Ngamunye wethu kwakudingeka abhekane nobunzima bezwe obuhlukahlukene, lapho ukuphila kubonakala sengathi kuyintambo ehanjiswe phezu kwesikhala, futhi sibonakala njengabaqalayo be-rookie, singavikelekile futhi singenakuzivikela. Sifuna ukubamba okungenani utshani, ukuze uzizwe ngaphansi kwezinyawo zenhlabathi eqinile futhi ususe lo mqondo ofihlakele wokungcupheni. Ngeshwa, akekho okhunjulwa yizinkinga ezinjalo. Futhi uma kunjalo, kufanele sifunde ukuthi siziphathe kanjani esimweni esibucayi ...
Nakuba izinkinga zabo zonke zihlukile, izazi zengqondo zikholelwa ukuthi, ngokunamathela endleleni ethile yokuziphatha, ungakwazi ukubuyisela ukulingana kwengqondo kunoma yikuphi, ngisho nenkinga enkulu kakhulu. Bese uphendulela ngokuphelele ukuthi kwenzekani ngenzuzo yakho!
Kukhona ukuthi akuyona yonke into embi kakhulu, noma ngabe uhlushwa inhlekelele yokubaluleka kwendawo. Ngokwezengqondo ze-psychologists, ngezinye izikhathi kuyasiza ukuba uzizwe unganeliseki. Ngenxa yokuthi lesi sizwe singakusiza ukuba uthathe isinyathelo esiwujuqu, futhi uzoshintsha i-destiny yakho ibe ngcono. Ngemuva kwakho konke, uma kubonakala kuwe ukuthi yonke into iyahamba nge-somersault, uzoqala ukuzindla ukuthi kungani lokhu kwenzeka. Ngakho-ke, uthola ithuba elikhulu hhayi kuphela ukuhlaziya isimo, kodwa futhi ukuthola indlela yokuphuma, vula impilo yakho ibe yinye, inzuzo eningi kakhulu kuwe. Into eyinhloko ukukholelwa ukuthi ukuhluleka kungathukuthela, indlela yokushisa komlilo okulimazayo, nokuthi ungakwazi ukuqina nokuhlakanipha ngenxa yalokho. Futhi nakuba ukwehluleka kokuhluleka kuhlukile, umuntu kufanele azame ukuphuma ngenhlonipho.
KUSUKELA KUNYE NOMPHAKATHI KUNGABENZISWA
Omunye weziguli watshela isamulo sezengqondo ukuthi ngolunye usuku oluhle kakhulu, wazizwa ebi kakhulu kunanini ngaphambili. Lo wesifazane wayegibele ibhasi eligcwele futhi wabona ukuthi ngeke akwazi ukuma manje futhi ahlabe izinyembezi uma omunye wabagibeli ephinda ephoqa uhlangothi lwakhe noma ewela emlenzeni wakhe. Futhi kwakungenxa yalokho! Okokuqala, wabiza umthandi wakhe wathi uphumule yedwa, ngoba abangane bakhe bamenywa emkhunjini. Ngakho-ke, kuyadingeka ukucasha amaphupho agqamile eholide elihlangene. Ngethemba lokuzwelana, owesifazane ompofu wambiza udadewabo futhi wezwa ukulila ngokuphindaphindiwe - wawela ngaphansi kwesisu futhi kusukela kusasa wahlala engenakho indlela yokuziphilisa. Kodwa isifiso sokuthola ukwesekwa asizange siphelile ngakho-ke heroine yomlando wethu wabiza umngane wakhe. Futhi yini ezwayo ekuphenduleni? Intombazane yathatha umama wayo esibhedlela, kanti lesi sigameko asibi kakhulu. Ngamafuphi, isimo sengqondo - nje kuphela ukuxhuma. Futhi lokhu akuzange kusimangaze.
