Umlingani osele, ngaphezu kobuhlungu enhliziyweni, ubhekene nokwesaba nokucindezeleka, kaningi kukhona ukucindezeleka ngokomzwelo, okubangelwa ukuthuthukiswa kokugula kwengqondo okukhulu.
Ukulahlekelwa ngumlingani wokuzimela ovela ezweni langaphandle ekuqaleni kungasiza. Ikakhulukazi kubalulekile ukugwema "abaduduzi" abafuna ukusizakala ubuthakathaka besikhashana. Ngezinye izikhathi baqhubeka bebuza ngokuphila kwabo siqu futhi bekwazi ukuthola imali kulokhu.
Ngezindaba zokufa komlingani, umuntu ngamunye uphendula ngokuhlukile. Kuncike kubuntu bakhe, uhlobo lomlingiswa, ikhono lokuthwala ukushaywa kwekusasa. Ngokwezibalo zengqondo, lokhu kusabela kuhlukaniswe ngezigaba ezine, futhi ukubonakaliswa kwabo akubhekwa njengokuphambene nokujwayelekile. Ekuqaleni oshade naye, ushiye wodwa, ubonakala edakamizwa futhi engakaqapheli. Ngokuvamile lesi sigaba sithatha amahora ambalwa, kodwa singaba isikhathi eside (ngezinye izikhathi lesi sizwe siphazamisekile ngokuhlupheka noma ukuhlaselwa kwentukuthelo). Bese kulandela isigaba sokudabuka nokufuna umlingani, okuhlala izinyanga ezimbalwa, noma ngisho neminyaka. Lesi sigaba sihambisana nokudabuka okukhulu nokulila. Ngokuvamile umuntu uba nenhlanhla, ecabanga njalo ngomlingani oshonile, unenkinga yokulala. Kungase kube nomuzwa wokuthi oshonile useduze, futhi izibonakaliso zokuba khona kwakhe zingaba, isibonelo, kuthiwa uzwe imisindo ethile.
Lesi simo sishintsha kancane kancane isigaba sesithathu - ukudumala okuphelele nokuhlehliswa. Ekugcineni, isigaba sesine ukuvuselelwa kwangaphakathi kobuntu. Oshade naye, ushiye yedwa, usetshenziselwa ukulahlekelwa futhi usuvele ekwazi ukuhlola impilo esetshenziswe nomlingani, njengokungathi kusuka ngaphandle, ukuzwa imizwa emihle.
Into esemqoka ukuthi zonke izigaba ezine zidlula ngendlela evamile, njll. wayenesiqalo nokuphela. Ukudabuka nokulila akufanele kube yindlela yokuphila.
Okokuqala, umuntu osizimele kumele athathe ukulimala, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi kunzima kangakanani. Kubaluleke kakhulu ukuvumelanisa nokulahlekelwa komlingani. Umuntu kufanele aqonde ukuthi ukufa komuntu othandekayo akunakuguqulwa. Umuntu oye wabhekana nokulahlekelwa othandekayo kubaluleke kakhulu ukuzama ukuzithola futhi. Kudingekile ukuthi ushintshe ngokushesha imikhuba yokuziphatha yakudala, ngoba kulokhu kuphela izindlela ezintsha zokuzizwa nokusebenza zingenzeka. Uma umuntu engakwazi ukwenza lokhu, uzokuzonda ikusasa.
Izenzakalo ezibulalayo ezenzeka empilweni zihlale ziphazamisa ushintsho lomuntu ngokwakhe: umfelokazi kufanele afunde ukwenza imisebenzi ehlukahlukene yansuku zonke, nomfelokazi - ukunakekela izindlu, ukuzinikela ngemali emikhulu. Uma kukhona izingane, oshade naye osele kufanele afeze imisebenzi yabombili abazali. Umuntu ongcono uyakwazi ukujwayela indima entsha, ikhalenda, ozimele ngokwengeziwe uzozizwa, ukuzethemba kwakhe kuzobuyiselwa ngokushesha. Kuphela lapho impilo yakhe igcwele khona.
Kunezinhlobo eziningana zokudabuka kwengculazi: usizi olungapheli nokuqondisa ngokweqile komuntu oshonile. Lezi zakhiwo ezibuhlungu zingaba yizigaba ezinzima zokuhluka. Iziguli ezinjalo ziphathwa udokotela.