Ukwesaba okuhlobene nobudala kubonakala nge-orientation ethile, ngakho-ke ezinyangeni ezinyangeni ezingu-1-4 ingane iphuma ebusweni obubukhali, elula futhi ezwakalayo; eminyakeni eyi-1.5 umntwana wesaba ukulahlekelwa ngumama wakhe, uyamlandela eduze, angayeki kuye isinyathelo esisodwa; eminyakeni engu-3-4, abantwana besaba umnyama; Iminyaka engu-6-8 yezingane yabesaba ukuthi kungenzeka ukufa kwabo, ukufa kwabathandekayo nezihlobo. Lo mzali kufanele alungiselele ukubhekana nezinkathazo zezingane zakhe ngezikhathi ezahlukene zokuphila kwazo.
Ukwesaba okuvame kakhulu kubantwana ukwesaba ubumnyama. Lapho uneminyaka engama-3-4 ubudala, izingane ziyesaba ukwesaba, ukungaqiniseki, isizungu. Kodwa kungani ingane isaba ubumnyama? Lokhu kungenxa yokuthuthukiswa kwengqondo yakhe kanye nekhono lokucabanga. Ngaphezu kwalokho, izingane ziyesaba isikhala esingakwazi ukuzilawula, futhi ubumnyama, njengombuso, kumvimbela ukuba enze kanjalo. Ingqondo yengane ingakwazi ukudala imodeli elula yezimo futhi ibale izihlukahluko zazo, yingakho esaba izingxenyana ezimnyama, izindwangu, hhayi izikhala ezikhanyisiwe, kungenzeka ukuthi zingakwazi ukufihla izingozi. Ngokuvamile abantwana ngokwabo abakwazi ngisho ukuchaza imbangela yokwesaba kwabo, ngakho abazali kufanele basize ingane ukubhekana nale nkinga.
Sithole ukuthi kungani ingane isaba ebumnyameni isikhathi eside. Futhi ukwenza kube lula kubazali ukuthi babhekane nokwesaba kwezingane, ungakwazi ukunikeza amathiphu ambalwa alula:
1. Lalela ngokucophelela indaba yengane yokwesaba kwakhe. Ngokuningiliziwe, mbuze ngalokhu kwesaba, konke ngokuningiliziwe. Ngakho-ke ungesabi, ngakho-ke, vumela ingane ukuthi ikwazi ukuthi iyini imbangela yokwesaba kwakhe nokuthi uzosinqoba kanjani lokhu kwesaba. Umsebenzi wakho oyinhloko ukuvumela ingane ukuthi iqonde ukuthi yini ongayenza futhi kufanele ilwa nokwesaba, futhi okubaluleke kakhulu wena.
2. Ingane yakho kufanele izwe ukusekelwa kwabazali ekulwa nokumesaba. Kufanele azi ukuthi uzohlala useduze. Ekuqaleni, linda isikhathi lapho umntwana elele ngokushesha, bese ephuma ekamelweni, futhi kusihlwa izikhathi eziningana ungena e-nursery, ukuqinisekisa ukuthi konke kuhambisane nomntwana.
3. Chaza ingane ukuthi, lapho kuqala ubumnyama, igumbi lihlala lifanayo, akukho zilo ezibonakala kulo, zonke izinto zihlala endaweni efanayo kanye nobukhulu obufanayo. Abantu abadala bayazi ngokuqinisekile ukuthi ingane ingasongelwa, kodwa ungayideli ukwesaba kwalezi zingane, kodwa kunalokho hamba egumbini elimnyama nezingane bese utshela futhi ubonise konke okubonayo ku-nursery, uchaza ukuthi abesabi lutho. Funda umbono wengane, lokhu kubaluleke kakhulu kuye.
4. Uma uqaphela ukuthi ingane iqala ukukhuluma njalo mayelana nokwesaba, buze imibuzo mayelana nabo, faka ukwesaba kwabo emidlalweni, cela abantu abadala ukuthi batshele izindaba ezimbi, konke kubonisa ukuthi ingane uqobo uzama ukubhekana nokumesaba kwakhe, ungesabi , kodwa nje ukusekela, qiniseka ukuphendula imibuzo nezicelo. Futhi uma kunokwenzeka, phakamisa izindlela ezintsha zokulwa nokwesaba, uma izindlela zayo, ngesizathu esithile azisebenzi.