Izinkinga ezisiholela kulo mbuso zingahluka kakhulu. Isigaba esisodwa sihlobene nokuphazamiseka ngokomzwelo. Zibangelwa, njengokubusa, ngokuphula ubuhlobo obuzinzile noma isikhundla esijwayelekile emphakathini: lokhu kuhlanganisa isahlukaniso, ukufa komuntu othandekayo, ukulahlekelwa umsebenzi. Ezinye izinkinga ziphakama lapho thina, ngentando yabanye, sizithola sibhekene nezimo ezingathandeki. Isibonelo, uthola isikhwama esinemali ebhasini lakho, umyeni wakho weba imali esilondolozwe epulazini, futhi ngaphezu komakhelwane wanyusa indlu yakho kusuka phezulu ... Kodwa isimo esinzima kangakanani ekuphileni! Yilapho uqala ukuzizwa ubuthakathaka, usengozini, ungenakuzivikela, ngegama - i-orange ngaphandle kwekhasi, futhi kuphela. Lokhu kuvamile, izazi zengqondo zithi, ukuthi uzwa imizwa enjalo uma ubhekene nezinkinga.
Kodwa ngokuvamile kuvumelana emphefumulweni wethu emva kokucindezeleka okunjalo ngokushesha noma kamuva kubuyiselwe. Kodwa uma umuzwa oduduzayo ukuthi ungumnkantshi ushiye ngaphandle kwendlu, awuhambanga isikhathi eside - kusho ukuthi yisikhathi sokuzindla: yini ngempela empilweni yakho hhayi ngendlela nendlela yokuziphatha ngayo ukuze isimo sishintshe ngcono? Futhi-ke, ngokuqondile, ngokuphoqa kwentando, ziphoqelele ukuba wenze okuthile.
Ngikholelwa, ngeke ulizisole. Okokuqala, uzothola kangcono. Futhi okwesibili, khumbula ukuthi ukukhubazeka kakhudlwana ngokomzwelo kuyonakalisa lowo muntu. Akukona nje ukuzihawukela okulimazayo, kodwa futhi kungabaza ngamandla akho siqu, kanye nokuthambekela kokusola izono ezifayo kuphela.
Ngakho-ke, qiniseka ukuthi uzama ukuphuma ezimo ezimbi ngokushesha ngangokunokwenzeka futhi ukwenze ngokuhlakanipha. Sithemba ukuthi izeluleko zezengqondo zengqondo zizokusiza kuwe ngokusebenza.
GUIDELINES FOR ACTION
1. Kholelwa kuwe
Amantombazane amaningi amahle abhekana nokudumazeka okudabukisayo lapho beshiya amadoda abo abathandayo. Futhi uma beya kubangani babo, kuba inhlekelele ephindwe kabili, ngoba into eyodwa kunzima ukusinda ukukhwabanisa, futhi nje amabili - ngisho nangaphezulu. Kodwa noma ngabe lo muntu othandekayo uye "waya endaweni," ukukhanya kwemini kusekhona.
Abantu abaningi bazama ukuphazamiseka futhi baye emsebenzini. Kodwa ukuthi ungaba kanjani ebusuku, lapho ushiywe wedwa ngodabu lwakho? Ngokwezibalo zengqondo, ngezikhathi ezinjalo kubonakala kuningi ukuthi zonke izimpumelelo zabo kanye nempumelelo yazo ziye zaphuma kanye. Ngaphezu kwalokho: ngokuvamile abesifazane abanjalo kunokuxhumana okusheshayo nabantu abaseduze abakwazi ukuhlola i-solvency yabo futhi abakhumbula impumelelo yabo yangaphambilini, bakhethe ukuhlala bodwa, basondele ezindongeni ezine bahlale phansi, bebhekene nenye iphuzu, bebhekene nesimo sabo ngokuphindaphindiwe.
Uma wenqatshelwe futhi ngenxa yalokho uzizwa ungalondekile futhi ungenakuzivikela, gxila emandleni akho. Mhlawumbe unomusa omuhle futhi wazi ukuthi ungadonsa noma uhlanganise kanjani? Mhlawumbe ulungiselela izitsha ezinjalo, yiluphi ulimi ozolugwinya? Futhi mhlawumbe, ngokuqinile kwakho ngaphandle kwakho, njengokungathi ngaphandle kwezandla? Yebo okuncane ngalokho izimfanelo zabo ezibalulekile thina ngokwethu esizibeka eceleni futhi sibabiza ngezehlakalo zansuku zonke!
