Ukuze baqonde ukuthi bangachazela kanjani izindlalifa lezi zinto ezinzima, abazali kudingeka baqale babone izisusa ezibangela ingane ukuba iqale ngokuphindaphindiwe ingoma yakhe: "Futhi uPeter uphonsa isihlabathi ..."
Uma ikhodi yobugebengu ye-kindergarten ayikho umqondo wokuthi "ukucabanga kokungabulungi", lokhu akusho ukuthi abantu abadala nabo bangayinaki. Akukuhle ukubiza ingane isifebe uma ishukunyiswa umgomo omuhle, noma ngabe ngabe uyedwa kuphela. Okokuqala, kudingeka sithole ukuthi kungani le nsizwa "ibeke" i-waswolf Vova noma i-Lenochka ehahayo. Kunzima ukuba isenkulisa ukubala izenzo zakhe izinyathelo ezimbalwa ezandulelayo futhi ukubikezela imiphumela yabo, ngakho-ke, uma uqhuba "ukuphikisana", kugcizelele njalo ukuthi lesi sikhathi sakhe sokungathembeki okungenakuqhathanisa kuye kwamlimaza kanjani futhi kanjani ukuthi izenzakalo zingakhula kanjani uma ingane yayithule. Ngikholelwa, bambalwa kakhulu ama-sycophants ajabulela ukusola (nakuba, yiqiniso, lezi zinhlobo ezimangalisayo zikhona!).
Lo "olungile" nezingane ezithembekile uye wazisebenzisa ukuthembela ngokuphelele kumama nobaba. Uma abazali bengekho, amandla abo ahamba kahle kumfundisi: akagcini nje ilungelo lokudla i-karapuza ne-semolina porridge, kodwa futhi nelungelo lokuba ngowokuqala ukufunda konke okwenzekile kuye. I-parrot ekhwaza ukuthi ama-tigers akabiki inyama e-zoo iyinkukhu ephuzi enombala ophuzi uma kuqhathaniswa nengane ezama ukuthola zonke iziphutha kanye nokugqithela emkhakheni wokulinganisa wabelwane. Kungenzeka yini ukufihla iqiniso lokubamba isinkwa ngezandla ezingahlanjulwanga? Ungakuqapheli kanjani imithwalo ehamba ngezinyawo ezungeze ekamelweni? Ingane efunde kahle imithetho ethile yokuziphatha (etafuleni noma ngesikhathi "ihora elizolile") ngobuqotho izama ukuyilandela - futhi idinga okufanayo kwabanye. Izingane azizwa zihlukumeze izingane zikhononda, nje nje amaphupho okuthula nokuhleleka eqenjini lonke - ngendlela efanayo uPavlik Morozov wayekade efuna injabulo ngobuqotho kuzo zonke izakhamuzi zaseSoviet. Uma abantu abadala bashaya eceleni umbiko olandelayo, bayakubona lokhu njengokunganaki futhi baqale ukufeza imisebenzi "yombukeli" onamandla aphindwe kabusha.
Ungamkhohlisa kanjani ukuba 'aphume emasontweni'? "Chaza ingane ukuthi umehluko phakathi kwezenzo zokuziphendulela nokuziphendulela: uma i-Vasya iphule indebe, imshaya ngephutha ngephutha, awudingi ukumgweba ngaphambi kweqembu lonke. Kodwa uzwelana nomfana ongathandeki futhi umsize ukuba aqoqe izingcezu, Yebo, kuwufanele. "Susa indlalifa emithwalweni yomthwalo wemfanelo yezenzo zabanye abantwana. Inkinga yengane encane yukuthi uma omunye umuntu enza kabi, le kid lilokhu lizwa enecala - lidalula umphumela weqiniso weso sigameko kuphela ukuze kukhishwe lokhu okungahambi kahle. Phakamisa okuyi-crumb yalolu khetho: alusebenzi kubantu abadala, futhi iningi lizama ukusiza "umgebengu" ukulungisa isimo - ukuqoqa amathoyizi ndawonye, ukubeka isandla esinqunyiwe idonsa noma ukusula ipulazi phansi. »Siza ingane ukuba iphumule. Umlenze wokulwa phakathi 'nehora elizolile' kufanele empeleni kubangele injabulo nokuhleka, hhayi ukulinda ukukhathazeka okushiwo noma ukujeziswa ngendlala. "Fundisa ingane ukuba imelane nokucindezelwa kwabantu abadala. Ungadlala indima yesimo esivamile - "uthisha udinga ukuba utshele ingane yengane engcolisiwe." Ingane kufanele iqiniseke ukuthi umama nobaba ngeke bamthukuthele uma enqaba "ukuvuma." Phela, uvele usho ukuthi akulungile ukudukisa.
