Ingabe umehluko eminyakeni yobudala udlala ebuhlotsheni?

Uthando lwawo wonke ubudala luyazithoba, futhi lesi simiso asinakuphikwa. Kodwa-ke, uma uthando phakathi koontanga lubukeka luyimvelo, futhi lungabangeli ukucutshungulwa okungenasici, ubuhlobo bomuntu nowesifazane, obuneminyaka yobudala obukhulu, buhambisana nezinhlobo zamahemuhemu.


Iyiphi igebe evame ukubhekwa njengokwehluka kweminyaka yobudala phakathi kozakwethu? Kungenzeka ukuthi umehluko omkhulu eminyakeni yobudala cishe endaweni engama-15, 25, 35, 45 ubudala ubudala, umehluko phakathi kwezinsuku zokuzalwa kozakwethu. Imisho emifushane - iminyaka engu-3, ​​5, 7, 10, 14 kufanele ibhekwe njengemingcele yobudala obuhle phakathi komuntu nowesifazane ebuhlotsheni, othandweni nokudala ubuhlobo bomndeni.
Noma kunjalo, noma yiziphi izici lapha zimbandela, futhi umuntu akanakucabangela ngokuqagela ukuthi umehluko emlandweni wabalingani udlala indima ebuhlotsheni. Lapha kumele sicabange hhayi kuphela ikhalenda, kodwa futhi iminyaka yobuchopho balabo abalingani.

Ngezinye izikhathi kwenzeka ukuthi umfana osemusha oneminyaka engu-18-19 uzovala ibhande lokuvuthwa kokucabanga, ukubukwa, isipiliyoni sokuphila, ibhizinisi lezentengiselwano nokunakekela umuntu omdala omthandayo 35 noma ngisho nomuntu oneminyaka engu-55 ubudala, ovuthiwe ovuthiwe, kodwa ozikhukhumeza futhi ozibambileyo yi-muzhchinku , ngaphandle kwezifiso zakhe, akafuni ukubona noma ukuzwa nxazonke.

Futhi ngezinye izikhathi kwenzeka ukuthi intombazane encane, ngokumangalisa yona, isesandleni sika-Lovelace onolwazi, futhi ngesikhathi esifanayo ilahlekelwa yintombi yakhe kuphela, kodwa futhi ingxenyeni yengqondo yakhe, ngaphandle kokuphumula iyazithoba kuye "master" kanye nemidanso phambi kwakhe emilenzeni yakhe yangemuva njengenja .

Ngokuqinisekile bonke abantu bahlukile futhi abafani, ngakho-ke akunakwenzeka ukusho ukuthi ngabe umehluko oneminyaka engakanani uzodlala indima eqinile ebuhlotsheni balo mbhangqwana wesifazane.

Umuntu angasho kuphela ukuthi abantu abaningi baphutha ngokuthi "abaneminyaka engama-60 ubudala abanalo ucansi". Kholelwa ukuthi amanye amadoda amadala angakwazi ukulala ocansini kaningi futhi asele kunamanye ama-thugs.
Yebo, nokuvuvukala komzimba, nemibimbi ehloniphekile, ngobulili - akusiyisithiyo. Ujwayele ukukhubazeka okunjalo komzimba nomuntu ngokushesha. Futhi ngisho noma ekuqaleni babonakala kancane, ngakho ngokuvamile awuboni nhlobo. Eqinisweni, umzimba wesifazane noma owesilisa oneminyaka engu-50 akafani kakhulu nomuntu oneminyaka engu-25 ubudala, ikakhulukazi uma umuntu ebukela. Futhi bonke abathandikazi besifazane ngokuvamile balandela lokhu eduze.

Ngokuphathelene ne-psychology ebuhlotsheni, uma umuntu ekhulile kunowesifazane, futhi omdala kuningi, khona-ke uyingqayizivele. Uma esekhulile hhayi kuphela yobudala, kodwa futhi ngengqondo yomlingani wakhe osemusha, uma ephethe uhlamvu oluqinile, udlala njengendima kayise noma uthisha ngokuphathelene nomthandekayo wakhe.