Ziba kuhle kuwe. Vumbela eshaweni nasekhanda lakho, futhi ngenxa yalokho, yenza uhlu lwezinkampani zakho ezihamba phambili. Ngezinsuku ezijabulisayo, asinaso isikhathi sokwenza lokhu, kodwa imizuzu yokudumazeka yisikhathi esifanele kakhulu salokhu. Futhi-ke uzokwazi ukuthola ukuthi awukho omubi futhi ngenxa yalokho ushiyiwe, futhi ulungile futhi ufanelwe kangcono.
2. Ukubhekana neqiniso
Ngokuvamile sikhathazekile umqondo wokungalapheki nokungavikeleki lapho kwenzeka okuthile emsebenzini. Futhi ngenxa yokuthi abantu besaba kakhulu ukungaqiniseki, khona-ke noma yiziphi amahemuhemu ezesabekayo mayelana nezinguquko ezizayo ezibangela ukuba bakhathazeke kakhulu. Futhi ukwesaba isimo esibi sezimali futhi kubambe njengenkemba yeDamocles.
Kulesi simo, akusekho injengejuba, ngubani lapho ekhona engozini ekhanda ikhanda lakhe esihlabathini futhi edala inkohliso yokuphepha. Ngokuzenza sengathi akukho lutho olwenzekile noma uvumela izinto ukuba zihambe ngokwazo, ngaleyo ndlela siqinisa kuphela umuzwa ongajabulisayo nobuhlungu wokungcupheni.
Yiqiniso, umuntu angaphila ngesimiso "lapho ijika lizokhipha khona": kunezimo lapho yonke into eyakhiwa yodwa. Kodwa isimo singaba sibi nakakhulu, futhi isikhathi sokuthatha izinyathelo, kwenzeka, sesivele selahlekile. Ngakho-ke, ngokushesha nje uma uqala ukubona ukuthi inhlabathi iphuma ngaphansi kwezinyawo zakho - thatha ukuzindla ngaloluhlelo lwesenzo. Isibonelo, bheka omunye umsebenzi, ushintshe iziqu, ekugcineni, uqale ukugcina imali ngosuku lwemvula. Yenza okuthile, nje ungenzi lutho! Uma kungenjalo, uzohlala kuze kube phakade isigqila salesi simo sokulimaza sokungalapheki kwakho.
3. Ungabi namahloni ngemizwa yakho
Ukuze kulungiswe ukungavikeleki kwesikhashana nokuzivikela, umuntu kufanele alandele umthetho owodwa. Okufanayo: ukwethembeka ekuhloleni isimo sakho. Ikakhulukazi ngaphambi kwami. Ngokudabukisayo lokhu kuzwakalisa, kepha futhi ungakwazi ukulawula imicabango yakho nemizwa yakho kuphela emva kokuqaphela okuqotho nangokweqiniso ukuthi ulahlekelwe okwesikhashana kulolu lawulo.
Yiqiniso, ukuvuma kithi ngokwethu, sisengenani kakhulu, kodwa sithola amandla. Kodwa ukubonisa isimo sabo somzwelo eshaqisayo kwabanye ngokuvamile kuvama. Futhi ngaleyo ndlela sinquma indlela yethu-cha, hhayi ukubuyela emuva, kodwa, ngokuphambene nalokho, ekuphileni okusha. Uma ungakhulumi ngokuhlangenwe nakho kwakho kumuntu owavela kuwo, ngeke ube nethuba nhlobo ukuthuthukisa isimo noma ukushintsha ubuhlobo. Yebo, futhi ukusiza kusuka ngaphandle ungase uhlale ukhona lapho abanye bebazi ngezinkinga zakho. Ngaphandle kwalokho bazi kanjani ukuthi uyayidinga?
Ngakho-ke, ungafihli kubantu ukuthi ulahlekelwe ukuqiniswa. Nje ungadideli ukuqashelwa okuqotho ukuthi ulungile, ngokukhala njalo nokukhononda ngekusasa elibi. Lokhu kuziphatha kuvame ukucasula wonke umuntu futhi, ngokufanele, akukhuthazi usizo.
