Izinkimbinkimbi kulo, kodwa wena uhlupheka ngenxa yabo ngesizathu esithile wena? Yebo. Kodwa ungaphelelwa ithemba - kukhona indlela yokuphuma! Into esemqoka akuyona ukuvumelanisa nalesi simo! Wena kuphela ongasiza indoda yakho ukuba inqobe ukwesaba kwayo. Ngakho-ke, umbuzo oyinhloko kuze kube yimanje: izinkimbinkimbi zamadoda ezingu-10 nendlela yokubhekana nabesifazane abanabo. Xoxani?
UKUPHILA 1. Ngingu-SEC ETER.
Uyazi kanjani? Uyakubona wonke kusihlwa, engazifihli ukuhlonipha kwakhe, kepha wesaba ukuthatha isinyathelo sokuqala. Futhi kungakhathaliseki ukuthi ubheka kanjani ingqondo, kulula ukuba angazi kangako nawe, kodwa lowo othi "igundane elimpunga" livame ukufika.
Yini okufanele ngiyenze? Izazi zengqondo zichaza ukuthi ngokushesha nje lapho indoda ibona owesifazane omuhle phambi kwakhe, umcabango ufika kuye ngokushesha: "Ubuhle obunjalo abukwazi ukuba yedwa." Ukuhlakulela kuye, uyaziqinisekisa ukuthi lo wesifazane kakade unomngane wakhe. Ngisho noma ekwazi ukujwayelana naye futhi enze noma yikuphi ubudlelwane, khona-ke kuyomelwe ahlale elwa naye esikhathini esizayo, ngoba kuzungeze kube khona izixuku zamadoda "ase-kuchkavatsya" ... Ungavumeli ukucabanga kwakhe kuhambe kakhulu, uthathe isinyathelo ngokwabo. "Ngokuqinisekile uzobonga isithakazelo sakho kuwe futhi uzokwazi ukuqonda ukuthi ungumuntu onokuxhumana naye kalula", kusho ochwepheshe bezengqondo.
UKUPHELEKILE 2. NginguBAD LOVER.
Uyazi kanjani? Uma eselele embhedeni, uqala ukuxolisa ngalokho akakaze akwenze, futhi yonke imizuzwana engu-30 ukubuza ukuthi wenza konke okulungile - ubonisa ukunakekelwa ngokweqile kuwe, noma ubhekene nenkinga yomthandi omubi. Ukuveza izinkinga ngokuzihlonipha kungaba nesifiso sakhe sokuncintisana nomuntu ngaso sonke isikhathi. Ingabe umngane wakho ufuna ukufaniswa nawe? Ufuna ukwazi ukuthi bangaki abathandekayo phambi kwakhe, ngubani kubo ongabe engcono kakhulu futhi ngani? "Ungamangali uma, emva kwezindaba zakho ezizwakalayo, usho ukuthi abathandi bakho abaningi (ngisho noma ukhulume ngamabili kuphela) basonakele kakhulu. Ukuthi manje angeke akuthembe ngokugcwele wena, ngakho-ke, ukukhululeka ngokuphelele enkampanini yakho, "uxwayise izifo zobulili.
Yini okufanele ngiyenze? Konke okudingayo ukukhetha amagama afanele. Zama ukumtshela ukuthi nguye oyedwa futhi oyedwa, ukuthi ushiye ezakho zangaphambilini ngoba 'akazange' amelane nhlangothi zonke kuye. Zama ukumsiza ukuthi akhululeke, kodwa ungathathwa. Ngemuva kwalokho, ukusho ukuthi konke kwakumangalisa, futhi ukuqamba amanga akuyona into efanayo.
UKUPHELELE 3. Ngizokopela.
Uyazi kanjani? Ingabe uchitha isikhathi esiningi ndawonye, futhi akazange akhonze ngisho nawe? Ungathanda ukuhamba naye kuze kube sekuseni, ubambe izandla, kodwa akabonisi noma yisiphi isinyathelo? Ingabe ufuna ukunamathela ehlombe lakhe, kodwa uyasusa ngokushesha? Yiqiniso, umuntu angavuma ukungathandabuzi ngesimo sakhe sokuziphatha ngokocansi, uma engaphendulanga njalo ngezintombi zakhe zangaphambili. Noma, ngokunembile, mayelana nokuthi bonke bawaphonsa ngonya kanjani. Uzama ukuzakhela umsikhiliki, ohlakaniphile ngolwazi, ulungele ukukhuluma ngamahora mayelana nokubhujiswa kwayo yonke ubudlelwane.