Le ngane ayithembi kakhulu ontanga yakhe futhi ikhetha ukuhlala eduze nabantu abadala. Ngisho noma uthisha - ukupaka u-Froken Bock, ingane isalindele ukuvikelwa nokusekelwa kwayo uma kwenzeka ukuphikisana noontanga. Ngenxa yokukhathazeka kwakhe okwedlulele, iPanicer ijwayele ukugcizelela ukuthi ingozi ingenzeka kanjani: omunye umuntu uyifungile noma waze wamthinta ngengozi - futhi lo mgwaqo usuvele uhlabelela ukuthi ushaywa. Ekubonisweni kwezingane ezinjalo, uthisha uyinhlangano enhle kakhulu, okungukuthi, umuntu ohlanganisa imisebenzi yephoyisa, umculi womlilo, umsindisi, udokotela ophuthumayo kanye nomqhubi wezinsiza. Yiqiniso, akuwona wonke "uMaryvanna" onqwenela ukwenza izinto eziqhubekayo, ngakho-ke emva kokunye "ukushaywa kwamanga" uthisha umane nje uqala ukusuka emntwaneni bese eyeka ukuphendula ngamazwi akhe: "Yazi wena!" Futhi yini evame ukuba ngumuntu okhononda isikhalazo? Kulungile, ucela ezinye izimo - ngamanye amazwi, uyabhonga ebusuku, amaphoyinti achaza umama wakhe nobaba impilo yakhe ehlaselwe yinkinga, ekhononda kwabanye abazali endaweni yokudlala futhi abuye akwazi ukwabelana ngokuhlupheka kwakhe nomlindi esitolo esiseduze.
Ungamnciphisa kanjani?
Ungabi nobuvila emathanjeni ukuze uhlukanise isimo ngasinye sokukhathazeka kwengane. Uma ithoyizi isuswa kuye, thola ukuthi yini eyandulele lesi senzo esivusa amadlingozi. Izingane ezineminyaka engaphansi kweminyaka emihlanu kunzima ukwabelana ngezenzakalo ezingokoqobo nezingokoqobo. Isibonelo sokuqala: i-helicopter lapho ingane ifuna ukuyidlala khona, owokuqala wabanjwa ngumngani wakhe ebhokisini le-sandbox. Qapha! Kufanele utshele abazali bakho ngakho ngokushesha! Kulesi simo, umama onengqondo akufanele ambekezele ingane, futhi amchazele ngokuthula ukuthi kungani impikiswano ethi "ngifuna kuqala" ayisebenzi. Uma i-Paniker yakho ithi umfundisi uyamemeza, ungasheshi ukugijima ensimini ukuze ukwaneliseke: mhlawumbe uthisha ubhekisela eqenjini lonke ngesidingo sokugqoka ngokushesha, kodwa i-egocentrism ivimbele ingane ukuba ikwazi ukuqonda amagama akhe ngokwanele. Ukulalela izikhalazo zentsha, uhlukanise izingozi zangempela nezenganekwane - futhi umfundise ukwenza okufanayo. Uma uPetya esongela ukuphonsela uMishin isisindo seNyanga, uMisha akadingi ukubiza usizo kumfundisi-kangcono kunokumemeza okwesabekayo ukutshela umonile ukuthi i-Pantyhose yakhe izobe eseMars. "Ngaphandle kokungenangqondo uqinisekise ingane ukuthi uyomsekela njalo futhi uyivikele, kodwa udinga ukucela usizo ezimweni ezinzima kakhulu. Ezimweni ezijwayelekile zansuku zonke, kufanele azame ukuzibona eyedwa.
