Amaphesenti angama-60 wabantu bethu abona ukuphazamiseka kwemizwa. Ukubhekana nokucindezeleka, khona-ke kuzokwenza imiphumela emihle, uma ungathola imbangela eyabangela ukuphazamiseka kwemizwa. Enhliziyweni yalezi zinhlupho kukhona ukwesaba esikuphethe ngaphakathi kwethu. Sesaba:
- ukugula kwabathandekayo babo nokugula kwabo,
- ukungabi nasizo, ukuguga,
- ukungabi namthetho, ukungaboni kahle kweziphathimandla,
- Ubumpofu,
- isizungu
Kodwa ezinye izizathu zingaba umthombo wokucindezeleka kuwe: umthengisi okhungetheyo, ukungena okufakiwe, ochotshozayo ekuthuthweni, amanani aphakeme, umholo omncane, i-despot boss, njalonjalo.
Awukwazi ukuqeda ngokuphelele izinkinga eziningi, kodwa unganciphisa umthelela wazo. Udinga nje ukufunda ukuphumula. Uma ufunda ukwenza lokhu, uzoqinisa impilo, futhi uzothola injabulo eyengeziwe ekuphileni. Uma unciphisa izinga lokucindezeleka lizosiza isimiso somzimba samasosha omzimba ukusebenza kahle futhi singanciphisa ingozi yezifo zenhliziyo.
Ngingakwazi kanjani ukuphumula?
Ukuze uphumule uzodinga imizuzu engu-5. Kudingekile ukuba uhlale kahle esihlalweni bese wenza lokhu okulandelayo:
1. Ukuphefumula kancane kancane. Lokhu kuzosiza inqubo yokuphumula. Hlanganisa amahlombe nezikhali zakho, ngakho-ke sizosusa ukungezwani okungadingekile.
2 . Siphumuza imisipha yomlomo nobuso.
3. Sizokuzama ukuphumula izidumbu zesisu nangemuva.
4. Sigubha izinyawo zethu futhi siphumule imilenze yethu.
Lezi zenzo zikuvumela ukuba uzizwe ukuqina kwamandla futhi unciphise ukungezwani okungadingekile. Ingqondo yakho nayo idinga ukuphumula. Kunzima ukuzuza ukuphumula emzimbeni, uma imicabango yakho isebenza ngokuxazulula izinkinga, umatasa ucabanga ngamasu. Uma uphumule kancane, kuzomele uzame futhi umise ukugeleza kwemicabango okukubuyisela ezinkingeni zamanje.
Cabanga ukuthi usendaweni oyithandayo oyintandokazi, ensimini noma ebhishi, bheka ubuso besilwane sakho. Ngomzuzwana, cabanga ukuthi ikuphi okuzungezile ngemisindo, iphunga, ukuthi le ndawo ibukeka kanjani. Zama ukubheka imizwa yakho futhi uthole injabulo kuyo, ukuthi uhlale kule ndawo, kude nokucindezeleka nokucindezeleka.
Isibonelo, ungakhumbula into enhle, okwenzekile kuwe namuhla:
- Wezwa izindaba ezinhle,
"Bagcina isithembiso sabo,
"Umuntu ugcine izithembiso zakhe kuwe,
"Umuntu othile wakuncoma,
- Ngikwazi ukusiza othile obuthakathaka kunani.
Uma umuntu ekwazi ukugxila emisebenzini emihle, lokhu kuyisivikelo esihle ngokucindezeleka ngokomzwelo, okungapheliyo. Nsuku zonke udinga ukuthola isizathu sokuhleka kancane.
Kufanele ngibhekane kanjani nokucindezeleka?
Uma ungazange uphathe ukugwema ukucindezeleka, ngabe ungaba njani? Azikho izindlela ezikhethekile zokwelapha nemithetho eguquguqukayo, futhi umuntu akakwazi ukugwema izikhathi ezithile ezivusa amadlingozi. Ngisho noma umphathi uphatha kabi, ungase ungabi nethuba lokuyeka nje. Kodwa kunezenzo ezithile nezindlela ezingalinganiswa nezimo ezicindezelayo.
