi lo wesifazane ukholelwa ngephutha ukuthi ngokuzalwa kwengane konke kuyoba kuhle, ukuzama ukubamba "umyeni", engazi ukuthi ushintsho olukhulu - lo ukucindezeleka okungakwazi ukuqinisa umndeni wokuqala okhungathekile ... Futhi emindenini ephumelelayo kakhulu ukubonakala kwemvuthu, uhlukanisa lo mbhangqwana komunye nomunye - lapho bobabili bekhubekile, njengokungathi bayadumala: "Angazi kanjani?".
Imithi yokudabuka. Kuyamangalisa ukuthi kunzima kangakanani ukuthi abaningi bethu bathi: "Ngisize, ngikhathele", "Ngesaba ukuthi ngiye ngaba yingozi - ngitshele, ingabe usangithanda?", Yenza umzamo wokukhuluma ulimi olufanayo nezihlobo. Futhi kufanelekile ukukhokha izimo ezinjalo - lokhu kuyisifundo esibalulekile, okunikeza ithuba ekugcineni ukufunda ukukhuluma ngokukhululekile mayelana nemizwa yabo, okuhlangenwe nakho, izidingo. Futhi ulungiselele ukuthi akuzona njalo abayothola impendulo. Lo mntwana udinga zonke izidingo ukuze aneliseke. Futhi thina, abantu abadala, kufanele sikwazi ukubekezelela nokuhluleka ... Kodwa kuyafaneleka ukuzama!
Ingane ezandleni
Mhlawumbe ukudumala okubabazayo kunalokho okulindelekile okungalindelekile mayelana nosana olusanda kuzalwa. Ukubhekana nazo kunzima, uma kungenxa yokuthi hhayi wonke umama enquma ukuzivuma ukuthi akahlali ezwa ububele kuphela kumntanami ... Kodwa emandleni ethu ukuvumela ukudumala kuhambisane nothando lomntwana! Yini ebangelwa ukuhlangenwe nakho okungalungile komama? Okokuqala, ukubukeka nokuziphatha kwengane esanda kuzalwa. Umncane kakhulu, umzimba wakhe awunamaphutha futhi ufana nesicabucabu esincane, isikhumba sakhe siyasusa ... Futhi akafuni ukunikeza abazali bakhe ukumomotheka okujabulisayo nokuthinta okumnandi, kodwa kudinga kuphela - ukunakekelwa, ukunakekelwa, ubisi, ubukhona bakho ... Okwesibini , imvuthuluka kunzima kakhulu ukuyiqonda - lapha wamemeza, futhi yini okufanele akwenze? Shintsha i-diapers, uhlabelele izingoma, udla noma udilize? Kuzo zonke izinhlangothi, izitha, eziphikisanayo, zivimbezelwe. Kodwa uqonda kanjani ukuthi uthatha umntwana ezandleni zakho noma cha, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi uyabatshela esikhungweni esithile esibucayi, ubapha ngokuvumelana nombuso noma ngokufunwa? Futhi okwesithathu, unina angagxila esimweni sokucindezeleka esikhathini sokuhamba kwesikhathi, ukuthembela okuphelele kwengane kuye. Uhlale efuna ukumqamba amanga phezu kwezingalo noma esifubeni, avuke, amfake esitokisini. Futhi ungayinakekela kanjani umndeni wena ngokwakho?
Imithi yokudabuka. Kulungile manje sekuyisikhathi sokubonga ... ku-Nature ngokwayo. Phela, wahlela ngamabomu konke ukuze wena, empeleni, ungadingi ngempela "imiyalo" yengane. Ngoba usuvele wazi ukuthi ingane idingani nokuthi ingaziphatha kanjani. Kunoma yikuphi owesifazane, kunezinhlobo zokubeletha zomama, inkumbulo yezofuzo, ukucabanga, ekugcineni! Futhi kungakhathaliseki ukuthi ufunda izincwadi eziningi kangakanani, into esemqoka ukuzilalela.
Kungani kunzima kakhulu ukuba sikhuthazele ingane ekhala? Yebo, ngoba isimiso sezinzwa somama sibhekana kabi futhi sisho ngomzimba wonke: "Woza masinyane kumntanakho, uthathe ezandleni, uyondle!". Futhi imfundo engamanga-ukulahla imvuthu ekunamathiselwe, ephusheni elihlangene, ekuthintaneni nomama - kuphela kuqinisa ukukhathazeka kwakhe okuhlangenwe nakho, njengokungathi sizama ngamandla okunciphisa umuzwa wendlala noma ukoma.
Futhi ungabonga kuMvelo ngokuthi uyasinika thina, besifazane, leli khono eliyingqayizivele - hhayi kuphela ukuzala, kodwa futhi nokuthanda imvuthu. Futhi lapho sicabanga ngokwengeziwe ngomntwana, bheka ubuso bakhe obunzima, ukondla ubisi lwakhe, ucindezela uqobo lwakhe, ulalele inhliziyo encane - uthando oluthe xaxa luzosigcwalisa.