Ungowesifazane othembekile, uyazi ukuthi angabeka kanjani imigomo futhi afinyelele kuzo, umhlaba uhambisana naye nakho konke okusemandleni akhe okuzama ukuhlangabezana nezindinganiso zakhe eziphakeme. Ungumnqobi. Bonke abesifazane baphupha ngokuba nesimo esinjalo, kodwa kutholakala kuphela kulabo abanesipiliyoni esikhethekile. Uhlobo luni lwe-psychology oluwinawo, futhi ungafunda ukuthi ungayinqoba kanjani, uma ungaboni imali engenayo ngaphambili?
Wonke umuntu uyaqaphela ukuthi ukuhlukumeza kwengqondo kwabesifazane kuhlukile kwamadoda. Futhi ikhono lokuwina kusukela ekubukeni kwengqondo liphinde lihlukaniswe ngokusho kobulili. Amadoda agxile kakhulu kulo mphumela, nabesifazane - ngenqubo yokufeza. Ngakho-ke izindlela ezehlukene zesasu namaqhinga ekufezeni impumelelo. Ngakho-ke, kunengqondo ukucabangela ukunqoba kwabesifazane ngaphandle kwabesilisa, futhi indlela yokunyakaza komuntu oyinqola ihlukile endleleni yokunyathelisa. Yiziphi izinyathelo ezidingekayo zokunqoba owesifazane okufanele enze?
Kholelwa kuwe
Ukuvamile, hhayi ukunqoba ngengozi kungenzeka kuphela esimweni sokuthi owesifazane unokholo olujulile kuye kanye nemvelo yakhe ehlukile. Umnqobi uqhutshwa yisimo sengqondo sangaphakathi kanye nokukholelwa okungenakuphikwa ukuthi akafunanga impumelelo, kodwa kungakanani amthola lapho evela khona. Futhi lokhu akukona ngisho nokholo, kodwa ulwazi, okuyinto, ngokungafani nokholo, alusakwazi ukubuza. Umnqobi uyahamba nje, futhi uyomthatha. Ungayifinyelela kanjani ukuthembela okunjalo ngokwakho? Ngomkhuba kuphela! Mhlawumbe okokuqala ulwazi lomuntu oyedwa luzosekelwe enhlanhleni yengozi, ukubikezela okunembile kanye nokuqagela, kodwa kamuva, lapho ingqondo engathembeki ngokunqoba kwayo entsha izobona okwenzekayo, okufana nokucabanga, impumelelo iyoba yinto evamile.
Ukuqondiswa kokukhomba
Kunzima ukuzizwa njengomnqobi uma kungekho mgomo. Akuyona amaphupho noma izifiso, kodwa imigomo nezinhloso zokuwufeza. Kumele kukhuthaze futhi kuvuselele ukunyakaza, okuyisisekelo sokukhipha injabulo ekubeni khona ngesikhathi "lapha nango manje". Ngoba sikhumbula - owesifazane ujabule kuphela lapho enelisekile ngenqubo yokunyakaza. Futhi umphumela (ukunqoba) umane nje isitatimende se-fait accompli, njengomphumela ongenakugwemeka womsebenzi owenziwe. Ungayithola kanjani umgomo? Lalela izwi lomphefumulo, wandise indawo yokududuza futhi uphume "emagqumeni" ayo ukubona, ukuzwa, ukunambitha, ukuzwa nokuthinta isipiliyoni esisha. Umphefumulo uzokwazi injongo yawo bese ugijima emva kokudlula, ukuheha abantu endleleni, izimo nezimo ezizokwenza ekufinyeleleni kwayo okuzayo.
Thatha ukulawula imizwelo
Enye yezimfanelo eziyisisekelo zomnqobi yikhono lokuqondisa imizwelo engqondweni. Imizwelo engalawuliwe yiziqondiso ezimbi kakhulu emgomweni. Abesifazane kunzima kakhulu ukufeza lesi simo, ngoba bavame ukwenza izinqumo, ukunikeza isimo sengqondo. Kodwa ubunjalo besifazane akusona isithiyo sokunqoba. Futhi lokhu kuqinisekisiwe kuzo zonke izigaba zokuphila, lapho abesifazane bethatha khona "isundu", beshiya abahlakaniphile futhi bakwazi ukuhamba kalula emizweni yabantu, ngemuva. Indlela yokubhekana nemizwelo? Shintsha isitha sibe ngumlingani futhi usebenzise imimoya evelele, njengesiqiniseko seqiniso. Noma mhlawumbe ubeke imizwelo "isikhumba esincane." Lokhu akusho ukuthi kufanele ube yisithombe esingafuni ukuzwa. Ukuphatha ngokuyinhloko kulandela isimo sengqondo esibhekene nesimo. Kuyisisekelo. Imizwelo nemizwa iyesibili, futhi yimbangela yokusabela kulokho okwenzekayo.
