Ngokuvamile, owesifazane onenkinga ngempilo yenkinga yesifazane ufuna ukuba nezingane, kodwa uyesaba ukuqala ukwelashwa, njengoba kungaba buhlungu futhi kubiza, ngakho uyashiya njengoba kunjalo. Ngokufanayo, ezimweni eziningi, inkinga enkulu yokugula ayikho esimeni somzimba, kodwa emkhakheni we-psyche. Yingakho abesifazane abaningi abasaba usizo kodokotela, bangaphuluki ekupheleni, ngoba ukumba ngokujulile abanamandla anganako noma isifiso. Kodwa ngeze. Ngempela, okokuqala, lapho uphatha ukwelashwa, udinga ukucela usizo ezivela kwengqondo, udinga ukuzethemba futhi ungagxila ezinkingeni, ulungele okuthile okusha, owesifazane onamandla emoyeni futhi onesibindi angakwazi ukubeletha ingane ngaphandle kokwesaba izinkinga impilo yakhe nempilo yesikhathi esizayo isizukulwane.
Asisho ukuthi ngosizo lomqondo wezokwelapha ungabuyiselwa ngokugcwele ukuthi kungenzeka ukuzala, udinga ukwelashwa nomzimba wezifo zogciwane. Ukubambisana okuhlangene kuphela kulezi zindawo ezimbili kuzokusiza ukuba ululame. Kulula nje, ungakhohlwa ukuthi akufanele uthembele kuphela emithini nasezinkambisweni zezokwelapha. Kumele kukhunjulwe ukuthi izindlela zokwengqondo zokunakekelwa kwengane ngeke zikusize ngesikhathi esifushane ukuzwa amandla okubeletha ingane futhi ube ngabazali bakhe abahle . Ngaphezu kwalokho, ungakhohlwa ukuthi ngokubonisana nomuntu wezokwelapha udinga ukuba khona komama ongomuso kuphela, kodwa futhi nesigamu sakhe sesibili.
Esikhathini sesikhathi, amathuba amasha azokuvulela, udinga ukusiza ukuvula uhlelo lokubeletha, okuyinto nganoma yisiphi isizathu esingenakusetshenziswa, futhi ngaphandle kwenkululeko yaso ephelele, akunakwenzeka ukuba uqiniseke ngokuphelele ngesifiso sokuzala futhi ukhule ingane.
Kumele uqaphele futhi ukuthi izinkinga eziningi ezingokwengqondo zokungabi nabantwana zitholakala emadodeni, njengokuba baba ubaba kunzima kakhulu, hhayi wonke umuntu olungele ukuthatha umthwalo wokuphila.
Into eyinhloko akufanele idangele, cishe amaphesenti angama-70 emibhangqwana ebhekana nezinkinga zokungenwa kwesifo futhi abanomntwana osalinde isikhathi eside. Unganaki, nakuba kwakungeyona indlela yokwelashwa, kodwa usizo lwezingqondo kufanele lufakwe kwenye yezinhlelo zokuqala.