Abacwaningi eYunivesithi yasePisa, ase-Italy, bathola ukuthi kungani uthando phakathi kwabalingani luya kancane kancane. Konke mayelana nama-hormone-neutrophils. Ekuqaleni kweveli, izinga labo legazi liphakeme kakhulu, kodwa ngokuhamba kwesikhathi liyancipha. Futhi isifiso siyaqhubeka nokuhla. Noma kunjalo, izazi zengqondo ziqinisekile ukuthi ukunciphisa ubukhulu bezinkanuko akusho ukuthi isikhathi esihle kakhulu empilweni yabashadile sesivele sisekhona. Ubudlelwane buya ezingeni elihlukile, liba nokwethembela okukhulu.
Uyazi ukuthi emzimbeni wakho kukhona amaphuzu "amfihlo", okuthinta kuwo kungabangela isiphepho semizwa. Yilokho nje ongayithola? Indoda ethandekayo isivele ifunde indlela yokukujabulisa. Unamasu amaningi wokunqoba-phambili aholela ekugcineni. Kodwa nansi okungahambisani nawe - njalo lapho elandela indlela efanayo: ukumbumbana kuqala nokuwanga, bese ucindezela isifuba nesisu. Kungase kuqondwe, ngoba lezi yizindawo ezivame kakhulu eziyinkimbinkimbi. Ibhola lakho selivele lithole indlela esheshayo yokukujabulisa futhi isaba ukuhlolwa. Kodwa ufuna ukwazi okuthile okusha mayelana nezindawo zakho ezimbi! Indlela yokugqugquzela umngane wakho ukucinga izindawo ezifihliwe?
Izigaba ezinobungozi ngezindlela ezithile zifana nezintaba-mlilo. Kukhona abakhuthele futhi "abaqashiwe kusukela engxenyeni yokuphenduka", kukhona "ukulala" nokuthi "bahlezi". Yiqiniso, kukhona ibalazwe eliseduzane lezindawo ezijwayelekile kakhulu ezihamba phambili emzimbeni wendoda nowesifazane. Kodwa abakwa-sexologists bayaqiniseka: konke kuyedwa. Ungase ungasoze ngisho nokuthi lokhu noma lokhu kuthinta kukushayela kuze kube yilapho othandekayo wakho ekuthinta ngesikhathi esifanele nangendlela efanele. Ngesinye isikhathi indoda ayikwazi ukuthola izindawo ezihlukumezayo ngoba nje zisezindaweni ezingajwayelekile. Isibonelo, kungaba ngamadolo, amaqaqa noma isikhumba emhlane emkhatsini wamahlombe ehlombe (okuthiwa "indawo yekati"). Ngezinye izikhathi ukuzwa okuthakazelisayo kungabangelwa ukunyakaza okuncane, kodwa, ngokuphambene nalokho, ukuchofoza noma ukuchoboza ngokujulile. Ngendlela, lapho umthandi wakho ongenakunxantathu ekushaya esikhwameni noma ngokuklolodela edonsa ku-curl, uzama ukuzama ukuvusa izingxenye ezihlukumezayo. Mcele ukuthi akwenze ekamelweni lokulala, hhayi lapho ugijimela ekhishini waya epanini elikhazimulayo.
Ukukhohlisa umngane wakho ukuthola izindawo zemilingo kalula, ngoba bonke abantu bangabashayeli bemvelo. Kwanele ukusho nje ukuthi: "Ukudumisa, awukaboni ukuthi ngingenzani ngempela." Ake sizame, futhi ngizokuhlela ubusuku obushisayo! " Gcina engqondweni: izindawo ezijabulisayo zishintsha ubuzwe babo ngaphansi kotshwala kotshwala. Angeke avuke uma ukhathele noma ucabanga ngenye into. Ukuze uvule ibalazwe lezinkampani zakho ezingafaneleki, kufanele uzizwe uthanda. Vumela usesho lwakho ngamaphoyinti "X" indoda yakho inamathela ezimisweni ezintathu:
- Qala ukuthaka kwezinto kufanele kube ngokuzilibazisa.
- Ngesikhathi sokucindezeleka udinga ukuhlola kokubili izindawo ezivivinywa futhi ezingavamile emzimbeni.
