Namuhla futhi kwadingeka ulalele izikhalazo zomfundisi: "Uphinde alume ..." Ingane yakho ibukeka ihlazekile kancane, kodwa kubonakala sengathi akazisoli kakhulu ngalokho akwenzile. Udidekile futhi awukwazi ukuthi ungasabela kanjani ngokufanele kulokho "ukuziphatha okuyimfihlo". Ingabe kufanele ngishaye, ngijezise, noma ngithemba ukuthi kuzodlula ngokwayo? Ngeshwa, i-kusaka encane ingabhekwa kalula ngokuthi "ingane eyinkimbinkimbi", kumama ohambahambayo bayombuka ngokucophelela futhi bangase baxwayise ngisho nezingane zabo ekukhulumeni neyakho. Yiqiniso, lokhu kuziphatha akuyona imvelo, cishe wonke umntwana okungenani kanye "wabonisa amazinyo." Kodwa ukuze ugweme i-band of alienation emntwaneni wakho, kufanele uthathe izinyathelo uphinde umchazele ukuthi kunezinye izindlela zokuveza imizwa engalungile, encane kakhulu futhi ebuhlungu. Ngomntwana omncane, umlomo yingxenye ebalulekile yomzimba, exhunywe nokuthola injabulo ekutsheni nasekucwaningeni izinto, ngakho-ke kuyinto yemvelo ukuthi ubonisa ukunganaki ngomlomo namazinyo. Futhi lapho ekulonda wena noma ingane yakho ukuhamba, lokhu akuyona neze isenzo sokuhlukumezeka, ngokuvamile uvele nje efuna ukunakwa, ukukhuluma, okungukuthi, uzama ngokuqondile ukulimaza ucezu lwayithandayo. Ingane encane ine-repertoire encane kakhulu yokuphendula ngokomzwelo, ngakho-ke ukulunywa kungabonisa kokubili uthando nomzamo wokuheha, nokuthukuthela. I-silulumagama yakhe isengaphansi kakhulu, futhi kumele asebenzise noma iyiphi indlela ekhona yokukhuluma.
Abantu bomdabu
"Isihluthulelo" sokuqala somntwana siba ngumama, ngoba sivusa kuye imizwa enamandla kunazo zonke nokuphikisanayo, kusuka othandweni ukufutheka. Ingabe umvumele into ethile? Futhi uye wakunuma! Ingane encane yenza ngokuphazamiseka, ngesimiso sokuthi "ukushukumisa-ukusabela", futhi ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, imithetho oyibekayo iyomsiza ekwehliseni izenzo ongazithandiyo. Ungazivumeli ukuluma, umise umntwana ngamazwi: "Angikwazi ukuluma." Ungamhlaziyi ingane, umbize okubi futhi uyisinengiso: akasazi kahle ukuziphatha kwalolu daba, futhi umsebenzi wakho ukunikeza izincazelo ezidingekayo. Ungalume ingane isabela, izama ukukhombisa ukuthi ibuhlungu kanjani: emehlweni akhe lokhu kuyisenzo esiyinkinga. Ukungazinaki ukuziphatha kwakhe akufanelekile - ingane izobona lokhu njengembonakaliso ye-numbness yakho futhi izoqhubeka nokuzama kuze kube yilapho ithola ukuphendula okuqondakalayo. Kumntwana oqaphela ukuthi kwenzekani kuye, udinga ukukhombisa ukuxhumana phakathi kwemizwa yakhe nokuziphatha kwakhe: "Awujabuli. Awutholanga lokho owawukufunayo, ngakho wamanga umngane wakho. Ngakho akudingeki ukwenze futhi. Awukwazi ukuluma. " Futhi-ke, kuyadingeka ukuphawula ukuthi i-bite ibuhlungu kakhulu. Qaphela: uma ingane ihlasela umzalwane omncane, kufanele ungenele ngokushesha.
Isifundo sokudibanisa
Ekuhambeni, impikiswano ebhakedeni noma i-scapula ingaba khona ngokushesha, futhi manje amazinyo aqaliswa. Ungalindeli ukuthuthukiswa kwemicimbi, ngokushesha ungenele: "Sicela uxolise kumngane wakho." Ingabe uyaqhubeka? Khona-ke ungathi, "Ngicela umngane wakho ukuba athethelele, ngoba manje usithukuthele kakhulu futhi awukwazi ukukwenza ngokwakho." Lapho ingane ihlaziya, unganikeza izincazelo eziningiliziwe: "Ngiyaqonda ukuthi uthukuthele, kodwa awukwazi ukuziphatha ngale ndlela. Amazinyo akho angaluma i-apula, isangweji, kodwa akufanele alume izingane! "Kodwa akwanele ukusho ukuthi awukwazi ukuluma, udinga ukutshela ingane ukuthi ungabonisa kanjani imizwelo emibi ngenye indlela - isibonelo, ukubonisa ubuso, amagama, uhlobo oluthile lwesenzo. Chaza ingane: "Kwabanye baqonde ukuthi uthukuthele, akulona ukuthi uyaluma, ungakhansela, noma unqume unyawo lwakho, noma usho okuthile" ngezwi "elifuthekayo." Bonisa imizwelo yakho ngokucacile nangokucacile ukuze ingane ingakulingisa.
Khululwa
Uma umntwana eqhubeka eduma, phendule kuye izincazelo zakho njalo ngaphambi kokuya e-nursery yosuku, inkulisa noma ukuhamba uye epaki. Naphezu kwezinyathelo ezithathwe, umntwana uyaqhubeka eduma? Mhlawumbe kufanele ucabange ukuthi yini engase ibangele ukunganaki kwengqondo, ingabe ulungile emndenini wakho nakubungane bakho nengane? Futhi, ekugcineni, kumsize ukuba asuse amandla angaphezu kwamandla nemizwelo emibi. Umsebenzi wokuzivocavoca umzila omuhle kakhulu wokukhulula amandla, futhi injabulo yokuthutha nokuhlala umzimba wayo iyolinganisela ingane, izomsiza ukuba abe nokuthula nokuthula. Futhi kuwe kubalulekile ukugcina ukukhuthazela nokuqiniseka ngokufanele kwelayini lezemfundo oyikhethile, futhi maduzane ingane ngokwayo iyoyeka lo mkhuba oyingozi.
Qaphela, kancane!
Uma isisulu se "kusaka" singumntanakho, zama ukumbuza ukuthi kwenzeka kanjani, mduduze futhi umcele ukuthi akhulume ngokushesha ngalezi zenzakalo kumuntu omdala futhi angalokothi abuye. Geza ngobumnono ukulunywa ngesepha bese usebenzisa i-compress ebandayo kakhulu noma i-cube ye-ice ukuzolalisa ubuhlungu.