Tshela othandekayo wakho ozwa ubuhlungu bakho kanye nokwakho, futhi uyakuthanda ngobuqotho. Uyoduduzwa yingxoxo nomuntu othandekayo, bese ubona ukuthi kwenzekani ngokukhanya okuhlukile, futhi mhlawumbe uzothola isisombululo esifanele.
Ungagxiliseki izinkinga zakho, kodwa mane nje ungenzi indlovu endizeni. Uma unenkinga manje, zibuze, yini lokhu okuzokwenza kuwe eminyakeni eyishumi?
Hlela ibhizinisi lakho ukuze ungasheshi njalo.
Abantu abakucasulayo, zama ukugwema noma nini lapho kungenzeka.
Kufanele uthole isikhathi sokuphumula. Uma ucabanga ukuthi awunaso isikhathi sokuphumula, udinga ukwazi ukuthi ngokuphumula nokukhulula ukucindezeleka kuphela, ungenza konke okudingayo, futhi ngokushesha kakhulu.
Yenza ukuzivocavoca umzimba, hamba ngezinyawo, ngakho konke lokhu kukunika injabulo. Umthwalo omkhulu womzimba uhle kakhulu ekunciphiseni ukucindezeleka.
Yidla ukudla okunempilo. Uma umuntu ecindezelekile, ukhohlwa ukudla, kepha-ke uyakhokha konke lokhu ngokudla okuthengwe ngomumo, amaswidi, ukudla okunamathisayo. Ukudla okunempilo, ukusetshenziswa kwenani elanele lezithelo, imifino, okusanhlamvu, i-pasta, irayisi, isinkwa se-rye, kusiza ukubhekana kangcono nokucindezeleka.
Ungakhathazeki ngalokho okungase kwenzeke kuwe esikhathini esizayo, ungacabangi ngezinto ezimbi ezenzeke kuwe ngaphambilini. Gxila kulokhu okwamanje. Uma wenza zonke izinto ezibalwe ngenhla, futhi akukho okukusebenzelayo, xhumana nochwepheshe.
Indlela yokuvimbela ukucindezeleka?
Kulula ukuvimbela noma iyiphi inkinga kunokubhekana nemiphumela yayo.
1. Ungenzi okungaphezu kweyodwa into ngesikhathi esisodwa.
2. Zama ukungadluli isikhathi somsebenzi. Hlela usuku ukuthi yini engenziwa ngaphandle kokuzizwa unqandekile futhi ungakhululekile ngokuhamba kwesikhathi.
3. Shayela ngesivinini esamukelekayo. Thula ngokuthi umgwaqo ugcwele ukuthutha.
4. Thatha kancane kancane emotweni.
5. Sebenzisa isikhathi esincane nsuku zonke ukuze usebenzise umzimba nokuphumula. Indlela ephelele yokuphumula, kuyoba nokuhamba okujwayelekile kusihlwa noma ekuseni.
6. Sebenzisa isikhathi nabangani nomndeni, noma ngabe kufanele uzinike isikhathi osisebenzisayo ekuzilibaziseni nasekusebenzeni.
7. Ukuze uthole umsebenzi, ungacabangi umsebenzi owengeziwe noma umthwalo wemfanelo. Cabanga kahle ngakho, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi ungakwenza ngaphandle kokunciphisa isikhathi sokuphumula.
8. Nomaphi lapho uya khona, gxila ebuhleni bakho, qaphela izimoto ezingavamile, ukwakha okuthakazelisayo, ukuphuma kwelanga noma ukushona kwelanga, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi kukhona amafu esibhakabhakeni njalo njalo.
9. Ungaphazanyisi uma umuntu enza okuthile kancane kunokuba ungathanda.
10. Ngaphambi kokubeka umsebenzi omusha, cabanga ukuthi udinga konke lokhu, futhi uma kunesidingo, kudingeka wenze lokhu masinyane, futhi mhlawumbe othile uzomane ebeke esikhundleni sakho.
11. Ungathola ukuthula kwesinye isikhathi sokuzilibazisa. Futhi abaningi benza kanjalo, othile ebopha isiphambano, othile udlala i-tennis. Awudingi ukuvula ukuzithokozisa kwakho emthonjeni weholo, thola injabulo emsebenzini wakho.
