Ukuzivocavoca kubonisa ukuthi le ndlela yokuzijabulisa yamantombazane iseduze njalo ibangela ukusabela okungalungile kubalandeli babo. Ngokusho kocwaningo lwamuva, phakathi kwabesilisa abasha abaneminyaka engama-20 kuya kwengu-27 abalandeli be-tattoo, umlingani wabo unabantu abangu-18 kuphela abangaphezu kwekhulu. Kodwa lezi zithandani ezincane zivelele ne-tattoo yangempela azikhathazi. Ngakho yini othandanayo othandweni okufanele enze uma isifiso sakhe sithatha ukuya enkundleni yokudweba? Kuvela ukuthi kunezindlela zokudambisa intombazane esenzweni esingenasici.
Umfanekiso wesimo.
Futhi okuphumelela kakhulu kubo ukuletha impilo yakhe kuyo yonke imibala ngemuva kokudweba umdwebo. Yini owesifazane omuhle wesaba kakhulu? Elinye iqhawe lombhalo odumile, u-A. Dumas, uxazululwe lesi sivuno: noma yimuphi owesifazane, nakuba eqiniseka ukuthi ubuhle bakhe, uyesaba kakhulu ukuthi uyomiswa. Futhi izindaba ezidabukisayo zezingubo ezihlonishwayo, ubuhle bazo buqothulwa umhawu omkhulu wabathandi babo, leli qiniso liqinisekisiwe kuphela.
Le mfanelo yabesifazane inhle kakhulu futhi ukubeka isisekelo senkolelo yokuthi umthandi ukuyeka ukudweba. Akakwazi nje ukutshela ukuthi ukutheleleka okulethwe ngesikhathi sokudweba kungenziwa ngesikhumba sakhe, kodwa kuboniswa ngokucacile: kunezithombe eziningi kwinethiwekhi. Ngaphezu kwalokho, ungayigodli iqiniso lezesayensi ukuthi isikhumba somuntu sithathwa isikhumba seminyaka, futhi upende lodweba luyasulwa. Ngako-ke, emva kweminyaka engu-5-7, lesi sithombe sizobukeka sihlambalaza ngempela. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, impikiswano enjalo izobonisa intombazane ukuthi okhethiweyo wakhe uhlose ukuchitha nayo okungenani iminyaka eyishumi. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, lokhu kuzomenza acabange ngempumelelo yekhambi esikhathini eside.
Abesifazane badume ngokungahambi kahle kwabo. Futhi bona ngokwabo baqonda ngokugcwele ukuthi le mfanelo iyingxenye yazo. Ngakho-ke kungani ufuna umqondo ophumelele kakhulu wendlela yokuvimbela intombazane ethandweni, hhayi ukusizakala lobu buthakathaka besifazane? Ukuze umdwebe kuyo yonke imibala, kuyoba buhlungu kanjani ukubona isithombe esifanayo iminyaka eminingi, kube nzima kanjani ukwenza isinqumo ngomunye umkhankaso obuhlungu salon, ukuletha tattoo nokuthi yisiphi isibazi esibi emva kokususwa kwalo.
Iphutha elingahle lilungiswe.
Uma izithombe zekusasa elidabukisayo ngemuva kokudweba kwe-tattoo azizange ziphule izifiso zentombazane, khona-ke singamnika isingeniso esakhayo. Ekugcineni, ukungafuni komuntu ukubona isibonisi esikhwameni sakhe othandekayo akufanele, nakancane, kwizinkathazo zakhe noma ngesifiso sakhe sobugovu ngokumane nje avimbele noma yini. Uyakhathazeka ngomlingani wakhe. Ukuthi akahambisani nesifiso sakhe sokumenza ajabule. Ngakho-ke, kungcono kunokuba amkhombise futhi asebenzise izikhathi ezibalulekile zokuhlala ndawonye ukuphikisana, kumsize aqonde ukuthi akafuni ngempela ukwenza tattoo.