- Ungagijimi kumphumela.
Konke okuthinta kufanele kuqala kube kukhanya futhi kuhlanzekile. Masikufake njengenkathi enkulu. Futhi uma usabela kulezi zithinta kokuqala, ungazama okuthile okukhulu kakhulu. Vumela othandekayo wakho ukuba adlule ngendlela ejwayelekile ye-caresses yangaphambili - kodwa ngezinkambo ezithakazelisayo ezizungezile. Uyakunanga ehlombe, ngakho-ke ungakwazi ukugoba bese ubeka umgqomo wokukhohlisa ngaphansi kwezindebe zakho. Ubani owaziyo, ngokuzumayo uzosebenza? I-Orgasm ipholile kakhulu. Kodwa uma uvuma ukuthi ungasheshisi, uzothola ukuthi i-caresses enekhono iholela ekuvezweni okujabulisayo. Ungayeki ukucindezela komunye nomunye ngesikhathi sokusondelana. Mhlawumbe ukuzwa ukukhanya okumangalisayo kakhulu empilweni yakho, awunalo nje ukumanga ezindlebeni zakho ngesikhathi esifanele.
Ungafunda omunye nomunye uma nje uthanda. Ungaziqedi ngesikhathi. Bobabili bazama ukubonisa ukucabanga. Indlela yokudala izosiza ukwenza impilo ebuseduze igcwale futhi igcwele. Ngakho-ke, isibonelo, ukucinga kwezindawo ezilahlayo kungahle kube yinto yokuthakazelisa yothando. Okokuqala, zama ukusebenzisa amasu alandelayo ekusesheni izinkambu ezingaqondakali:
- Uphinda konke okuthinta nokuhamba komlingani wakho. Lokho-ke, othandekayo uthola kuwe okufanayo caresses akunika yona. Lona umdlalo owusizo ongavamile, ngoba ngaleyo ndlela umngane wakho akugcini nje ukukunika injabulo, kodwa futhi ngokuzithandela uyakunika zonke izimfihlo zomzimba zomzimba.
- Vumelana ngesikhathi sokuqala ukuthintana kuphela ngezindebe zakho, kodwa ngezindlela ezahlukene: ngobumnene, ngokuqinile, ngokuluma. Ngosuku olulandelayo, shintsha imithetho: manje izandla kuphela zihilelekile - futhi akukho kisses. Okwesithathu unelungelo lokukhathazana noma yini, kodwa hhayi iminwe yakho. Ucabanga ukuthi lokhu akunakwenzeka? Kodwa ake ucabange ukuthi ngobumnene ushaya kanjani isifuba sakho esiswini sakho. Imidlalo enjalo ayisizi nje ukuvuleka ohlangothini olungalindelekile, kodwa futhi ivuse izingxenye ezilahlayo ezilele.
Okumangalisa ukuthi, ungathola mayelana nezindawo zakho ezivame kakhulu eziphuthumayo ephusheni. Ngalesi sikhathi, i-subconscious iphakamisa isisombululo sezinkinga ebuchosheni ngendlela yamaphupho, ikakhulukazi - okuthandayo. Ngandlela-thile, amadoda angama-90% nabesifazane abangu-70% babona amaphupho ahlukumezayo. Kodwa ngokungafani nabameleli besifazane abakhulu bezocansi babanika ukubaluleka okukhulu. Nje ungaqondi isithombe esibukiwe ngokuqondile. Ngakho-ke, isibonelo, isimo sobulili nomuntu ongaziwayo asikakhulumi ngokuzidla kwakho ngokweqile. Kungenzeka ukuthi uzizwa unganeliseki ngokufihliwe nomlingani wakho - ephusheni ingqondo engenakuqhathaniswa iyayifaka esikhundleni somuntu ofanelekile. Ubusuku obuvunguvungu bokufutheka nomuntu owayengumthandi wangaphambili uthi nje uzama ukuqhathanisa ubuhlobo obudala neveli yakho entsha.
Njengoba ungabona, ukusesha izingxenye ezivamile futhi ezingenangqondo kakhulu kungaguqula umdlalo othandwayo othakazelisayo. Kuyinto ukuhlukahluka esivame ukuphuthelwa embhedeni nomlingani.