Kungcono kakhulu ukuxazulula impikiswano yomndeni

Ukuzama ukuqonda, nsuku zonke kuzo zonke izingxenye zomhlaba izigidi zabantu zixabana nabangane babo bokuphila. Isaga esiyaziwa ngesiRashiya sithi: "Abantu abathandekayo bahlaselwa - badlala nje." Kodwa ngezinye izikhathi izingxabano phakathi komyeni nomfazi zimbi kakhulu kangangokuthi zingabangela ukupholisa okuphawulekayo ebuhlotsheni noma ngisho nehlukaniso. Lokhu kungagwenywa kanjani futhi umehluko ovela emndenini ungaxazululwa ngokulondoloza umshado? Kungcono kanjani ukuxazulula impikiswano yomndeni?

Okokuqala, kuyadingeka ukuthi sithole isizathu sokuxabana emndenini.

Izingxabano phakathi kwabashadile zivela ngenxa yokuthi umehluko emibonweni yabo ezintweni ezihlukahlukene zokuphila, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi ukhulisa izingane futhi ulawula isabelomali somndeni noma uhlu lokudla. Isizathu esivamile siwukuntuleka kokuqonda, yingakho kunzima ukuhlangana nombhangqwana ongasho ngokuzethemba ukuthi: "Siyakuqonda phakathi kwegama lesigamu." Ngokusho kososayensi, ngokuvamile ukuvota kungukungqubuzana kwe "amawashi ephilayo" omshado. I-Larks nama-owls bakuthola kunzima ukuhambisana, ngoba omunye ucasulwa ukukhanya komshini wokuqapha, ukusika amehlo, phakathi nobusuku, omunye umuntu uphawula ngomsindo wemishini yasendlini ekuseni. Kodwa noma yikuphi ukungqubuzana, kuxazululwe ngokumane - ngokunciphisa kanye nezixazululo ezakhayo zezinkinga ezivela emndenini. Okubaluleke kakhulu - gcina imithetho embalwa elula . Okuthiwa:

  1. Ngaphandle kwalokho ungenza yini isifiso sokufakazela okuthile noma ukukhombisa ubugovu bakho nobukhuni benhliziyo engenangqondo.
  2. Ungapheli emathonini aphakeme futhi ungapheli imizwa.
  3. Awukwazi ukubandakanya abantu abangabazi - izihlobo, abangane - empikiswaneni - lokhu kuyinkinga phakathi kwalababili, futhi becela usizo ezihlotsheni, ubungozi bokuchitha ubuhlobo babo kuphela.
  4. Futhi, umuntu akakwazi ukuthola ubuhlobo phambi kwezingane, ukuze bangahlakuleli imodeli yokuziphatha engalungile nezihlobo zabo, futhi lokhu kubhekene nokuhlukunyezwa ngokomzwelo.
  5. Ungakhumbuli izikhalazo zakudala uphinde ucabange ngezinkinga ezingekho, ngakho-ke uvele uthele amafutha emlilweni, futhi umbono wakho ngeke ucabangele.
  6. Kungcono kakhulu ukuhlala phansi futhi ukhulume nomlingani wakho, xoxani ukuthi ngombono wakho yiyona imbangela yalesi simo bese uzama ukuxazululwa ngamandla ajwayelekile.
  7. Ngezinye izikhathi kufanelekile ukunikeza ilungelo legama lokuqala kumuntu ozibheka njengecala.
  8. Futhi ungalokothi, khumbula, ungalokothi ulahlekelwe umuzwa wokuhleka usulu, ukuhlambalaza nobufakazi abakaze bamise noma ubani okwamanje.

Uma ungeke ukwazi ukuxazulula le mpikiswano ngokwakho, ungabuyela kumqondo wengqondo yomndeni. Isazi angeke sivikele omunye wezinhlangothi, njengabangane abaseduze nezihlobo ngokuvamile abazenzayo, futhi bazokwazi ukunikeza iseluleko esibalulekile. Akumangalisi ukuthi izinsizakalo zabo zithandwa kakhulu kulezi zinsuku futhi ziyadingeka kokubili entshonalanga naseRussia. Uma kwenzeka ucabanga ukuthi i-psychoanalyst iyinkunkuma nemali, kodwa awukwazi ukuxazulula le nkinga, ungashayela ucingo lwe-helpline.

"Kuthiwani uma zonke izingxabano emndenini zivela ngenxa yengane, yini okufanele yenze uma eyi-initiator yabo?" - uyabuza. Kulula: uma ingane iqala ukungqubuzana, kufanele uqale ukuziqaphela, unake lokho okwenzile okungalungile. Awukwazi ukugcina ingane "engaphansi". Udinga ukumbonisa inhlonipho efanayo oyifunayo wena. Cabanga ngalokhu, ungabe usho yini kumngane wakho lokho okushoyo kubantfwana bakho nsuku zonke, isibonelo, "Vala umnyango, ke ungadluli egcekeni," noma "Uma ungadli konke, ngeke usuke etafuleni"? Yebo akunjalo. Ungabe uxoxe ngomunye wabangane bakho phambi kwabo? Futhi, cha. Izingane zifana nabantu abanjengathi, kepha zivikelekile futhi zisengozini. Ngaphezu kwalokho, ungakhohlwa ukuthi kusebuntwaneni ukuthi iningi le-psyche libuhlungu kakhulu, kukhona ukungabaza kanye nezinkathazo, isibonelo sokuziphatha nabanye abantu ekwakhiwa, ngakho-ke ingane idinga ukuphathwa njengeyonke inhlangano yomphakathi, futhi umbono wakhe kufanele ucatshangelwe. Ngakho-ke, uma ingane iseneminyaka engama-10 ubudala lapho abazali bephukile, khona-ke uzophinde aphule izingane zakhe.

Uma kwenzeka ingane inganaki nje izicelo nezidingo zabazali nabazali ngokujwayelekile, into ebaluleke kakhulu ukungadilizi, ungamemeza ingane, ngaleyo ndlela ubonise ukufutheka kwakho, uphinde uphendule isicelo sakho, kwenze ngenhlonipho nangomusa, ukhulume ngezwi eliphansi. Buza ingane ukuthi yini umzali ayifanele ukungahloniphi okunjalo, ngakho-ke, cishe indodana noma indodakazi ngokwayo izokutshela ukuthi kungani, kungani, futhi kanjani. Ngemva kokulalela ingane, zama ukuxazulula le nkinga kanye nokuxabana nomngane wakho womshado - ngokuvumelana nokunciphisa, futhi-ke, ungaqiniseka, umphumela omuhle ngeke uthathe isikhathi eside.

Ngingasho ukuthi noma iyiphi impikiswano ayinayo kuphela izici ezimbi. Ngenxa yezingxabano, siphoqeleka ukuba sibone umbono womphikisi. Futhi akuyona yini isiqinisekiso sokuphila komndeni ojabulisayo novumelanayo? Sithemba ukuthi manje uzosombulula inkinga yokungaboni kahle ngaphandle komzamo omkhulu, ngoba ukwazi ukuxazulula impikiswano yomndeni kangcono!