Yini okufanele ngiyenze? Okokuqala, kufanele kuqashelwe ukuthi amadoda anjalo ajwayelekile, ngoba iningi lawo lizingeli ngokwemvelo. Benza konke okusemandleni ukuze kuqinisekiswe ukuthi isakhiwo esiyinkimbinkimbi "sokuphila okukhohlisiwe" kaningi ngangokunokwenzeka kubonakala kwabesifazane. Okwesibili, ngokushaywa indiva - leli yigama lenkimbinkimbi - ungakwazi futhi kufanele ulwe. Lapha, amaqhinga wokulinda adingekayo. Akufanele ube masinyane ukwakha ubuhlobo, ngoba uyesaba kakhulu ukuthi ngokushesha nje lapho ethembele, uzoyisebenzisa ngokushesha ngezinhloso zobugovu. Uma uthatha isinyathelo kuqala ezandleni zakho, ufuna ukuqala ubuhlobo, bese ukuwaphula, okungukuthi, ukuwuphonsa, ngeke kube nzima kuwe. Masiqonde ukuthi ulindele isinyathelo sokuqala kuye. Yiba njengokungathi uqobo futhi uqotho ngangokunokwenzeka. Yilokho kanye engalindele kuwe. Zonke izikimiso zakhe ezijwayelekile zizowela - futhi uzoshintsha ukuze kube ngcono.
UKUPHAKATHI 4. Angikwazi ukulungiswa.
Uyazi kanjani? Uhlala ekhaya esekhathele, ngisho noma ehhovisi lonke usuku lonke uhamba esuka emafolda ezindaweni ngezindawo. Noma ukulungele isikhathi sekhulu ukulalela indaba yakho mayelana nezicathulo ozilinganise esitolo esibhekene nazo, kepha ungalokothi ukhulume ngezinkinga zabo siqu.
Yini okufanele ngiyenze? Kubaluleke kakhulu ukuba umuntu azibonele emsebenzini. Kodwa ngisho noma enza iphutha ekukhetheni umsebenzi, lokhu akusho ukuthi uhloselwe ukuhlupheka kulokhu okuyinkimbinkimbi impilo yakhe yonke. Zama ukuqala ingxoxo ngalokho ayekuthanda ebuntwaneni. Phela, izingane zivame ukuthanda lokho abakwenzayo kangcono. Uma ethanda ukwenza amaplanethi, mtshele sengathi ngengozi ngeqembu lesifunda labalingisi bezindiza. Wahamba yonke indawo ngeZenith endala futhi waqopha konke? Khona-ke kufanele umemele embukisweni wesithombe bese wenza isipho - ikhamera entsha. Futhi lapho, ekugcineni, uyobe okungenani abe nokuzilibazisa okulodwa, ngisho noma engaxhunyiwe nomsebenzi, kodwa okuyokwenza ukuthi ajabule, ibhizinisi lakhe ehhovisi lizohamba kahle.
I-COMPLEX 5. "PAPIK".
Uyazi kanjani? Ngokujwayelekile indoda ingaziqhenya ngempela ukuthi "esitokisini" sayo kukhona inkosikazi encane, noma esaba ukuthi ubuhle bayo maduze buzothola omncane othandekayo. Ngaphansi kokhetho lwesibili, angathanda ukubona ukuthi bambalwa abantu abazinikele ebuhlotsheni bakho ngangokunokwenzeka. Ikakhulukazi uma kuziwa nokubonakala okuhlangene nawe - kungazelelwe wonke umuntu uzocabanga ukuthi ungumzukulu wakhe?
Yini okufanele ngiyenze? Akudingekile ukuhudula endaweni lapho kungenzeka khona ukumbonisa njengomkhulu. Zama ukumkhumbuza kaningi ukuthi akekho oontanga angakunika lokho akunikezayo. Ngempela, uyathandeka kakhulu naye? Lapha kulokhu futhi kufanele wenze iphutha.
UKUPHELEKILE 6. ANGIKHULU.
Uyazi kanjani? Awudingi ukuqonda ukuthi unalo ngempela lobunzima - uyinto yonke, futhi kuhlanganise nawe. Udinga nje ukunquma ukuthi umlingani wakho unzima kangakanani futhi ukuthi yini engamvumeli ukuba aphile ngokuthula. Into ewukuphela kwamaphesenti ayishumi e-complex inferiority ngumhawu.
