Kuvela ukuthi umbuzo ofanayo: "Yini ebukeka sengathi? "Bobabili abesilisa nabesifazane basabela ngokuhlukile. Amadoda acabanga ukuthi abesifazane abanjengabo: isifuba semisipha, amahlombe aphezulu, amadala amakhulu, ukukhula okuphezulu, izintambo eziqhakanyiswayo namahlo amnyama. Kodwa eqinisweni, abesifazane bahlukanisa imikhakha ehlukene kakhulu yobuhle. Amathanga, ukukhula, amehlo, ukubekezela kanye nodokotela omkhulu.
Izazi zemiqondo zithi ukubonakala komuntu okukhangayo akubalulekile kakhulu intombazane. Umbuzo wokuthi indoda kufanele ibe mnandi kanjani ukujabulisa owesifazane unesithakazelo kuphela kubantu. Yindoda ekholelwa ukuthi isibalo sezemidlalo kanye nokukhula okuphezulu kuzomsiza ukuba athole impumelelo ngabesifazane. Kodwa-ke, isimo esibukekayo akuyona ikhampasi yamacilongo ekunqumeni ukwazi amantombazane. Ukubukeka okukhangayo kusiza kuphela emaminithini okuqala wokuphola, bese kulahlekelwa ukubaluleka kwayo okubaluleke kakhulu.
Ubuntu bomuntu, impumelelo yakhe iyamthakazelisa kakhulu kumantombazane kunomuntu wesilisa. Nakuba lo mgomo awusho ukuthi ubuhle besilisa abuzisi amadoda ekujwayeleni nasekubunzeni ubudlelwano nabesifazane. Ukunakekelwa kwabesifazane kudonseleka umuntu oqoqa izinzuzo eziningana, ezihlanganisa ukubukeka okukhangayo nezakhiwo zomuntu siqu.
Noma kunjalo, izimfanelo zomuntu zamantombazane ziyathakazelisa kakhulu.
Namuhla amantombazane asasabeli ngamadoda amahle. Le ndoda ikhetha ubuhle ngamakhono engqondo aphansi, abesifazane benza njalo. Intombazane ekhethiwe yentombazane yanamuhla akufanele ibe yi-Adonis. Uma ehlakaniphile futhi eqondile ezama ukujwayele intombazane, intombi yakhe iyolalela. Intombazane iqala ukuyihlola kuphela emva kwengxoxo. Abesifazane abasabeleli kumuntu wesilisa, kodwa kumuntu ngokwakhe.
Uma kungumbuzo wobuhle besilisa, kuyadingeka ukucacisa ukuthi hlobo luni lokubukeka kwamantombazane, ngaphezu kwakho konke. Yiqiniso, indoda kufanele ibheke kahle futhi yanamuhla. Ngisho nomfana ohlakaniphile ngeke enze umqondo omuhle uma 'ehlambalaza' ngokubonakala kwakhe.
Umhlangano wokuqala unquma konke.
Uma phakathi nomhlangano wokuqala amaqembu athola ulimi oluvamile futhi ajabulele ukuxhumana, khona-ke ubuhlobo buzokhula. Akunakuphikwa ukuthi ukubukeka komuntu akubalulekile neze kumantombazane. Eqinisweni, ubuhle babantu akuyona into ebalulekile kulawo maantombazane abangenaso isithakazelo ekubukeni kwawo.
I-Psychological Psychology ihlelwe ukuze ingayinaki indoda engakwazi ukulahlekelwa kuye kokubili ngokubukeka kanye nezingubo. Uma le ndoda ihlakaniphile, kodwa ibonakala ingathandeki, ayikwazi ukuthembela ekuzweleni nokuphendula okufudumele kwintombazane. Uma ngabe indoda enhle futhi enembile ngesikhathi somhlangano izokukhuluma ngezindlela ezingafaniyo, intombazane iyomthola ibe mnandi, futhi kungenzeka ukuthi ingamlahli komunye umhlangano. Ngokuphambene nalokho, ngendoda engathandeki, engalungile futhi engathandeki - ngisho noma umfana onjalo ehlakaniphile, intombazane ingase ingayitholi ngokwanele. Yiqiniso, kunzima uma umuntu enobuso obubi nomzimba ongathandeki. Kodwa-ke, ukuvakashelwa kwezinwele nokuthengwa kwezambatho ezenziwe ngesitayela kungenza izimangaliso ezinjalo ukuthi ngisho nentombazane enhle kunazo zonke ayikwazi ukumelana nomzimba onjalo. Ngakho-ke, ngezinye izikhathi amadoda kufanele acele izincomo zabachwephethi abaqeqeshiwe, abalungisi bezinwele nezinye izifundiswa.
Ngisho nokubukeka okukhangayo kakhulu njengamantombazane, uma nje umfana enamakhono okuphola okuphumelelayo futhi angaba nomhlangano omuhle. Isithombe esilungisiwe sisiza ukuphumelela konke lokhu. Indoda kufanele ikwazi ukuveza kahle amantombazane. Ungaba umuntu omubi futhi ube nempumelelo nabesifazane, futhi akudingeki ukuba ube namahloni amahle kakhulu nesimo somdlalo. Ukuzijwayeza namantombazane ukubonakala okukhangayo komuntu akuyona into ebaluleke kakhulu.
Indlela yokuhlola ukubukeka kwamadoda
Nakuba amadoda amaningi eqiniseka ukuthi intombazane ibaluleke kakhulu, yini ebukeka indoda, abesifazane bahlola umuntu nangezinye izindlela. Okwokuqala, owesifazane uhlola ubuntu bomuntu nokuphumelela kwakhe emsebenzini, bese eqala ukubheka ukubonakala kwakhe. Ngokuvamile, lokhu akusho ukuthi ubuhle besilisa nokuheha akusizi ekujwayeleni namantombazane. Ukuthakazelisa intombazane, indoda akudingeki ibe yinhle, kumele ivelise umphumela omuhle futhi ibangele intombazane. Kufanele ikhumbuleke. Nguye lo muntu othola ithuba elikhulu lokuba amantombazane emehlweni abo. Njengomthetho, intombazane enendoda inesithakazelo kakhulu ezimfanelweni zayo, kuphela-ke inakelela umuntu noma ubuhle bendoda.
Intombazane yanamuhla ayifuni ubuso obumnandi bomfana. Nakuba lesi sici sabantu besifazane, amadoda agcine namhlanje. Benza ngokukhululeka. Izazi zengqondo zithi izigidi zamadoda zingashada nentombazane, kuphela ukuqonda ubuhle bayo bangaphandle. Ngeshwa, amantombazane akwenzi lokho namhlanje. Ngokuvamile indoda lapho eqala ukuxhumana nentombazane iziphatha ngendlela engavamile. Ngesikhathi sokuzijwayeza kokuqala okudingeka ube ngumvelo. Intombazane ehlakaniphile izobona ngokushesha umzamo womuntu wokubukeka ngokuhlukile ukuthi ungubani ngempela.
Amantombazane emhlanganweni wokuqala aqala ukuhlola izingubo nezicathulo zomuntu, amafutha akhe ahlonishwa kakhulu. Izembatho yikhadi lokubiza kwanoma yimuphi umuntu. Umuntu uqale ahlulelwe ngengubo, futhi umbono wokuqala uhlala isikhathi eside enkumbulweni yentombazane. Indoda kumele inakekele ukubonakala kwayo. Kuyinto ngokunembile nokuzilungisa kwendoda ehlobene nokuphumelela kwayo. Ukubukeka okungaphephile kuyisibonakaliso sokungabikho nokuqina komuntu.