12. Uma kukhona ithuba emsebenzini, hlela imincintiswano engama-10 njalo.
13. Nsuku zonke, funa isizathu sokubonga abanye - abangane, amalungu omndeni, abasebenzi.
Umthelela wokucindezeleka kuxhomeke ekuphenduleni kwakho kulokho okukwenzekayo, kunokusukela kumcimbi ngokwawo. Asikho isidingo sokusebenzisa amandla ukushintsha isimo, kodwa ungashintsha ukusabela kulokho okwenzekayo.
Izindlela zokuqeda ukucindezeleka
Ukuphila kwanamuhla akunikezi amathuba amaningi okuphumula nokuphumula. Ukucindezeleka kwansuku zonke, isigqi esikhulu futhi esinamandla, kuthinta kakhulu isimiso sezinzwa. Wonke umuntu uthola izindlela zokususa umthelela omubi wokucindezeleka. Zama ukulandela lezi zeluleko ezilula, bese ukuphila kwakho kuyoba mnandi futhi kulula:
Ikhono lokuphefumula okujulile. Ukudambisa okungcono kunazo zonke ukuphuma nokujula okujulile. Ukuphefumula okujulile kuzokunika amandla futhi kwandise amandla akho. Lena indlela elula engadingi amadivayisi angeziwe, izindleko nesikhathi.
Yoga. Kuyindlela ephumelelayo yokubhekana nokucindezeleka. I-Yoga ihlanganisa uhlelo lokuzivocavoca umzimba kanye nohlelo lokuzindla. Futhi lolu hlelo olukhethekile luzokusiza uzizwe kangcono.
Ukucabanga. Uma udabukile futhi udabukile, ungacabangela izithombe ezinhle engqondweni yakho, khumbula izikhathi ezimnandi, futhi uzizwe ukuthi, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi, ukuphila kuhle futhi kumangalisa.
Umculo uyisisombululo esiqinisekisiwe sokuqhaqhazela nokuqhaqhazela. Khetha izintambo zakho ezizithandayo, okubangela ukuba ube nemizwa emihle. Dancing ekhaya. Ukunyakaza komculo kuzosiza ekunciphiseni ukucindezeleka. Ekhaya, ukudansa kubhekwa njengokuzijabulisa, akudingeki ukhathazeke ngokuthi uhambela kahle kangakanani, nokuthi ngabe ubheka isimiso.
Ukwelashwa okumnandi. Ochwepheshe abaningi baye baqinisekisa umphumela wamafutha anamakha ohlelweni lwezinzwa. Amafutha we-vanilla nezithelo ze-citrus abhekwa njengelusizo. Iphunga lihlobene nokukhumbula ngokomzwelo. Kuwusizo ukuba nephunga elinjalo, elizohlanganiswa nemizuzu enokuhlangenwe nakho okujabulisayo, injabulo, injabulo eqinile. Ukuphefumula ngokuvame kakhulu iphunga lakho, futhi kuzokusiza ukuba uhlale nomoya omuhle.
Izilwane ezifuywayo. Uthando nokuzinikela kwabo okuqotho ngeke kushiye noma ubani ongakhathaleli. Ngisho noma ubheka izinhlanzi ze-aquarium, kuzosiza ekunciphiseni ukucindezeleka.
Ukuqeqeshwa ngokomzimba. Uma wenza ukuzivocavoca okusebenzayo imizuzu engu-10 noma engu-15, bangakujabulela. Futhi kwenzeke ngoba emzimbeni olawulwa ukunyakaza okunamandla "amahomoni enjabulo" asethuthukiswa bese umzabalazo wokucindezeleka uqala.
Iziphuzo eziphuzayo. Ikomishi yeshokoledi eshisayo, itiye, ikhofi ivuselela amandla akho angaphakathi emzimbeni.
Kanjani ukususa ukucindezeleka ngokushesha?