5. Yini eyobhekana nokumesaba ubumnyama, ungajwayela ingane ebumnyameni, ngokudlala ufihle futhi ufune ekamelweni elimnyama. Ngokuvamile, ngazo zonke izindlela, ingane ijwayele ukuthuthukisa amakhono okunqoba ukwesaba nokuzithiba, esikhathini esizayo kuyosiza ukufunda ukunqoba kalula noma yiziphi ezinye izinkinga.
6. Gwema inqubo yokukhulumisana nabantwana bezinkulumo ezinjalo: "Ngizohamba ngize ngingabuyi", "Ngizohlala emgwaqweni", "Faka ekhoneni", "Hlala yedwa", "Zapru endlini yokugezela", "Ngizoyiphonsa kudoti".
7. Uma kunokwenzeka, shintsha indawo yezinto egumbini, ngangokunokwenzeka ukukhipha izingxenyana kanye nezikhala zamahhala ezibangela ukukhathazeka kwengane.
8. Uma ingane isaba ukulala egumbini elimnyama, zama ukushiya isibani noma ukukhanya ebusuku ebusuku ekamelweni. Ungasebenzisa ama-nightlights, udwebe izithombe ezihambayo odongeni noma endaweni evelayo, okungaholela ekunakekeleni ingane emicabangweni yakhe nasokwesaba.
9. Izilwane ezihamba ngekhefu ekamelweni lakhe, amakati nezinja zilungile ngalokhu. Futhi izilwane ezifuywayo azizimisele ukuhlala nazo, ungaziphazamisi.
10. Cela umntwana ukuba asabe ukwesaba kwakhe esithombeni, bese ehambisana naye ukubhubhisa lokhu kwesaba. Izindlela zokubhujiswa zingaba eziningana, zinganqotshwa yiqhawe elinomdlandla wezinganekwane, ingane ingakwazi ukuyihlanza ngamanzi esithombeni, ukuhluka okushisayo noma ukusika zibe yizicucu kuzokwenza. Unganikeza ngisho nokukhetha okungenangqondo, lapho uqeda ukwesaba okuthile okungenza kube kuhle futhi kungenacala.
11. Uma kunokwenzeka, shiya ingane yakho ebusuku ebusuku ekamelweni lakho lokulala iminyaka engu-3-4, hhayi ngempela iphupho kufanele libe embhedeni womzali. Futhi uma ingane inenkinga yokwesaba, khona-ke inqubo yokumfundisa ephusheni elihlukile kungcono okwesikhashana ukuma.
12. Kuwusizo kakhulu, kungaba khona izindaba zabazali mayelana nokwesaba kwabantwana babo ebusuku, kodwa kungaba kuhle ukukhuluma ngendlela owawunqobile ngayo, okwesaba konke ekugcineni kwesokunxele.
Ngaphezu kwalokho, zama ukugwema imidlalo enomsindo futhi enomsindo ngehora ngaphambi kokulala, ngalesi sikhathi, kungcono futhi ukugwema ukubuka i-TV. Ngehora elilodwa ngaphambi kokulala, unike ingane itiye elifudumele elenziwe nge-mint, ilamula lemon, i-black currant, i-chamomile ne-thyme, enezela uju oluncane. Esikhundleni setiyi, ubisi olufudumele nobuni noma i-yogurt luhle. Ngaphambi kokulala, funda incwadi yakhe ayithandayo noma inganekwane. Ukugeza ngama-herbs okuphuza kungalala kalula. Ungasebenzisa amafutha anamakha anciphisa ama-excitability futhi athuthukise imvuthu yokulala.
Qaphela izingane zakho, zikhulume nabo njalo futhi uxoxe ngazo zonke izinkathazo zabo bese uzosiza ingane yakho ukuba ikhule ibe umuntu ophumelelayo futhi onamandla onokuthola indawo yakhe emhlabeni wezinkinga. Ukunaka nokuqonda kwakho kuyinto ebaluleke kakhulu futhi edingekayo okufanele unikeze kumuntu omncane, ngenkathi esencike kakhulu kuwe.