Indlela yokuthuthukisa ubugovu obuphephile

Isibonakaliso sokuzihlonipha okuphezulu yisithando ngokwakho, okumelwe sibonakaliswe njalo kuzo zonke izigaba zokuphila kwakho. Kodwa-ke, lokhu kuyindaba kuphela lapho kubaluleka khona inani. Ukweqisa kobugovu akuyona into eyingozi kakhulu kunokuntula kwayo. Kodwa indlela yokuthola incazelo yegolide, ukubonisa u-egoism ophilile kuzo zonke izimo, isibonelo kanje ... Uma uhlangana
Abesifazane, abangenabo ubugovu kanye nobugovu (asibize ngokwemvelo ME) bajwayele ukuzijwayeza. Zizwa futhi ngisho noma umuntu omthandayo, angenzi izipesheli zokuhlangana, ukushintshanisa amakholi. Bese bakhuthazela, bazikhukhumeza ngokwabo, ukuthi balahlekelwa leli thuba lokuxhumana. Labo abanama-egoism ngokweqile (CHE), futhi, abazi kangako. Lokhu kungaphansi kwesithunzi sabo. Ngaphezu kwalokho, bavame ukuba nesithakazelo kwabanye abantu: uma ukuzethemba kungaphezulu kakhulu, kufanelekile ukuxhumana, uzovuma, akwanele. Labo abane-egoism enempilo (3E) bathanda ukuxhumana nabantu abasha. Ukubonisa ukhetho oluthile, benza ngesimiso esithi "Ukuzijwayeza akuyona into engafanele, kodwa lapho sizobona."

Yini esesikalini? Lapho ubugovu buvamile, ukukhulumisana kuhle. Asinaso isizungu, sizungezwe abantu abalungile.

Ungafunda kanjani? Khulumisana ngokulingana okulinganayo nabantu abahlukahlukene ("Umuntu othakazelisayo kakhulu, futhi ngingumuntu okhangayo kuye!") Futhi uxhase inqubo: utshele indaba nawe - indaba ...

Esikhathini sokugxeka
Mina uphuthele, mhlawumbe ngisho nokukhala. Noma yikuphi okuphazamisayo okushiwo emsebenzini, ekhaya, nakuba emgwaqweni ovela kubantu abangabazi baxoshwa isikhathi eside. Kwenzeka ukuthi i-DOE inqabe nokwenza lokho okwenziwe, uma ingatholi ukwesekwa okuhle ngemuva kokugxekwa. I-CHE yecala lihlanganiswe nokuhlukumezeka: "Awu, ungayithandi? Khangela kangcono!" noma "Zibuke!" Uthi futhi ugawula umnyango. Bambalwa abafuna ukugxeka i-CE. Kuphela uma umuntu efuna ngempela ukuthi avule umnyango futhi ashiye. 3E uhlukanisa ukugxeka. Uma ebheka ukuthi kuyisisusa sokucasuka, isimo sengqondo esibi, asinaki nhlobo. Uma ezwa ukuthi isimo sinzima, uthola ngokuningiliziwe lokho akujabulisayo nokuthi kungani.

Yini esesikalini? Abantu kuphela abane-egoism enempilo bayakwazi ukusebenza ngokwabo, ngokukhula komuntu siqu. Futhi, ngokufanele, ekufinyeleleni okubalulekile kwempilo.

Ungafunda kanjani? Hlukanisa uhlangothi lwephepha zibe izingxenye ezimbili. Kwesobunxele ukubhala zonke izimfanelo zakho ezinhle, ngakwesokudla-okungalungile. Uma ingxenye eyodwa icacile, bese ungeze okwesibili. Angazi ukuthi yini ongayibhala? Khuphuka nalo! Ukuzivocavoca kunomthelela kakhulu ekuthuthukiseni ukuzethemba. Kwanele ukwenza kanye ngenyanga.

Uma kukhona umhawu
ISI simo esinjalo sicindezela, singabangela ukuphazamiseka kwemizwa nesifo. Umyeni wasabela ngesisebenzi esisha, futhi kakade kunezigcawu zokuphinga kokuhamba komyeni wakhe ... I-CHE ilahle izinto eziningi ngezindlebe, idlule amehlo. Umqondo wokuthi umlingani angase abe nesithakazelo komunye wesifazane, ngisho engangeni engqondweni - ukuzethemba okukhulu kakhulu. Kulungile, 3E ngakho bese uthi "Okuthile mayelana nesisebenzi esisha ukuthi njalo usho ukuthi ufuna ukukubona kakade futhi okuthile okwenzekile ngephutha." Yiqiniso, lokhu akuyona into engathí sina. Abantu abanjalo nje bathambekele, kuqala, ukuveza yonke imizwa yabo, futhi okwesibili, ukwenza izinto zibe yihlaya.

Yini esesikalini? Ama-egoist enempilo akwazi ukuthethelela futhi akhohlwe-ukuzethemba kwabo kusuka ezimweni ezinjalo akuhlupheki.

Ungafunda kanjani? Musa ukuhumusha noma yiziphi izenzo zabanye njengokubonakaliswa kokuzihlonipha wena.

Lapho ebuzwa okuthile
I-DOE ayikwazi ukulahla ukwesaba ukuthi abantu bayoba kubi kakhulu kuye. Yiqiniso, konke lokhu kusetshenziswe ngokujulile ... CHE uma ucela okuthile - uzimisele kakhulu ukwenqaba. Kodwa abajwayele ukukhuluma naye - umbono wokuzikhukhumeza awunawo lokhu. Izicelo ze-CHE ngokwazo zizungeze abantu kuqala ngokuzithandela, kodwa ziqala ukuzamazula zonke izindlela. U-3E uthanda ukubuza nokufeza izicelo zabanye, ucabangela ukucela imbangela yemizwelo emihle kanye nengxenye ebalulekile yobuhlobo.

