Kusukela ezikhathini zasendulo, "abahlakaniphi" bokuthandana komuntu ngowesifazane bafuna into engavamile, engavamile ngendlela enkulu. Lokhu kusho okuningi futhi kubhaliwe! Manje ososayensi baye basithatha ngokungathí sina isixazululo semfihlakalo yothando.
Izibalo Zothando
Izibalo zesazi saseCalifornia esikhungweni sesayensi uLloyd Shapley noGale David bakhetha i-algorithm eyenza sikwazi ukubala ngokunembile ukukhangwa kothando komuntu othile wesifazane we-iconcaster. Lezi zinsuku ziqinisekisa ukuthi ukuphila okude isikhathi eside kombhangqwana ohambisana nezibalo kuzoqinisekiswa. Ngaphezu kwalokho, asikhulumi ngesibalo esekelwe ekufuneni ukuhambisana kwezimbili ezithile zomgomo, ezikhonjwe izazi zengqondo. Cha, kulula kakhulu. Uhlu lwenziwa ngenani labesifazane namakhosikazi. Ukuze ngokunemba kwezibalo zezibalo, okwanele kwabamele abangu-100 bobulili ngamunye. Umuntu ngamunye unesifiso semfanelo ethile ethize futhi ekhangayo yemfanelo ethile yamadoda nabesifazane. Ngokwesibonelo, indoda ithi: "Ngifuna umlingani wami abe namahloni aluhlaza okwesibhakabhaka, izinwele zakhe zimnyama, futhi kufanele akwazi ukupheka izinkukhu zezinkukhu." Owesifazane, isibonelo, ubonisa isifiso: "Kumuntu owayephezu kwesilinganiso sokuphakama, i-gray-eye futhi efanelekile ukudansa."
Indoda ebhala ngaphansi kwenombolo 1 ibonakala ngokucatshangelwa owesifazane ongaphansi kwenombolo 1. Ngesikhathi esifanayo, kunendaba uma kufanelekile izidingo zendodakazikazi, ngoba akukho okunye ongakukhetha. Owesifazane uvuma ngokuzenzakalelayo lokho okunikezwayo, ngenxa yalokho umbhangqwana obika ukubandakanya okunemibandela.
Masinyane, izibalo "zivuselela" indoda engaphansi kwenombolo 2. Ngokufanayo naye uvela ngaphambi kowesifazane inombolo 1. Uma ezobe esehambisana nombono wakhe womlingani ohle, le nkosikazi ihlukumeza ukubandakanyeka okunemibandela nendoda # 1 futhi yamukela ukunikezwa komfakisicelo # 2. I-chevalier yokuqala, owenqatshelwe ngemuva kwakho konke, nge-No. yakhe engu-1 iphendukela ekubhekeni umbhangqwana ovela ohlwini. Kungaba inombolo yesifazane 2 noma inombolo 3, njll.
Phakathi naleso sikhathi, inambakazi wesifazane 1 inikezela ukwenza amanye amadoda ngokwe-oda (kanye nabesifazane besimo sezulu bonke abanye abantu abathandwayo nabangaziwa ohlwini oluvela kuhlu). Okusho ukuthi manje abesifazane banethuba lokukhetha nokuliqhathanisa. U-Ioni, ngokulalela umqondo olula wokuzikhethela: "Okungcono, okungcono", baqeda ukubandakanyeka ku-tekhno, baze baqede ekukhethweni phakathi kwabalingani abangamakhulu abasondelene nezinga lomlingani. Bonke abanye besilisa nabesifazane benza okufanayo.
Abafundi bezibalo eziqinisekisiwe uShapley noGail babalwe ukuthi uma uhlu lwabalingani abangabambisana lube lude ngokwanele, bathi: 100 no-100 noma 1000 no-1000, ekugcineni, umuntu ngamunye ovela ohlwini uzothatha ingxenye yesibili. Lona umqondo wesayense ekutholeni injabulo emndenini kakade esigabeni sokukhetha imibhangqwana.
Yiqiniso, lokhu kuyincazelo elula. Ngokwenzayo, lo mshini ubizwa ngokuthi i-algorithm ye-Gale-Shapley (imvume yemigomo ye-algorithmic) ngefomula eqondile futhi isekelwe kwinkolelo yokufanisa (inkinga yokudoba). Ngendlela, u-Shapley waba ngumnqobi weNobel Prize 2012 ngo-economics. Inkolelo yesayensi engakhethi yabekwa icala lokubala kanye ne-technicism. I-Scold ingayinaki isiqalo senyama kanye nazo zonke ezinye izono. Kodwa-ke, ngezazi zezibalo awukwazi ukuphikisana - lokhu kuyisayensi eqondile. Sizobe nesineke. Ngesinye isikhathi othandweni wathatha isayensi, khona-ke izinzwa zilindele!
Umbono wezici zengqondo
Kodwa isazi sezengqondo siya kuphi? Lo mzalwane ubheka ubudlelwane bomuntu njengobunikazi bakhe. Isazi esihlonishwayo sase-Italiya uSenor Guido Caldarelli saqala ukuphikisa: indlela ihle, kodwa isebenza kahle kuphela uma indoda nowesifazane bekhetha omunye ngokwezifiso zakhe. Emiphakathini yansuku zonke enengcindezi kwi-psyche kanye nenkumbulo yomuntu ovela kumasiko we-pop, umphakathi uba ohlangene. Sonke sibuka amafilimu afanayo, funda omagazini ofanayo. Futhi ngaphandle kokuzibona thina ngokwethu, sibheka lezo zindinganiso zokubukeka kwangaphandle, ukuziphatha, izindinganiso ezikhethwayo ezithinta abezindaba. Ama-stereotypes ahlukene, izimo zengqondo "ezithokozela kakhulu ekucabangeni ukuthi akulula ukuziqeda, futhi ezinye izigaba zamadoda nabesifazane akudingeki ukuba ziwenqabe lezi zinkolelo nhlobo.
Ngakho-ke kuvela ukuthi amaphesenti angaba ngu-90 amadoda athetha ama-brunettes, (mhlawumbe ngisho nama-blondes, kuye ngenkathi) ngaphandle kokuthi azi ukuthi isithombe somlingani ohle siqoshwe emasikweni amaningi. Ukubheka lokhu okuyiqiniso, uCaldarelli wethula umqondo wokukhetha okuhle kwabashadile, owasungulwa izibalo zezibalo zaseCalifornia uGale noShapley, wafaka umlinganiso wephutha "Vogue Factor", okubizwa ngokuthi "isici sobuhle". Okusho ukuthi, uma i- "Vogue Factor" iyingqayizivele kubantu abaningi kuleli qembu, kulula kakhulu ukuba bathole ingxenye yesibili. Ngamanye amazwi, abesifazane bavame ukumisa ukukhwabanisa okuvuthayo (blond). Usosayensi uyaxwayisa: "Khumbula ukuthi izinga lobuhle livame ukufakwa yi-pop art! Funda ukuzimela ekukhetheni izintandokazi zokubukeka kobulili obuhlukile futhi ngaphezulu uthembele ukunambitheka kwakho. Into esemqoka, ukuthi usebenze ngokuzikhethela kwakho, ungalandeli ama-stereotypes! ".