Yini okufanele ngiyenze? Uma icala lakhe lingahlala lingakapheli, into ebaluleke kakhulu akuyona ukugxila kulokho okubangele ukuphepha kwakhe. Isibonelo, kungaba ukukhula okuncane, isisu sebhiya, ikhanda le-bald, njll Khuluma kabanzi mayelana nokufaneleka kwayo. Emva kwakho konke, uma unenkinga ngokuvumelana kwemilenze yakho, ngakho-ke kungakhathaliseki ukuthi ukhuluma kangako ukuthi zihle, ngeke zibe mncane kuwe. Ngakho-ke, uma emfushane, dumisa ingqondo yakhe nokuhlekisa; uma enamabala - ikhono lokudlala shihmata elihle kakhulu, njll. Ezimweni ezingenakiwe, umuntu ongahlanganiswa ngokugcwele uzama ukukhokhela izinkinga zakhe ngokuhlazisa labo abazungezile. Uma kungazelelwe waqala ukuzwa ukuthi uzama ukukuqoqa, kufanele ucabange: ubuhlobo naye abuchithe ngokufanele umzamo. Uma kunjalo, khona-ke usizo lokuxazulula le nkinga kubalulekile ukuphendukela kochwepheshe ukuze uthole usizo.
UKUPHAKATHI 7. Ngiyinto engcono kakhulu.
Uyazi kanjani? Kubonakala sengathi uma ekhona kukho konke futhi njalo efuna ukuba yinto engcono kakhulu, ingabe lokho kubi? Yiqiniso, lokhu kuhle, kodwa kukho konke okudingayo ukwazi isilinganiso. Kumele uqaphele ukuthi yini ngempela intengo eyinika ubuholi obungunaphakade. Uma, isibonelo, wathembisa ukwenza okuthile kuwe, kodwa ngenxa yezizathu ezehlukene azange akwazi, khona-ke bekuzomdla ngaphakathi ngaphakathi kuze kube yilapho ekugcineni angagcwalisa isithembiso. Ngisho noma wazi kahle ukuthi ungakwenza kalula ngaphandle kwalo.
Yini okufanele ngiyenze? Kubaluleke kakhulu ukuvumela umuntu aqonde ukuthi uyamthanda. Thanda ngendlela. Futhi leyo asterisk encane evela esibhakabhakeni izokukwanela. Ngakho uma, isibonelo, ehlobo akakwazi ukuhamba nawe eholidini kuya eziqhingini zaseHawaiian, zama ukunikela: "Dancing, kuthiwani uma sichitha leli holide e-dacha yakho?" Yebo, uzomangala, kodwa uzokutshela "Ngiyabonga." Futhi zonke izenzo zakhe ezengeziwe ziyobekwa kuphela ngomzwelo wokubonga ngoba uyamthanda. Ungathandi kuphela futhi hhayi kakhulu izipho ezibizayo njalo.
UKUPHAKATHI 8. Nginemali enhle.
Uyazi kanjani? Yena, ekhanda lakhe, egijima ezitolo zokudlela ezibizayo, ugweme ukukhuluma ngezinkinga zemali, ubiza abantu abaningi noma abancinci abaphethe ama-bandits futhi uthi i-suit yezinkulungwane zamaRandi izozithengwa kuphela yi-madman. Enye indlela ingenzeka - okuphambene: naye, indoda yenza lokho, okusho ukuthi kuyoba kuhle kanjani ukuhlala eRublevka, ugibele i-limousine, futhi ugqoke izingubo okungenani kuRalph Lauren.
Yini okufanele ngiyenze? Kuzo zombili lezi zimo, indoda yakho inenkinga ngokubeka izinto eziza kuqala. Umsebenzi wakho oyinhloko ukukhuluma ngangokunokwenzeka mayelana nezinzuzo ezingezona izinto, kepha ngokomoya. Wena, cishe, ngeke ulandele izibonelo ezimbili noma ezimbili ukuze uzame futhi aphinde ahlole kabusha izindinganiso zakhe. Zama ukuhamba naye e-cafe elula, lapho ethule futhi ehlelekile futhi ungakhuluma ngenhliziyo ngenhliziyo. Ungaya embukisweni, obonisa omunye umculi ofake imfashini ongenayo imali yokungena. Noma ukuya ekhonsathini yeqembu elithakazelisayo kodwa elingahlongozwa kahle elisebenza emaqenjini mahhala. Uzobona, uzoyeka ukukhathazeka ngemali, ngokushesha nje lapho ebona ukuthi konke kuyabiza, akusilo kuhle. Ukuthi uyamthanda, futhi uthando lwakho aluxhomeki emalini yemali etholakalayo noma izipho. Futhi ukuthi ubaluleke kakhulu kunokwakhe.
