Lawa mazwi abonakala enhle kakhulu, othandana, angenalutho, egcwele uhlobo oluthile lokuthandwa kwengane. Kodwa yilokho esikucabangayo, yingakho sithandana futhi sishada, senza ukukhetha. Kodwa ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, ngesizathu esithile umuntu wonke ushiya, futhi abantu baya ehlukanisa futhi betha. Kungani lokhu kwenzeka, yiziphi izimbangela zengqondo zokuphinga nokuthi ungalondoloza kanjani ukwethembeka komlingani wakho? Abesifazane abaningi babuza lo mbuzo izinkulungwane zeminyaka, kodwa bambalwa babo banikeza izimpendulo ezifanele kule mibuzo.
Ubuqili, ukuphinga, ukungathembeki, ukukhohliswa, ukuphinga - lo mqondo wanikezwa ngamagama ahlukene, kodwa bonke bahlanganyela incazelo efanayo. Yini efihlekile ngaphansi kwalo mqondo? Yiziphi izimbangela zengqondo zokuphinga? Sonke siyaqonda, sibonisa ukubaluleka kwayo, kodwa akuzona zonke izinto ezijule kakhulu. Futhi imibono kubantu abahlukene nayo ayifani: kumuntu, ukungathembeki kuyisenzo socansi sokuzithandela, abanye - ukumanga noma ngisho nomcabango. Ngaphezu kwalokho, ukuqonda ngale nkinga kuhluke ngabanye bobulili. Amadoda yizintambo eziningi zokungathengi, futhi izizathu zabo zihlukile. Ngaphezu kwalokho, iqiniso loqobo lokukhwabanisa, libona ukuthi liyingozi, uma ushintsho luyisimo somzimba. Owesifazane, ngokuphambene nalokho, ukukhwabanisa ngokomzwelo, uthando lomyeni ngomunye owesifazane lubonakala luvutha kakhulu futhi lungenakubekezelela. Lokhu kulungiswa yiqiniso lokuthi abesifazane bayakwazisa kakhulu ukuxhumana ngokomzwelo nangokomoya, futhi ngokuvamile ngenxa yokuntula kwakhe, ukungabi nesekelo lomzwelo, benza inkani. Ngenxa yalokhu - intombazane ishintsha kakhulu ngokuziphatha, hhayi ngokomzimba. Emadodeni, ukuphinga komfazi kuyingozi kakhulu kuye "Mina", ngakho imizamo yokuthethelela umkayo kumele ibe yinto ebaluleke nakakhulu.
Kodwa, naphezu kokufutheka kokungathengiswa, namanje bazinikezwa bobulili bobabili. Nakuba abanye bakholelwa ukuthi ukukopela - kuyasiza ngisho namalungelo okuvimbela umlingani abangenawo. Ngakho kwakukhona uhlobo olusha lobuhlobo - mahhala. Umbhangqwana okuthiwa ndawonye futhi ngesikhathi esifanayo kubo akukho mingcele ekuthembekeni komunye umlingani. Ubuhlobo obunjalo bubukeka njengento yokusebenzisana, ngaphandle kwalokho, abanikezwa umuzwa wokuthi sidinga ngempela - ukuzizwa sithandwa, okuwukuphela komunye, okhethiwe.
Isizathu esiyinhloko sezimbangela zengqondo zokuphinga kungukuntula kothando. Uma abantu bengalingani ndawonye, ubuhlobo babo abumele lutho, imizwa ishisa, futhi ucabanga ngokukopela nomunye umuntu. Ngokungahambisani naso, nje kwafika emicabangweni yami futhi kubonakala sengathi ngumuzwa omuhle. Kulokhu, isifiso sokushintsha uphawu olucacile lokuthi ubuhlobo kufanele buqede. Emva kwakho konke, lapho kungekho ngisho nesifiso sokuthatha noma yiziphi izinyathelo zokulungisa lezi zinsuku, futhi ngezinye izikhathi ulokhu uzihlambalaza futhi uzihlambalaza, zibuze ukuthi ikuphi okukuphethe eceleni kwalomngane wakho. Kulesi simo, okukhiphayo ngeke kube nokuhlukunyezwa, njengesidingo semizwa nokuphumula, kodwa ubuhlobo obusha, obuhlala njalo.