I-hairbrush. Uma usuku lonke olusebenzayo lusetshenziswe phambi kweqapha, imisipha yomzimba ikhula kakhulu, ikhanda liqala ukuphumula, futhi liba lindlala kakhulu. Enye indlela yokugwema ukucindezeleka, kudingeka uhlanganise izinwele zakho imizuzu engu-10 noma engu-15. Le nqubo izosiza ukuphumula imisipha futhi "isakaze" igazi
Yidla i-ayisikhilimu . Ukudla okumnandi kuyisisombululo esihle kakhulu sokucindezeleka. Kuyasiza ukugcina imizwa emihle, futhi izinhlanzi ezinamafutha ziyasiza ekunciphiseni ukucindezeleka, ngoba iqukethe ama-acidi omega-3, ayasiza ohlelweni lwezinzwa. Kodwa, uma ungathandi izinhlanzi, bese udla ibhanana noma i-ayisikhilimu. Imikhiqizo enjalo ayenzi lutho olubi nakakhulu kunama-anti-depressants. Futhi ziqukethe into efana ne-tryptophan, okuyi-tranquilizer yemvelo yemvelo.
Ukushisa. Ukucindezeleka nokungqubuzana akukuvumeli ukuba ugxile emsebenzini wakho. Ukuze ulondoloze amandla, gcoba amaphuzu asendaweni yesundu, ngaphansi komlomo ophansi, phakathi kwamashiya, ngaphansi kwempuphu imizuzwana engu-30.
Gubha izandla zakho. Lena indlela elula yokugwema ukucindezeleka nokukhulula ukuphazamiseka kwemizwa. Udinga ukugubha izintende zakho ngomunye nomunye ukuze zishise. Ngalesi sikhathi, wonke amaphuzu okugcizelela okwakhiwa kuwo isundu, futhi le ndlela isebenza kahle kakhulu. Zama ukugaya izindlebe zakho bese ungagxila emsebenzini futhi ungajabula.
Geza ukucindezeleka nokuxabana. Ngesimo esibi ngokomzwelo, ishaja lesigidi esingu-15 sizosiza. Kubalulekile ukuma ngaphansi kwemifudlana efudumele yamanzi, ukuze bahlaziye amahlombe abo kanye nekhanda. Khona-ke uzozwa ukuthi amanzi asusa konke okungadingekile.
Njengoba imikhuba yaseMpumalanga ifundisa, uma ufuna ukususa ukudabuka, thatha futhi uhambise izinto ezingu-27 endlini. Ngakho, amandla akhululwa amandla, bese amandla angenelela ngendlela efanele. Uma uzama le ndlela, uzokwazi ukuqinisekisa ukuthi kusiza ubuchopho ukuba buphumule futhi buphazamise izinkinga.
Izitebhisi. Njengoba odokotela baseBrithani bathola ukuthi ukuhamba ngezinyathelo, kungaqinisa izinga le-cortisol - i-hormone yokucindezeleka. Hlela umzuzwana wamaminithi angu-30 ukukhuphuka phansi, lokhu kuzokwandisa ukugeleza komoya okwenziwe ebuchosheni, obhekene nokuphatha ukucindezeleka. Khona-ke ungathatha isimo sakho sengqondo ngaphansi kokulawula futhi kanjalo unciphise ukucindezeleka.
Ukuhlanza. Uma umuntu ebeka izinto ezindaweni, kusiza ukugxila, ukuhleleka kwemicabango. Ukubukeka kahle kwezidwebe, amashalofu, kunika umphumela wengqondo - inhlangano kanye nokuhleleka kwangaphandle futhi umuntu ngokungazi lutho uyadlulisela ekuphileni kwabo.
Umzuzu wokucabanga. Ukuze uhlele imicabango yakho, udinga ukuthola ithuba futhi uhlale wedwa ekhaya. Vula umculo, uthole ukwelashwa kusuka efrijini, uzinze esihlalweni sakho ozithandayo. Hlaziya futhi uzizwe injabulo yomkhathi omuhle, umculo omuhle, injabulo evela ekudleni okumnandi. Cabanga ngalokho ongathanda kakhulu, bese ubhala isifiso sakho ephepheni. Ukuba necebo elicacile, lokhu kuzokusiza ukunquma ngezinyathelo ezengeziwe.
Ukwazi lezi zindlela ezitholakalayo zokubhekana nokucindezeleka, ungayithatha ngaphansi kokulawula, ngoba wonke la mathuluzi alula atholakala angasetshenziswa ekusebenzeni. Ngakho-ke, kuzosiza ukuba uhlale unomumo, futhi kuzokukusindisa ezifweni eziningi.