4. Balinde usizo kuwe.
Abaningi bethu bajwayele okuhlangenwe nakho kwekusasa labanye abangenandaba nathi. Ngakho-ke abesifazane bahlelwa ukuthi bavame ukuthatha izinhlupheko zezihlobo noma abangane kakhulu eduze kwenhliziyo yabo - njengeyabo. Ikhono lokuzwelana yikhwalithi enhle yomphefumulo wesifazane. Kodwa ngesikhathi esifanayo kukhona ingozi yokucindezeleka ngokomzwelo empilweni yomunye umuntu kangangokuthi ingaba umthwalo ongenakubekezelela. Izazi zengqondo ziyazi amacala lapho abesifazane abaphumelelayo, bekhathazeka ngabanye, bazitholela isilonda esiswini sezinzwa noma isifo senhliziyo.
Uma othile othandekayo kuwe enenkathazo, futhi uzizwa ngenxa yalolu buhlungu obukhulu obungokomzwelo, ungavumeli luhlume kuwe, lubhubhise umzimba wakho. Ikakhulukazi ngoba imizwa, kanye nezinyembezi, usizi ngeke kusize, kodwa impilo (futhi ngokuyinhloko - isimiso sezinzwa) iyokwehlisa. Kungcono ucabange ukuthi yikuphi usizo oludingekayo kuwe. Yiqiniso, ukuthi owesifazane uziphatha kanjani ezimweni ezibucayi yibhizinisi lakhe. Kodwa kungcono ukulalela iseluleko sezengqondo.
Ingabe isihlobo silimala? Funa odokotela abahle noma ukhokhele ukwelashwa, uhlale unesi noma uphakamise isimo sengqondo sesiguli, ugcwalise ezinye zezifiso zakhe. Umyeni ulahlekelwe umsebenzi wakhe? Msize ekusesheni umsebenzi, futhi okwamanje uphinde usakaze kabusha isabelomali somndeni ukuze unciphise ukusetshenziswa kwemali. Intombi yayikhathazekile ngomshado ngenxa yokukhashelwa komkhwenyana? Mkhiphe kaningi "ekukhanyeni," umenze ahambe nawe ukuyothenga nawe ekufuneni izingubo ezintsha, amthathe nawe emaphethelweni. Ngamafuphi, kulokhu, ithiphu elilodwa - yenza!
Ungangena emoyeni!
Ngeshwa, izinkinga, ezinkulu noma ezincane, zinjengokungokwemvelo into efana nokukhula kwethu nokuguga komuntu. Yebo, njengoba kwenzeka ukuthi awukwazi ukuphunyuka kuzo, zama ukuphulukisa impilo yakho emhlabathini.
♦ Khumbula ukuthi umuzwa wokuthi izwe lonke liye lahleka futhi lizungeze lingalutholi ngisho netshani lokubamba, ukuhambela cishe wonke umuntu okungenani kanye ekuphileni. Lokhu kuyimvelo. Ngakho-ke, lesi simiso asiphazamisi isithunzi sakho.
♦ Qonda izizathu zokubonakala komqondo wokungcupheni nokuzivikela, bese uqala ukwenza okuthile. Yenza iphutha, zama futhi - ungahlali ungenzi lutho!
♦ Ungazibeki icala, uma kukhona okungalungile empilweni yakho. Izinkinga zethu eziningi ziphakama, njengomthetho, ngenxa yomgomo (okungukuthi, hhayi kuye) izimo.
♦ "Awuboni i-sawdust", njengoba izazi zengqondo zeluleka, okungukuthi, ungakhumbuli ukuthi kwenzekani kaningi izikhathi eziningi. Zenze uzikhohlwe okwenzekile, futhi ugxile kulokho okuhlosayo.
♦ Ukuxhumana kaningi nabantu abaseduze, ungazilahli isizungu ngokuqaphela. Ngisho noma sijwayele ukuthembela kuphela kithi ngomzamo wokushintsha isimo sibe ngcono, ukubuyisela emuva izikhundla esizinikile. Noma kunjalo, ungakhohlwa ukuthi oyedwa endle akuyona impi.