Kubantu, ukungathembeki ngokuvamile kuvame ukuzifakazela, isidingo sezintsha ezintsha zobulili. Umuntu angashintsha ngenxa ye "ezithakazelo ezemidlalo" ukuze azibonakalise ukuthi uyabaluleka, ukufaneleka, ukuphakama kobulili. Futhi, indoda ingashintsha lapho nje engenakho into okuthi, nje, ingamnika inkosikazi.
Kulokhu kulandela ukuthi ukuhlubuka akuyona njalo isizathu sokuthi umuntu uyeke ukuthanda. Njengoba nje iphutha elikhulu kuyoba ukuthi indoda izohamba ngokushesha noma kamuva ihambe emkhatsini wayo kumakhosikazi wayo. Eqinisweni, usengathola kuso isidingo esingekho kumkakhe, futhi ngesikhathi esifanayo amthembise ukuthi ahlukanise nomkakhe futhi ashade nenkosikazi yakhe. Kodwa kungani engeke akwenze njalo manje, lo muntu uzochaza izizathu ezihlukene, njengokuthi: ngenxa yokuthi akanaso isikhathi, izingxabano eziningi, udinga ukulinda, umfazi uyagula ... Futhi uma esethembisa isikhathi eside, ukuthi lokhu akukwenzeki. Eqinisweni, amadoda amaningi afuni ukuhlukanisa futhi ayingxenye yendima yawo njengendoda. Unkosikazi ezimweni eziningi - umuntu osesikhashana.
Ukuhlambalaza kungenzeke nje ngenxa yokwehliswa, ubukhulu, ukungakholwa. Into eyingozi kakhulu emadodeni ngalesi sikhathi yilokho okubizwa ngokuthi "inselelo yobudala obuphakathi," lapho umuntu ehlola kabusha izinto eziza kuqala, futhi ahlola konke ayenayo phakathi nayo yonke le minyaka. Isizathu sokuhlubuka kuleli cala singase sibe isifiso sokwenza okunye.
Ukungathembeki kungabonakalisa njengomphumela wezinkinga zomuntu. Omunye wabo, isibonelo, angase angakulungeli ubuhlobo obunzima. Uma umuntu onjalo edingekile ukuthuthela ezingeni elisha ebuhlotsheni, uqala ukwesaba, emqondweni uveza izingxabano eziningi zangaphakathi, ukungakholwa, indlela engcono kakhulu yokuphuma ibonakala igijimela kumakhosikazi okungazibophezeli lutho. Ezinye izinkinga zangaphakathi zingase zibe ukuzithemba okungalungile (ukuhlukunyezwa njengobufakazi bokukhanga nokubaluleka komuntu), uhlelo lwezinkolelo zamanga, ubandlululo.
Ngakho, ukuhlubuka kubonisa ukuthi kukhona inkinga ebuhlotsheni bomshado noma ngokwayo. Ekugcineni, uma kukhona isifiso sokushintsha, umuntu kufanele acabange: yiyiphi yezinkinga osukhona manje, indlela yokuxazulula le nkinga, ukuthi unganciphisa kanjani ingozi nokuthi kungenzeka yini ukukhashelwa. Okufanayo kufakazela umlingani wakho: ukuxazulula ndawonye izinkinga zomshado wakho: usize umlingani ukuba abhekane nokungaqiniseki kwakhe, aqaphele ukuziqhenya kwakhe, amnike uthando futhi amthande, makangabheki ngaphandle kwekhaya lakho.
Ungahlale umhawu ngomlingani wakho futhi yonke indawo ukuze ubuke inkohliso yokuhlubuka - lokhu kuzokwenza kube kubi nakakhulu: kokubili wena nomngane wakho. Umhawu, okokuqala, umqondo wobuthakathaka nokungavikeleki emakhono abo.
Zisebenze ngokuzethemba kwakho, uqede izinkinga ezikudala, ujabulele umshado wakho futhi ukhumbule ukuthi lapho kukhona uthando nokuzwana, akufanele kube nesizathu sokukhaphela.