Kungani ungazange ukwazi ukuthola umuntu wamaphupho akho kuze kube manje?
Ngokwezibalo zengqondo, uphawu lobumuntu luyinkinga yomlingiswa kanye nesimo sengqondo kubantu. Ngokuvamile abesifazane abafuni labo abadinga ngempela. Mhlawumbe lokhu kunqunywe ngumphakathi wamanje noma umshicilelo wezinkomba zomzali. Ngokusho kocwaningo lwezenhlalo, iningi lamantombazane liphendule ngaphandle kokungabaza ukuthi lingathanda ukubona eceleni kwalowo wesilisa onentaba yemisipha, okuthandana naye kanye nokuhlangenwe nakho ngokomzwelo kuyizwi elingenalutho. Yebo, kungase kube kuhle, kodwa kuphela ekuboneni kuqala. Ngikholelwa, ngenxa yokuphila komndeni laba bantu abahambisani nhlobo, futhi bona ngokwabo abahambeli ngokukhethekile. Amakhophi afanayo angeke akhathazeke ukuthi izinga lokushisa lakho lingani, uma ungahlali kahle, okuhlangenwe nakho kwakho namasu akho esikhathini esizayo ngeke kube mnandi kuye. Kufanele uqonde ukuthi abesilisa be-alpha banesithakazelo kuphela ekujabuliseni kwabo futhi bahlala, bahlala kuphela. Ngakho-ke ungamangali uma "izithelo" ezifanayo ezinyathelweni zokuqala emva kokuzijwayeza ngaphandle kwesinembeza sembeza zinganaki izingcingo nemilayezo yakho.
Kukhona nombono ovelele wokuthi iningi labesifazane bethu abasha banesithakazelo ngokuyinhloko ekunakekeni kwemali komuntu, ukukhula komsebenzi wakhe. Yebo, ngakolunye uhlangothi - lesi sifiso sikholwa ukuthi noma yiyiphi intombazane idinga ukuthi umndeni wakhe nezingane azidingi okudingekayo. Ngaphezu kwalokho, ukutholakala kwezezimali kuqinisekisa impilo ecacile nenjabulo kunokuba ngaphandle kwabo. Kodwa kungakhathaliseki ukuthi lokhu kuhlambalaza kanjani, amadoda acebile, kaningi kunalokho, akhethe abalinganayo. Yebo, kunezindaba eziningi mayelana neCinderella, kepha lobu buhlobo bubuthakathaka futhi kaningi ngaso sonke isikhathi umuntu ukhumbuza wakhethiwe ukuthi yiziphi iziqephu ezivela kuwo. Ngikholelwa, ngezinye izikhathi kusuka kumuntu ocebile, kodwa ohlakaniphile futhi onenjongo, ungakwazi ukukhulisa umbusi onamandla, obani ozothandana naye nomuzi. Ngempela, njengoba bekusho, ngemuva komuntu ophumelelayo ngumfazi ohlakaniphile okholwa kuye.
Ukuze ungenzi amaphutha ngezinqubo zokukhetha ikusasa, kunconywa kakhulu ukuthi udlule ukuhlolwa kwezenhlalo futhi uthole isifo sengqondo sakho kanye nombili wakho. Le ndlela iqinisekisa ukuthi uzobukeka ngokuhlukile kulabo abazokuthola indlela yakho empilweni. Isiqinisekiso sokuthi ubuhlobo obujabulisayo nobunzima buhambisana nokulinganiswa kwabalingiswa nemiphefumulo, izifiso ezivamile kanye nokubukwa empilweni.
Ungasusa kanjani isizungu futhi uthole umngane wakho empilweni?
Okokuqala, udinga ukuqeda umthwalo wengqondo ongakuvimbela ekuboneni amadoda ngendlela evamile, ukubona ukuthi ungubani ngempela. Ngalokhu udinga, okokuqala, ukuthi ususe kuwe masks okubaluleka nokuziqhenya, ukuba uqobo lwakho, ungesabi ukukhukhumeza nokubuza umuntu oyithandayo ngokuphila kwakhe ngenzalo. Uma lokhu kungumlingani wakho oyedwa, uzokujabulela nokuba nesithakazelo kuwe. Vumela ukunethezeka kokusho ukuthi yini engqondweni yakho, ukuthi yini oyifunayo ekuphileni. Ngikholelwa, labo abangekho emgwaqweni nawe - bazoshiya kanyekanye, lokhu akufanele kuzisole. Abani kanye nawe ngomsindo ofanayo - uzohlala iminyaka eminingi.
Into esemqoka akumele uzibeke njengomgomo oyinhloko - ukuthola umuntu ngobuhlobo obunzima. Phila, uthuthukise, uxhumane nabangani, funda okuthile okusha futhi ngeke ubone ukuthi uthando luzofaka kanjani impilo yakho. Ngemuva kwalokho, njengoba i-classic yezincwadi ze-Shakespeare ithi: "Uthando lubalekela labo abalubhekayo, kodwa kulabo ababalekela, baya ekhanda ..." Sithemba kakhulu ukuthi uzoqonda - ayikho izikhwama eziphelele nezidumbu ezingenalutho ngeke zithathele injabulo yabantu elula ekuthandeni futhi uthandeke. Sifisa ukuthola umuntu wamaphupho akho ngesikhathi esifushane!