OKUQHELEKILE 9. Angihambisani nayo.
Uyazi kanjani? Isibonelo esinjalo: uvela eMoscow - uyisifundazwe, uthola imali enhle kakhulu - uyasindisa yonke imali, ophumelele eMoscow State University ene-diploma ebomvu - waxoshwa kwezobunjiniyela ngonyaka wokuqala. Kungenzeka ukuthi indoda yakho inokuzihlonipha okuvamile. Yebo, yebo, nazo zonke iziphambeko zalo ezicacile nalokhu - akukho lutho oluqhathaniswa nokufaneleka. Konke okusemhlabeni kunciphisa ukulinganisela. Futhi uma unezinto ezaneleyo ezingenalo kuye, unokuthile okufundisana ukuze ajabulele ukulinganisela ebuhlotsheni. Futhi iqiniso lokuthi uvela "ezinkundleni zebhola lezinyawo" ezahlukene - alikho okubaluleke kakhulu. Izinto ziyinkimbinkimbi uma umuntu wakho engapheli nge-foam emlonyeni kufakazela ukuthi kulula kumaMuscovite asekuhlaleni ukuba aphile kalula, ukuthi konke kulula kumadodana kaPapa, ukuthi ungathenga idiploma yanoma yiyunivesithi, futhi ngeke uthole imali enkulu ngezindlela ezithembekile. Kodwa ngisho nakho konke lokhu ungabhekana nakho.
Yini okufanele ngiyenze? Kuyiphutha ukumtshela ngokuqondile ukuthi isimo sakhe sengqondo nokuziphatha kwakhe kuphazamisa izinkinga zakhe zangaphakathi, noma ngabe kuyini. Uma ungumuntu ohlukile emphakathini - zama nje ukungaqapheli izinto ezincane ezikuhlukanisa. Udinga ukuthola izithakazelo ezivamile, ukuthathwa ngento eyodwa, ngokuvamile ukuthi "thina". Bese-ke bobabili uzoba munye. Futhi uzoyeka ukucabanga, ekugcineni, ukuthi awuyena umngane komunye nomunye.
UKUPHAKATHI 10. Nginesizathu sokuthi uneminyaka engama-20 ubudala.
Uyazi kanjani? Ekuphileni, wonke umuntu uhlangabezana nezinkinga ezimbili ezihlobene nobudala: owokuqala - eneminyaka engamashumi amathathu, owesibili - uma engaba ngamashumi amane namashumi amane nanhlanu. Iyokuqala yisikhathi sokuqhathaniswa kokuqala, lapho umuntu ehlola lokho akufezile nokuthi yini okumele yenziwe. Owesibili kubangelwa isifiso sokusebenza ngamaphutha adlule: ushintshe imisebenzi, futhi ngokuvamile abantu abazungezile.
Yini okufanele ngiyenze? Ngenketho yokuqala ekugqibeleni kwakho, ukuphazanyiswa kwayo yonke ubudlelwane, noma isipho sokushada. Okwesithathu okwesibini - zama ukudweba emqondweni wakhe izithombe zemvula zobomi bomndeni wakho. Inkinga yeminyaka engamashumi amane indoda isinda kunzima kakhulu. Lapha into enengqondo kakhulu ukubekezela futhi uzame ukuba ngowokuqala futhi ebaluleke kakhulu umngane omuhle.
Ukutholwa kokugcina.
- Amantombazane angu-75% ahlushwa yizinkinga zamadoda abo.
- Amaphesenti angu-50 azama ukulwa nabesilisa.
- Amaphesenti angu-13 akholelwa ukuthi abantu babo abasha banomthandi wezibi ezimbi.
- 28% bakholelwa ukuthi umuntu uyaphila, ekholelwa ukuthi akahambisani naye.
- Amaphesenti angu-50 aqiniseke ukuthi ayikho namadoda ngaphandle kwama-complexes futhi, ngokuyisisekelo, angeke abe khona. Futhi ukulwa nomuntu wesilisa kungukuchitha isikhathi namandla.
- Amaphesenti angu-27 azama ukubhekana nezinkimbinkimbi zamadoda, kodwa, ngeshwa, umphumela awutholakalanga.
- Amantombazane angu-23% athi angakwazi ukukholisa amadoda abo ukuthi izakhiwo zabo azifanelekile.