Nweba ama-horizons akho
Ukuze ube umqobi empilweni, akudingekile ukuthi ube namadiplomas amaningana eqinisekisa amakhono aphezulu okuqonda kanye nolwazi olunzulu lwezinto zonke emhlabeni. Isibonelo, i-Coco Chanel ayinaso isiqiniseko sokuphumelela emfundweni, kodwa lokhu akuzange kuvimbele ukuthi owesifazane odumile waseFrance angatholi isimo se-trendsetter ngezizukulwane eziningi. Ukuze abe ngumninimandla emkhakheni wezimfashini, wasizwa ngombono obanzi kanye nekhono lokuthola okujwayelekile okungavamile, ngendlela elula - eyokuqala, ngendlela yendabuko - eyinkimbinkimbi. Ungabona kanjani okungabonakali? Uzofunda izindlela ezintsha, azivumele yena ukwazi okwaziwayo kuze kube manje nokuthi yini engqondweni. I-horizontal ekhulisiwe iyohlinzeka ithuba lokuguquguquka ekuthatheni izinqumo futhi kalula ukuzivumelanisa nezimo ezishintshayo ngaphandle kwesixwayiso.
Xhumana nabanqobile
Ukuphumelela ezimweni eziningi - kuyinzuzo. Yiqiniso, abanye besifazane banenhlanhla yokuzalwa emndenini nge "geni" lomnqobi. Abadingi ukuvuselela isondo ukuze baqonde izimiso zokunqoba, ngoba impumelelo ye-psychology kanye nemvelo ephumelelayo izuze njengefa. Ngenhlanhla, ukulungiswa kokuncintisana kungatholakala ngokuziphilisa okuqhubekayo, noma "ukubamba" impumelelo kulabo abakwazi ukufezekisa. Ungafunda kanjani ukunqoba? Yethula embuthaneni wabo oseduze kakhulu wabantu abacabanga ngokungajwayelekile futhi babe negazi noma engqondweni "isakhi sofuzo" esifanayo. Kuzosebenza ngokulandelana kuze kube seqophelweni lokuvinjelwa, kepha kulokhu akukho ukuhlakanipha okuncane okusebenzayo: "Oholwa kuyo, lokho futhi uzobe uthayishiwe". Emvelweni yabanqobile amaphupho okuphumelela azoshesha ngokushesha ngokuvumelana neqiniso.
Ukuze ujabule ngokuhluleka
Abantu abajwayelekile bayasabela uma behluleka ngenjabulo, bazobona njengokuhleka usulu. Abanqobile bayazi, ngakho-ke uma kukhona ukwehluleka, kunethuba elihle lokuzuza kuyo. Ngamanye amazwi, abesifazane abathintekayo besifazane, bathola inkinga ngayinye emihle engasetshenziswa ukuthuthukisa nokuthuthukela ekufezeni umgomo. Usuxoshe umsebenzi wakho? Isikhathi sokubheka ithalenta ngaphakathi kwakho evumela ukuthi ungene ezingeni eliphakeme lokuphila. Ingabe umfana wayilahla? Ngakho-ke, kukhona indawo yendoda entsha ezoletha naye uthando nokuzwela okukhulu, njll. Ungafunda kanjani ukubheka ukunqotshwa okuhle? Kudingekile ukuthi uqale ukuqhuba ngesilinganiso esincane: ujabulela isimo sezulu esibi, ukuphumula emigwaqeni yezimoto, usebenzisa isikhathi sokulinda emigqeni yokuzindla nokunye. Ikhono lokuthola ukwehluleka okuhle lizuzwa ngomkhuba ongapheli. Umkhuba wokubona amathuba ezinkingeni umkhuba wobuciko wabantu bonke abawinile.