Kungani sikhethe lesi sihloko esiyinkimbinkimbi ukucubungula nokuhlaziywa: izinkinga zomphakathi nezengqondo zomndeni onesidakwa? Ngenxa yezizathu zokuphuza utshwala akuthinti nje kuphela umuntu ogulayo, kodwa futhi nakakhulu emndenini, ngakho manje utshwala lubhekwa njengesifo somndeni. Ukuze ufinyelele iziphetho, futhi kungcono ukuthola konke mayelana nesifo, cabangela izinto ezifana nomqondo wesifo uqobo, izimbangela zalokho okubangelwa khona, imiphumela yomuntu ngamunye kanye nomndeni wonke.
Ukuphuza utshwala yisifo lapho umuntu ehlukumeza khona utshwala, futhi ngesikhathi esifanayo uye wathola imiphumela eminingana, kokubili kwezinto eziphilayo nezengqondo. Esikhathini esidlule, lapho utshwala bevela emasikweni asendulo, kwakusetshenziselwa ukuqhuba imikhosi yasendulo ngokuyisimangaliso, ngenkathi usebenzisa iziphuzo ezidakayo. Khona-ke lesi sifo saqala ukukhula, lapho kuvela ukuxhumana okunjalo komphakathi njengesibhedlela, futhi abantu baqala ukugwema izinkinga zansuku zonke. Kuze kube yilolu suku, inkinga yokudakwa ngokweqile idlondlobala, mhlawumbe lesi yisikhali esizibulala thina abantu bethu ngaphakathi.
Njengesizathu esiyinhloko sokudakwa ngokweqile, abaningi baphakamisa isenzo esiphuthumayo esenzeka ngemva kokuphuza utshwala. Phela, ngokulinganisa okubuthakathaka, kusiza ukuphumula, ujabule, ube namandla, kunqobe ubunzima obungokwengqondo. Ngaphezu kwalokho, izimbangela zokudakwa ngokweqile zingahlukaniswa ngamaqembu amabili: izici ezithinta ukutholakala kokudakwa ngokweqile nokuthuthukiswa komuntu ngamunye, kanye nezizathu ezenza kube nentuthuko emphakathini.
Phakathi kwezimbangela eziyinhloko zokuvela kokudakwa ngokweqile njengesifo, kuzoba khona: ukuhlalisana kwemvelo (izimo zezenhlalakahle kanye nesimo sengqondo sabantu), kwengqondo, njengombonakaliso wokungabikho komuntu ngamunye, ukuthuthukiswa kokuziphatha kwayo kanye nezinkinga zangaphakathi ngokuphathelene naso. Izimbangela ze-genetic zikhomba ukuthi zikhona izifo, ngenxa yokuthi ukuphuza ngokweqile kuyisifo esiyifa. Futhi wabelane ngezimbangela eziningi zezinto eziphilayo, ezihlanganisa isidingo somuntu sezinto ezifanele, ukuxhomekeka kwazo kuzo, njll.
Esinye sezizathu nazo zidakamizwa emphakathini wanamuhla, ukuphuza utshwala ezimweni eziningi kubonakala sengathi kukhona into efanele, engenayo imiphumela ebalulekile. Abantu baqhubeka bejwayele lokhu, isikhathi sokudakwa ngokweqile sinciphisa, ngokuhamba kwesikhathi sibona ukuthi utshwala lungenzeka ... izingane. Ingabe sifuna ikusasa elinjalo? Lesi sifo ngokwawo asikona nje kuphela kwengqondo kodwa sinokuthembela kwezinto eziphilayo, izidakamizwa, kanye nesici sokungabikho kokuxhumana okungavamile. Utshwala, ezimweni eziningi, ngumuntu oziphendulela ngobugovu empeleni, ephuza, eguqula iqiniso labo kanye nabathandekayo bakhe, eyanelisa izidingo zakhe, naphezu kwezicelo zabanye.
Ukuphuza utshwala kuhilela imiphumela eminingi emibi yemvelo ehlukile, kokubili kwezinto eziphilayo kanye nezenhlalo, kwengqondo. Ngaphezu kwalokho, umonakalo udlulela kwinani elikhulu labantu, ngoba utshwala ludala izinkinga hhayi yena kuphela, kodwa nabantwana bakhe esizayo, umndeni kanye nemvelo ayenayo manje, futhi nezwe lakhe. Lowo kuphela ozuzwa ekudakwa ngokweqile ngumkhiqizi wakhe, ngoba kuyaziwa ukuthi ukukhiqiza utshwala ibhizinisi elihle kakhulu.
Uma sigxila izimbangela zenhlalo nezengqondo zokubangela utshwala, imiphumela yabo izogcinwa ngaphakathi kwala maqembu amabili. Ngokuvamile, kuyisuchungechunge sezengqondo, ezenhlalakahle, ezempilo nezomthetho. Ngokusebenzisa utshwala, ubugebengu buyanda, futhi isici saso esobala siyisiqondiso somuntu siqu. Ukuphuza utshwala ngokwayo kuyingxenye yesithathu ngezimbangela zokufa, kubhubhisa umzimba, isimiso sezinzwa; umonakalo ongokwengqondo wokudakwa ngokweqile kunzima kakhulu. Imiphumela izoba ukulahlekelwa kwezomnotho ekudakwa ngokweqile, ukwehla esikhathini sokuphila, ukwehla kwamakhono okusebenza namakhono ahlukahlukene, ukwanda kwezindleko zokunakekelwa kwempilo, ukwanda kobugebengu, ukwephulwa kobudlelwano nabanye, ukungqubuzana.
Izinkinga zomphakathi nezengqondo zomndeni onesidakwa zizoba zibaluleke kakhulu. Ukuphuza utshwala kuholela ekuhlukaniseni, ukungqubuzana, ukungaboni kahle komndeni, ukuhlukumeza ubudlelwane, ukucindezeleka, izinzwa, ukungahleleki kwamalungu omndeni ophuza utshwala. Kuyini ukuxhomekelelana kwamalungu omndeni, phakathi kwabo okudakayo? Ukuzihlonipha okuphansi, ukuphika izinkinga zomuntu siqu, ukulahlekelwa kokulawula impilo yomguli, nokwakhe. Ukuphuza utshwala kubhubhisa impilo nemindeni yengane yakho, uma ufinyelela eminyakeni engama-65-80 yamadodana akho iba izidakamizwa noma izidakamizwa. Kumantombazane, isilinganiso sincane, kodwa sithonywa kakhulu emphakathini. Ezinganeni, ukuphuza ngokweqile kwabazali kubuhlungu kakhulu futhi kungabangela ukuphazamiseka kwengqondo, okungcono kakhulu - ekucindezelekeni okuqhubekayo nasezintweni zokuzizwa. Izidakamizwa ngokwabo zivame ukubhekana nokucindezeleka, ngaphezu kwalokho, ziningi amathuba okuthola izifo ezibangelwa ukucindezeleka kwengqondo.
Zizinakekele wena nomndeni wakho, ungazitholi ithonya lokuphuza utshwala futhi usize abanye abaseduze nawe. Mhlawumbe esikhathini esizayo, ngomzamo ohlangene, sizokwazi ukunqoba le nkinga.