Ngokuvamile ungathola imibono yokuthi uma indoda inenkosikazi, isizathu esiyinhloko salokhu kulele ukuthi umkakhe akahambisani naye ngokobulili. Ngokuvamile kukhona iqiniso kulokhu, kodwa hhayi iqiniso lonke. Izici ezihlukahlukene ezivusa abantu ukuba "baye ngakwesobunxele" zinkulu. Lokhu kungase kube ukulahlekelwa kwesithakazelo socansi, nesifiso sokuhlukanisa izimpilo zabo, nokuzifunela. Umuntu angashukumisela ekukhonjisweni kwesifiso sokufakazela abanye, isibonelo, kubangani bakhe, abathanda futhi "ukuya ngakwesobunxele." Isizathu singase sibe ukukhuliswa kabi noma indlela engalungile yokuziphatha okuzuzwe yindoda evela kubababa abanikeze umama. Indoda ingaba yi-womanizer, ehamba ngezinyawo zonke iziketi, isizathu esilandelayo emfundweni, indawo ezungezile nokunye. Ukushintsha kungabangela utshwala obuvamile phambi kwenhlabathi evumayo. Futhi, ithonya elibi lomphakathi kubalulekile, ngoba manje izinga lokuzibophezela liwela, futhi izinga lobugovu nokuzikhukhumeza luya phezulu. Ngaphezu kwalokho, akufanele sikhohlwe ngethonya elithile lethelevishini, i-intanethi, i-gloss kanye neminye imidiya.
Kodwa kukho konke lokho, ithuluzi eliyinhloko lokukhaphela yilobuchopho. Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi ukuhleka kanjani ngalokho abantu abakucabangayo empeleni, ukungathembeki kuzalwa ekhanda, engqondweni. Indoda, kumuntu wethu, ichitha ngamabomu izithiyo nemigomo futhi iya enkohlakalo. Ube esola umkakhe, utshwala, impilo nokunye, izinto. Ngamanye amazwi, lifuna isizathu. Kumele kukhunjulwe ukuthi umuntu ungumuntu ozwakalayo, ngakho-ke, uma ehlukumeza, khona-ke unesibopho salesi senzo.
Iyini impande yenkinga? Kungani amadoda enamahloni okuhlala unomphela? Indima yenhlalo yomuntu ihluke ngokuyinhloko kunendima yabesifazane, ngakho ngokomlando kukhona emphakathini. Isibonelo, sivame ukuzwa lokhu okulandelayo: indoda iyindoda yokudla, amadoda angalili, indoda kumele ibe yisekelo nokusekela umndeni wayo, indoda kumele ibe namandla, kumele abe ngummeli nokuningi. Konke kunjalo, futhi amadoda ngokwawo ayazi lokhu. Kodwa ngokugcwele, baqonda indima yabo yomphakathi ngokuvamile esivele emshadweni. Lokhu kungenxa yokuthi, uma engene ebuhlotsheni bomndeni, indoda kufanele ibe nesibopho hhayi kuphela yedwa, kodwa nangenxa yomkayo nezingane zakhe. Kumele abe ngumthengisi onjalo, umvikeli, ukusekela, kanye nezingane - njengomfundisi, isibonelo sokulingisa. Indoda igcwele inqwaba yemisebenzi emisha.
Ngakho-ke, amanye amadoda azizwa ngokungaqondakali umthwalo wemithwalo yemfanelo ebacindezelayo, futhi ngezinga elithile bayesaba konke lokhu, okuyinto, okwamanje, okungeyona into efanele.
Khona-ke isikhathi esithile sidlula, le ndoda ifinyelela ekuvuthweni futhi isivele izwa sengathi ilukhuni kangako, intsha futhi inesibindi. Futhi lokhu kuyinguquko evamile esigabeni sokuphila. Esikhundleni sezinsizwa ezincane ziza ezinye, izimiso ezivuthiwe futhi ezinzulu, izinto eziza kuqala kanye nezindinganiso. Indoda ithola enye into - ukusimama komndeni, izinto ezibonakalayo nezokuhlala komphakathi, umsebenzi obalulekile, ukwandisa izinga lakhe lobuhlakani, liba nesimo esithile somoya, njalo njalo. Kodwa uma umuntu, ebuka emuva, uyaqaphela ukuthi akanakho okuziqhayisa ngakho, ukuthi akakutholanga lutho, ukuthi uyazisola okuningi, ngakho-ke kunzima kakhulu ukusinda kule sigaba. Uma umuntu ebona amathuba alahlekile, isikhathi esilahlekile, umsebenzi ozondwayo ngemali ephansi nokunye, khona-ke izinkinga zingaqala. Indoda iqala ukuzwa ukuthi ayizange ibe khona njengomuntu noma njengomuntu, nokuthi ingxenye engcono kakhulu yokuphila isivele isemva kwayo. Lapha futhi kukhona ukucindezeleka nezinkinga. Lokhu kuyinkimbinkimbi yempilo (iminyaka engu 30-40), lapho amadoda ejwayele ukubeka ama-mistress angunaphakade. Insizwa, ithi, oneminyaka engu-25 ubudala, ifakwe ekukhonzeni, kungenzeka ukuthi ikhethe ubuhlobo besikhathi esifushane.
