Ngokwezibalo, cishe ingxenye yesine yabesifazane abaneminyaka engama-30 kuya ku-35 ubudala bayenqaba ngokushada umshado nobuhlobo besikhathi eside. Akubaluleke kakhulu ukuthi yini eyabangela ukuba benze isinqumo esinjalo, isipiliyoni esidlulile sangaphambili, ukwesaba ukusondelana noma ukusesha okuqhubekayo komlingani ongekho omuhle, kodwa bathi: "Ngikhetha ukuhlala yedwa!" Kufanelekile ukwengeza: kulesi sigaba sokuphila.
Izizathu ezingu-7 zokuba yedwa
Kusho ukuthini ukuba yedwa? Ake sihlole amathuba ukuthi isikhathi sokuphila sisinikeza ngaphandle komlingani. Yini ongayenza ngesikhathi?
Yazi omunye nomunye
Izazi zengqondo ziqinisekile: ukuphila "ngaphandle kombhangqwana" kuqala futhi kunomhlangano nomuntu "Mina". Ukuba nesizungu kuyisisetshenziswa esikhulu sokuzazi nokwazi ukuzithuthukisa. Ukuba yedwa komunye nomunye, kulula ukuzwa lokho kungaphakathi, okuvame ukungena ngamagama abantu abangabazi nje kuphela, kodwa futhi nabantu abaseduze kakhulu. Singabantu ababili futhi ukukhulumisana yisici esibaluleke kakhulu sokuthuthukiswa. Kodwa isizungu kuyithuba lokuthola ithuba elijabulisayo lokukhuluma nawe. Ikakhulu uma uziphatha ngothando nangentshisekelo.
Ukuze ujabule "kokungavumeli"
Abesifazane abashadile bavame ukuzivumelanisa isikhathi esifushane senjabulo. Awukwazi ukuthenga izicathulo ezintsha, ngoba isabelomali sigwetshiwe, asikho isikhathi sokulala ngaso sonke isikhathi embhedeni, ngoba umndeni ulindele ukudla kwasekuseni. Ngokuhlangana ukuhlangana nabangani ngesitayela se-Sex ne-City, udinga ukuya eseceleni somamazala wakho. Futhi njalo njalo, njalonjalo. Ngezinye izikhathi umbuthano wemisebenzi usuvele usuqede umcabango odabukisayo: kungani ngiphila kanje uma ngingesiyena inkosikazi yami? Abesifazane abazimele bazinakekela futhi bahlele izinjabulo zabo ngaphandle kokungabaza.
Jabulela insimu yakho siqu
Kuzo zonke izinzwa. Abantu abahlala isikhathi eside ebuhlotsheni bavame ukukhononda ngokuntuleka kwe "isikhala somuntu siqu", futhi owesifazane oyedwa uyakuthanda futhi uyakwazisa "isidleke" sakhe nesisekelo sakhe. Ngokuvamile, ejwayele ukuzimela, i-duma ngumlingani ofanelekayo kumuntu ovuthiwe, ngoba uyaqonda ukubaluleka kwemikhuba nemingcele esevele ikhona kubantu abadala.
Yakha umbuthano womphakathi
Kanye nomlingani ohlala njalo empilweni yowesifazane uza abangane bakhe, izihlobo, futhi ngezinye izikhathi izingane. Futhi yedwa, unethuba elihle kakhulu lokukhetha, obani nokuthi yikuphi ukude ekukhulumisaneni, kungakanani amandla okutshala ubungane nobani okufanele alindele impendulo. Futhi, endleleni, kungase kube nesikhathi esanele sokuxhumana, ngoba ukwakha ubudlelwano obubambene kuthatha amandla amaningi namandla.
Qala ubudlelwane obusha
Ukuphila komuntu wesifazane owazi ngokukhetha indlela yokuphila ngaphandle komlingani ohlala njalo angathuthuka ngezindlela ezahlukene. Mhlawumbe u-heroine wethu uyathandana, kungenzeka ukuthi ube nobuhlobo ngendlela yokuhlangana ngezikhathi ezithile nomunye noma ngisho namadoda amaningana. Kunoma yikuphi, uvulekile ebuhlotsheni obusha futhi mahhala ukuwaqala nokuqeda lapho, kubonakala sengathi, isikhathi siyeza. Kuhle uma abantu abajwayele ukuxhumana nabo bengavali ukuwa ngenxa yokulingisa, hhayi ukuze "kube", kodwa nje kumnandi.
Yenza izinhlelo
Futhi-ke, ngaphandle kokubheka umbono womuntu ukuwasebenzisa. Isibonelo, ukuqasha indlu eduze komsebenzi, ngokuzumayo wehla eholidini nomngani noma uqale amakati amathathu - konke lokhu kulula kakhulu ukukwenza, uma kungadingeki ucabangele umbono womuntu. Kodwa-ke, kuqaphele kakhulu - ikhono lokuxoxisana nokufinyelela ekunciphiseni, nokho kubalulekile izimfanelo zokuphila kanye nomkhuba wokuba wedwa kungabangela ukungabi nokubuyisana nokubekezelelana kombono womunye umuntu.
Buka ku-Myshire
Kungcono futhi kukhululekile kakhulu kulabo abazi kahle, izihlobo nabangane bayabathanda ngaleyo ndlela, hhayi ngeqoqo lezimfanelo "ezilungile". Ionis inembile, ngoba ungathola ukufudumala futhi unakekelwe kuphela kumadoda ashadile, kodwa nakubantu abasondelene nabangane, futhi ubulili akulona ngaso sonke isikhathi obulingana nokucabanga okujulile nokuthandwa.
Izimfihlo ezingu-3 zokuphila okugcwele
- Ungabheka izizathu zobunesi kuwe. "Nginamafutha futhi angiyena umlingiswa omuhle." Lezi yizinqumo ezingavunyelwe. "Ngiyathanda impilo yami" - kunjalo!
- Yenza okuthandayo. Abesifazane, abanesithakazelo ngomsebenzi, ezemidlalo, ngobuciko noma noma yiyiphi enye ibhizinisi, bavame ukujabula, ngoba abagcini nje kuphela ukugcwalisa izimpilo zabo, kodwa bazokhuthaza abanye.
- Ungabi ngaphansi kwanoma yiziphi izimo ukumelana nokucindezela. Lokhu akusho ukuthi abangane, umama noma osebenza nabo abangekho esimweni sokunikeza iseluleko esibalulekile. Kungokuthi abaningi banomuzwa wokuthi "ukungabi nesizungu kuyingozi." Uma imvelo yakho ihlala ikhuthele futhi ivuselele njalo ngalezi zingxoxo, yiba nomusa, uthi ngenkathi uthatha isikhathi.