Uma engumfana osemncane, enhle futhi enhle kakhulu, futhi engumuntu omdala, kodwa ephazamisekile ngokocansi, khona-ke ubuhlobo phakathi kwabo kungenzeka, kodwa kuphela bayokwenzela ukukhathazeka kanye ne-eyeschism - naye.
Amadoda asebudala abaqamba amanga. Banjalo ukuthi ungamangala nje. Omunye wabalingani bakhe usho nje ukuthi angakuboni kanjani ukuthi akafuni isihloko N, kanti isihloko esifanayo H emasekhondi angu-5 senza "i-anus leasing" yokuziphatha efonini. Futhi, uma umbuza - "Ingabe ukhululekile namhlanje?", Abesifazane abahlukene abangu-7 bayothola izimpendulo ezingafani ezingu-7. Ngeshwa, amadoda amaningi asebekhulile kunabesifazane abavame ukuba nezinhloso eziqotho nemicabango ehloniphekile.

Kuphela labo besifazane abasebevele besesimweni esinjalo bazi ukuthi ucindezelwe kanjani ngenxa yokuthi ungashadile futhi okhethiweyo wakho akakucabangi ngisho nokushada nawe. Futhi uzihlupha ngombuzo - "Futhi uma ngihloselwe ukushada nhlobo? Futhi ingabe abesifazane abanjengami bayashada, noma ngingabe nginkosikazi yonke impilo yami? "
Futhi ukubukwa okubuhlungu ngamathemba esizayo? Kuzokwenzekani ezinyangeni eziyisithupha, ngonyaka, emibili, emihlanu kusukela manje? Ukuze ube inkosikazi engunaphakade? Ngaphandle kwamathemba, ngaphandle kwezingane, ngaphandle kokuphila kwakho?
Uma ubheka isimo lapho owesifazane ekhulile kunomuntu, khona-ke kulesi simo, njengoba umthetho, izinkinga ezikhethekile azivuki. Into esemqoka owesifazane angayibona kumakhethi wakhe wakhe umngane omuhle, nokusekelwa okuthembekile.

Inkinga enkulu ebuhlotsheni, uma owesifazane ekhulile kunomuntu, wukuthi uma eseseneminyaka engu-45, 55, engu-60 ubudala, kakade, kakade, ngeke akwazi ukuba nomntanakhe nomkhethi wakhe ngeke akwazi ukuthola injabulo yobuhlobo. Kodwa-ke, njengoba kubonisa umkhuba webhizinisi lezinsuku zanamuhla, futhi akubonisi nje ibhizinisi, abantu abaningi abasha bavame ukushintsha ngokuzithandela ubusuku bokulala bengama-vagaries nokukhala kwezinsana ekudumeni nasekudumeni, kodwa kuphela uma behlala emgodini wegolide.

Ngakho-ke, ngokuqhathanisa phezulu, sibona ukuthi, yebo, umehluko omkhulu weminyaka yobudala, njengombuso, kubangela ubudlelwane bokuthandana obungalingani noma umshado ongalingani, lapho omunye wabalingani noma bobabili abalingani behlushwa inani elikhulu lezenhlalakahle, ezengqondo, ezomzimba, eziphilayo, impahla nokunye ukubandlululwa nokulinganiselwa. Kunoma yikuphi, uthando ngumdlalo we-roulette yaseRussia. Kodwa-ke, uma owesifazane ekhulile kakhulu kunendoda yakhe, noma owesilisa omdala kunokhethiweyo wakhe, ingozi yokwenza lolo daba olubulalayo oluxazulula zonke izinkinga eziye zavela mayelana nalokhu, ngokuphindwe kabili landa lokhu ngumthetho wemvelo, futhi asikwazi ukuphikisana naye. Nakuba eqinisweni kukhona okungafani nanoma yikuphi umthetho.