Ngamunye wethu unemfihlo yayo. Futhi akukhathaleki nakancane ukuthi lezi zimfihlo ziphi, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi zihlekisayo noma zingalindelekile, zingenangqondo noma zibi kakhulu - kusekhona into yomuntu siqu, efihlwe ngemuva kweminyango eyisikhombisa. Ungabelana nabo nomngane oseduze noma indoda ethandekayo. Kodwa akuzona zonke izimfihlo ezingakhishwa, ngoba zonke izintombi zinezimfihlo zaso zobulili.
Ubani ngaphambi kwakho, akubalanga
Abamele ubulili obunamandla kakhulu obuvame ukukhishwa yiqiniso lokuthi abakhathaleli ukuthi bangaki amadoda akhethiwe akhe ngaphambi kwakhe ayengamadoda, ayenjani embhedeni nokuthi yimiphi imidlalo yezocansi ayidlala nayo. Kodwa naphezu kwalokhu, umhlaba ugcwele nje izibonelo zalokho okwenziwe umhawu ngesikhashana esidlule. Yiqiniso, othembekile wakho angeke ahambe ukuze ajwayele uqobo lwakho futhi angeke abe nesithakazelo kuwe, ngubani umbhali wenqubo yakho eqinile yokusikhipha umzimba, kodwa kufanelekile ukuzama? Indoda inolwazi olwanele ukuthi ngaphambi kwakhe ubuye ulwa, nakuba lokhu kungenakwenzeka ukuthi ubhekisele kwisigaba esilandelayo esivela eceleni. Ngelinye igama, imfihlakalo yocansi yesifazane yangesikhathi esedlule (lapho, kanjani, ngaphansi kweziphi izimo, ulahlekelwe yintombi yakho, kungakanani ukukhathazeka okukhona emndenini wakho osondelene nomuntu owayengumthandi wangaphambili nokunye okuningi) abesifazane bazama ukushiya ubuhlobo obusha futhi kaningi uma lobu buhlobo ingaphambili yokukhula ibe yinto engathà sina.
Ngizohlala nginani njalo
Futhi bheka ukungathembeki kwamakhosikazi noma izimbangela zokuqaliswa kwazo, ngokusekelwe ezinkathini ezibucayi zokuphila, neze. Ngendlela, ukuzidumisa ngalokho okuye kwadlulela kakhulu kwemingcele yokuhlonipha, owesifazane ngeke abe. Ezweni kunezinye izilingo zobulili, ezingalimazi ubuhlobo nhlobo. Lezi zinhlakazi zabesifazane ziyamukeleka ekuziphatheni komphakathi, kepha azikwazi ukuthola indawo enhle ekubhekiseni ukuziphatha kwamalungu amaningi obulili obuqinile. Bangabangela ngisho nenani elithile lamadoda ukucasuka. Iqiniso eliqakathekileko ngukuthi ngokusho kwezibalo, u-70% wezocansi ezifanelekayo ezishadile, ezithinta ukushaya indlwabu, nokuphila kwabo ngokobulili nomlingani wabo, ziphakeme kakhulu. Futhi kuphela okwesithathu kwamacala lo muntu uhlala engazi ngalokhu.
Futhi, izimfihlo zobulili ezithinta ukungabi khona komuntu osondelene naye, zihlanganisa ukuvakashela izingosi ezishisayo ngaphansi kwesibonakaliso "semfihlo ephezulu." Embuzweni oqondile owawulahlekile lapha, abesifazane abaningi bathambekele ekuphenduleni okusheshayo kepha okuqinile ohlelweni: "Awuyena wonke ojabule ngocansi!". Lokhu kuyinto enamandla kakhulu kumuntu ongenamsebenzi. Futhi enye eyimfihlo enkulu, indoda akudingeki ukuba iqaphele ukuthi ubani ovela ezinkanyezini ze-movie noma osebenza nabo ungomunye wabalingiswa abakhulu bezingqondo zakho zocansi. Lezi zinkululeko zemicabango azikwazi ngisho ukuhlehlisa umuntu.
Memeze ngokuzwakalayo
Ngaphambi kwesikhathi sokudweba phambi kwethu isithombe somuntu obuthakathaka futhi ongakwazi ukucabanga ngokwanele umuntu ongaqondi ukuthi ngokuvamile ulwazi alufanelekile. Wena empeleni uye wanquma ukuxhuma nalo isiphetho futhi nhlobo ngoba ngesikhathi esilukhuni ukufuna usizo kulabo abakukhansela kuyo, ekuhambeni kwakho konke, ukuthi ugcine umfihlo ngokucophelela. Kodwa-ke, madoda, nifihla izimfihlo zabo zobulili, zenze ngokungafani. Kungenxa yalesi sizathu indoda ayikwazi ukuthola ukuthi yini ayifuni ngempela ukuyenza. Umqondo wesithupha uqondisa lo wesifazane futhi unquma ukuthi yiluphi uhlobo lokunikeza ulwazi oludingekayo kumuntu. Kodwa kukhona nalawo mfihlo okufanele ahlale emfihlakalo. Ngandlela-thile, kungenxa yalezi zimfihlakalo lapho amadoda ngokuvamile engafuni ukwazi noma ukwazi. Zivame ukuhlotshaniswa neqiniso lokuthi owesifazane angase angathandi lutho ngocansi futhi lokhu kwaziwa nabangane abasondelene (ngisho nomunye noma umama, isazi sezokwelapha) noma emehlweni omuntu ocansini owesifazane uqala ukucabanga ngokulala naye. Lapha ungabuye ubhekisele ezinkumbulo eziqhubekayo ze-nostalgic zenkosikazi yangaphambili kanye nobulili obuhle naye (ikakhulukazi uma ethanda). Futhi imfihlo enkulu yokugcina iwukuhlola isithunzi sobulili somuntu. Abesifazane abaningi abakhulumi ngaso sonke isikhathi iqiniso, besaba ukucasula umuntu noma befuna ukuphakamisa ukuzethemba kwakhe.