Ngakho-ke, ukuze azibonakalise yena ngokwakhe nomphakathi ukuthi uyindoda "ebusweni bokuphila kwakhe," futhi ukukhokhela ukuntuleka noma ukuntuleka kweminye imfanelo nokufeza komuntu siqu, indoda ingenza umfazi ohlala njalo. Futhi umyeni ongathembeki uzizwa esemncane futhi ekhudlwana, ekhangayo futhi ekhangayo, njengokuthi wayesekhulile.
Futhi, omncane inkosikazi, indoda encane izwa, iphakamisa ukuzihlonipha kwayo.
Le ndoda ibhekene nokuzwa okusha, okuthakazelisayo nokuthakazelisayo. Futhi izinzwa zombili zobulili nezomzwelo. Kuye, kuba yi-adventure, isithelo esinqatshelwe. Futhi, indoda iyazibonakalisa amandla akhe ezocansi namakhono akhe okucansi.
Ngaphezu kwalokho, kumuntu wenkosikazi, indoda ivame ukuthola umlaleli olalelisayo. Uyamsekela, angakwazi ukukhuluma ngemicabango yakhe nemizwa yakhe, futhi ngeke alahle.
Yini enye ephoqa amadoda ukuthola inkosikazi engunaphakade? Ekhaya, ubudlelwane bunzima, impilo, izinkinga zokuphila ziyathinta. Kubonakala kumyeni ongathembeki ukuthi umkakhe uvame ukumemeza, uthola iphutha, akamqondi, akasekeli. Indlovukazi yendoda - uhlobo lweholide. Uhlala elalela futhi esekela, unothando futhi unothando.
Esinye isizathu - umkakhe uyeka ukuqapha ngokwakhe, uye waqala. Umninimzi uhlangana nendoda enhle, enhle futhi enokwenza. Ngaphezu kwalokho, imizwa yangaphambili ephakathi kwalabo abashadile yaholela ebuhlotsheni obunokuthula nokulinganisela, okufana nobungane kunothando. Ukuphila ngokocansi kwaba yindlala, intsha futhi iyingqayizivele, ukukhanga kwaphela.
Noma mhlawumbe umyeni wami uvele eshonile othandweni, ngeshwa, kwenzeka. Kodwa kuleso simo, ngokuvamile kuyinto enokwethenjelwa kakhulu ukuhlanganyela nayo, noma ngabe kunezingane. Ingane izokhula ngokulinganisela uma abazali bemthanda, kodwa baphile ngokwehlukana kunokuba behlala ndawonye, kodwa bazondane ngokuthula.
Noma mhlawumbe umyeni wakhe ungumfazi wesifazane! Kodwa lapha kakade, njengoba bethi, "ithuna elikhukhulayo lizolungisa". Umfazi onjalo angaba ohlakaniphile futhi omuhle, kodwa konke akwanele kuye, uyazifakazela.
Uma owesifazane efuna ukugcina umndeni ojabulayo, kufanele azame ukuqonda umyeni wakhe, acabangele umbono wakhe, izithakazelo, imizwa. Kubalulekile ukuhlala umuntu othakazelisayo kanye nowesifazane okhangayo. Ukuphila ngokocansi ngokugcwele nokuzilibazisa okuhlanganyela okuthakazelisayo nakho kudlala indima ebaluleke kakhulu.
Ukuphila, yebo, kuyinkimbinkimbi. Futhi isimo sisehlukile. Kodwa amadoda abizwa ngokuthi ubulili obuqinile, okusho ukuthi ukuziphatha kwabo kumele kube nesibindi futhi kuzinzile, izenzo - zilinganiselwe. Uma kunezinkinga emndenini - zidinga ukuxazululwa, uma izinkinga zingapheli - mhlawumbe udinga ukuhlukanisa. Lokhu, okungenani, ngokwethembeka, ngokungafani nokugijima okuvela komunye wesifazane kuya kwesinye kanye nezizathu eziqhubekayo zokuziphatha kwakhe. Manje uyazi ukuthi kungani indoda eshadile ithola inkosikazi engunaphakade.