Ukuze wenze lokhu, kwanele ukuba uvumelane ukulingisa i-tattoo: kungabizwa ngokuthi ukuphazamiseka, isigaba sokuqala noma ukufanisa, - intombazane ngayinye, igama layo lizohambisana. Isibalo esisetshenziswa yi-henna sihlanzwa emasontweni ama-2-3 amancane, okuyinto intombazane eyothola ngayo ukuze iqonde ukuthi ayidingi ithotho. Ukuqonda lokhu kungaza ngokwakho, futhi kungacasulwa ngamazwana akhethiwe. Kuphela ukwenza amazwana angalungile mayelana nesithombe kufanele aqaphele futhi aqaphele. Ukuba khona kwe-tattoo okucabangelayo akusho neze ukukhipha ukuzwela okwenyuka kobulili besifazane. Uma lokhu kuqonda kungabonakali, ungakwazi ukuvimbela intombazane kule tattoo ngezinye izindlela, kodwa kuhle kakhulu ukucabanga ukuthi kufanelekile ngesikhathi sokumvimbela, uma emva kwalokho uzobe eshisa ngesifiso. Mhlawumbe lokhu yilokho okwenziwe isifiso sangempela, ukwehluleka kwalokho okuyokwenza othandekayo, ngisho nokuncane, kodwa angajabuli?
Ukukhwabanisa.
Amantombazane ahlukile. Ngezinye izikhathi benza njengezingane. Futhi kuleso simo kunokwanele ukuphazamisa ukunakekelwa kwakhe okuthile okukhangayo kune-tattoo. Njengendlela yokuphazamisa, ungasebenzisa noma yini: kusuka ekuncoma, kuya kusipho se-chic. Kuphela ukunikela kuyadingeka ukuba ube namaqiniso wangempela, futhi ungayinikezi igama lentengo yokwenqaba. Uma kungenjalo, umuzwa wokuphikisana ungase unqobe kuye nombuzo ozowuthatha isikhundla sakhe ngomdwebo, ngokuqinisekile uzophendula - akukho lutho.
Yiqiniso, bangaki amabhangqa, izici eziningi kakhulu zobuhlobo bokwakha phakathi kwabo. Kukhona ukulingana endaweni ethile, futhi akanakho okumvimbela. Kwelinye i-pair of bosses bonke abahlukunyezwayo-ke-ke ubhekana nobudlova ngokuphathelene nothando lwakhe lokuhamba nabangani, ke ufanelana nezikhwama zakhe, ahambisane namazwi ahlabayo ngokumelene nokuvinjelwa okuqinile. Abantu bakhe ubuhlobo babo ngezindlela ezahlukene. Amagugu afanelekayo kubambiqhaza abaxhumana nabo angase ahluke. Ngakho-ke, ukuxoshwa ku-tattoo akunakwenzeka nje kuphela ngabafakeli abafisa, kodwa futhi ngokudinga amandla. Mane nje, isitatimende se-ultimatum sinohlobo "noma thina, noma tattoo".
Lapho izikhali ezinzima zingena empini.
Ngesinye isikhathi, akukho ukukhuthaza, ukukhuthaza, ukufumbathisa, noma ukusongela usizo. Futhi akafuni ukulahlekelwa othandekayo wakhe. Lapha unendlela eyodwa kuphela. Ngokuqondile, ababili, kodwa okwesibili - ukunikeza intombazane futhi bavumele ukwenza tattoo. Futhi okunye okulandelayo kulesi sinqumo esiqile kuyoba ukubandakanya enkambisweni yokudambisa labo abanombono wabo owuhloniphayo. Noma ngubani owesaba ukulahla kwakhe. Yiqiniso, ukuqala, ungasongela kuphela ukutshela abazali bakho ngezinhloso zakhe. Kodwa akusiyo njalo isizukulwane esidala esiphatha umbala we-tattoo. Ngakho-ke, wonke umuntu ongakwazi ukulalela ngokuzenzekelayo: abazalwane, izintombi, ozakwabo, abazali (kuhlanganise naye) bangaya esikoleni. Ungadonsela ngisho nesithombe sokuhlanzeka kwesikhumba samakhosikazi - uma lokhu, njengesibonelo, inkanyezi yasekhaya akuyona indiza ephakeme kakhulu. Yiqiniso, kuzodingeka uchithe imali eningi.
Uma iningi lentombazane elikuyo le ndawo lisekela isinqumo sakhe, ungazama ukushintsha umbono wabo ngokutshela ukuthi yiyiphi ingxenye yangempela - ama-tattoos. Cishe wonke umuntu uyazi ukuthi izigebengu neziguli zezibhedlela zengqondo zaqala ukuziletha kuqala. Ngaphezu kwalokho, ekukhulumeni nezintombi zakho ezithandekayo, ungasebenzisa futhi impikiswano esekelwe ukuthi ama-tattoos ayingxenye yalabo amantombazane abangenakho okunye okumele baphumelele.