Yini esesikalini? Isisekelo sokukhulumisana okuhle kungukubambisana. I-3E, ngokungafani ne-CHE no-ME kuqinisekile.

Ungafunda kanjani? Akudingekile ukugcina amarekhodi ezenzo ezinhle. Yenza nje lokho ongakwenza kwabanye abantu futhi ungangabazi ukuzibuza uma kudingeka.

Ukunakekela ingane
"Ekusebenzeni kokuqala wawuyizwi ngemuva kwesiteji, futhi manje - i-hemp?" ME isimo esinjalo siyolimaza. Kodwa ukuthola ukuthi kungani kwenzeka, ngeke. Noma uzothi kumntanami: "Ungaqhubeki eminye imisebenzi," noma uzohlambalaza: "Kungani ungafuni indima evamile?" I-CHE isifikile isikhathi eside kumfundisi, futhi engqondweni yakhe, wonke umuntu wazi ukuthi ingane kufanele idlale kuphela amakhosazana. Kungenjalo, izikhalazo mayelana nokuphulwa kwamalungelo abantwana kanye nokuntuleka kobuchwepheshe babothisha. I-ZE ingafinyelela kuleyo nkinga evela ezinhlangothini ezahlukene. Ungakwazi ukusekela ingane: "Kodwa uzobe uhamba kahle kakhulu!", Futhi mhlawumbe hamba ukhulume nothisha uma ekholelwa ukuthi ingane yakhe ilimaza okuthile ngokuhlelekile.

Yini esesikalini? Abantu abane-egoism enempilo bayakwazi kangcono ukufundisa nokuqondisa izingane. Bazizwa, yiziphi izimo ezinika ingane inkululeko eyengeziwe, futhi lapho kungadingekile ukwenza izikholo, lapho kubalulekile ukukhombisa ukunakekelwa okuphezulu nokuvikelwa kwezintshisekelo, nokuthi nini ukunikeza ingane ngokwakhe ukuqonda ukuxabana.

Ungafunda kanjani? Zama ukungaboni ingane yakho, kodwa ukumbona njengomuntu ozimele. Le ndlela isisiza ukuba ungadluliseli imizwa yakho nemicabango yakho kumntanakho noma indodakazi yakho ("Ngiyazi kangcono ukuthi ingane yami idinga ini", "Angibazi ukuthi uyayithanda").

Uma kunakekelwa
Isimo: wakhetha i-blender esitolo, futhi abathengisi bemi ekhoneni elide, bexoxa, futhi bangasondeli nawe. I-DO izokuma futhi ilinde ngokuthula izixhumanisi ukuze zizinake. Noma uzophenduka abuyele ekhaya, ebuka esitolo kusasa. I-CHE ngeke ilahlekelwe kanjalo futhi ingakwazi ukuhlela kalula i-scuffle ne-scandal: "Kungani kufanele ngimi lapha futhi ngikulindele ukuba wenze umsebenzi wakho?! Uphi lapho uthola khona incwadi?" Futhi kubangelwa ukuphakama kwabantu futhi nethuba lokubonisa amandla namandla. I-ZE izama ukungaphazamisi inqwaba eyodwa isenzo ngokwazo kanye nemizwelo kule ndaba. Uma ebona ukuthi uqala ukuphazamiseka yizinto ezimbi (ukucasuka okumele alinde, isifiso sokukhipha amandla aphansi), uphendulela ikhanda lakhe: "Ngize lapha ukuthenga i-blender, ngakho ngizophendukela kumdayisi, futhi ngizophendula kanjani kubalulekile. "

Yini esesikalini? Abantu abane-egoism enempilo bayaphikisana kakhulu futhi bayakwazi ukuthola izindlela ezivela ezimo ezinzima, ukugcoba izingxenyana, kodwa ngaphandle kokuzibeka esimweni esingakhululekile. Ngakho-ke, kulula kubantu abanjalo ukuthola ulimi oluvamile nabanye.

Ungafunda kanjani? Zama ukuhlala kude nalokho okwenzeka kancane, uzibheke ngaphandle. Lokhu kuholela eqinisweni lokuthi ezimweni eziphikisanayo uzothola isithunzi futhi uthole inhlonipho efanele.

Uma ufuna ukushintsha indawo yomsebenzi
I-ME izoyesaba ukushintsha noma yini: "Yebo, angithandi ukusebenza lapha, kodwa kungaba nzima uma ngishiya." I-CHE noma ingasebenzi noma ikwazi ukuthola isikhundla esinjalo, lapho ... futhi, umunwe awunaki umunwe. Nakuba yena ngokwakhe ekholelwa ukuthi usebenza njengesigqila esikhwameni, kanti bonke abanye bayamthanda kakhulu. Kubaluleke kakhulu ukuthi iGG igculiseke ngomsebenzi wayo. Yena, ngisho nasesimweni somzimba, uvele nje adinga ibhizinisi lakhe ukuthi lilethe injabulo.

Yini esesikalini? Abantu abanomsebenzi omuhle we-egoism bahlale bethakazelisa futhi bakwenza ngenjabulo, kungani ukuphila kwabo kudlala nazo zonke izinhlobo.

Ungafunda kanjani? Cabanga ukuthi impilo yakho iyoba njani eminyakeni eyishumi. Bese uhamba kancane kancane esikhathini esidlule. Yini okudingeka uyenze nokuthi iyiphi indlela okufanele uhambe ngayo manje (eminyakeni emibili, iminyaka emihlanu, njll) ukuze ufeze lokho okufunayo? Yileyo ndlela amaphupho aphenduka ngayo izinhlelo zangempela.