Isikhali
Izingane ezinjalo zivumelane kahle nokuphila kwe-enkulisa, nakuba zingashadile emvelo. Ama-Strategist ayakwazisa injabulo elula: amakhukhi we-mid-morning snack, egijima azungeze enkantolo, i-dis ngezingoma ezivela emidwebo kanye nombala nge-Spiderman. Futhi ngeke bayeke imisebenzi yabo oyintandokazi namathoyizi ngenxa yezinyathelo ezithile ze-hoodlum Sidorov. Ukwesaba ukujeziswa noma ukulahlekelwa idumela "ingane elalelayo" kwenza ingane ihlale ihlukaniswe neontanga, ngakho-ke, ngokushesha nje lapho umhlengikazi ebonakala emkhakheni wombono weS Strategist, uya kuye futhi ubhale ukuthi ngubani nokuthi yini enecala ngokusho kwamaphuzu. Kwenzeka ukuthi isisusa esiyinhloko salokhu kuziphatha uthando nguthisha. Ake ucabange nje: uMaryvanna osizi kahle ubheka ubisi obuswe ngumuntu ongaziwa - futhi lapha emkhunjini omhlophe ogijima ngamahhashi ubonakala umculi wezinkampani zokuhlenga, ngokukhathazeka ngokukhipha isambatho ngesigqoko sejazi futhi embule iqiniso. Akulona iqiniso, ingabe ubuhle? Ngendlela, Isu-amantombazane angabheka kahle uthisha njengomngane wabo omkhulu. Futhi yini? Ngokumelene nobudala obuncane bomntwana wengane, uMaryvanna ubheka inhlonipho kakhulu, unento okumele akhulume ngayo, futhi kubalulekile, njalo unento enhle. Eqinisweni, izintombi zangempela kufanele zihlanganyele nomunye nomunye emhlabeni, kufaka phakathi ulwazi mayelana nokuthi kwenzekani eqenjini. Ungamkholisa kanjani ukuba avule umzila ohambayo? "Chaza ingane ukuthi awukwazi ukudlala ukubambisana uthisha futhi awugibeli ukusuka egqumeni - kulungile futhi kumnandi ukukwenza kanye noontanga. Uma ingane ibalulekile ukuzwa ubuhlobo obuseduze nothisha, cabanga ngendima angayenza ngokushiya indima yommemezeli (izinketho ezinhle - ukuhlanganiswa etafuleni noma ukubeka izinto zokwakha emakilasini). "Zama ukukholisa ukuthi ukuhlukunyezwa okukhulunywe yiontanga kuyingozi nakakhulu kunokuhlambalaza noma ukusongelwa komuntu omdala. Siza indlalifa ukuba isondelane nabo ekilasini: mema omunye wezingane ukuthi avakashele noma ahambe ndawonye emva kwensimu. Ngokushesha nje lapho iStategist eqala ukuzwa imizwa efudumele yontanga yakhe, uzoqonda: Ukubonga komngane nge "nedonositelstvo" kubaluleke kakhulu kunokwamukelwa yothisha!
Umqaphi
Maye, emhlabeni kukhona ukunganaki okuyingqayizivele, okuyiyona ndlela eyinhloko ethonya onontanga. Umphathi we-manipulator wayefuna ukudlala i-hockey yetafula "ngaphandle komugqa"? Ayikho inkinga - kufanele uhambe kumuntu omdala, cindezela izinyembezi bese ukhononda ngobuqotho: "Abafana bebelokhu bedlala isikhathi eside, kodwa banginiki!" Angikwazi kanjani ukugwema umuntu ohluphekayo? Futhi manje usuvele ephikisana ngezandla zakhe ngokuzethemba futhi ethumela i-puck emgomweni, futhi akanandaba nokuthukuthela okungokomthetho kwezingane eziphoqelelwe ukuyeka umdlalo. Ngokuvamile, i-Manipulator ayidingi ngisho nokukhononda. Kwanele nje ukukhumbuza umphikisi mayelana nokucasula okuphumelelayo kwangaphambilini, okusongela: "Ngizokutshela ngakho konke, njengaleso sikhathi!" Kwenziwe! Manje ungakwazi ukuvula ngokukhululekile iphakethe le-pocket bese uqoqa inkokhelo: amaswidi, ukuhlaziya izinsini, izinsimbi noma izingxenye ezitholakali ezivela kumklami. Futhi uMalpulator akenzi nje ngenxa yenzuzo, kubalulekile kuye futhi ukucasula lowo amkhononda ngaye. Yabed ngezinye izikhathi ngenhloso yokwedlulisa icala lomunye ingane noma ukuphazamisa okushiwo okwenzekayo - izizathu zalokhu kuziphatha kungaba umhawu, umhawu noma isenzo esingahlali isikhathi eside esingajabuli. Phakathi kwama-Manipulators ngokuvamile kunezingane ezisetshenziselwa ukuzama ukuzama ukunakekelwa kwabazali bazo. Ekhalaza umfowabo noma udadewabo omncane, omncanyana uzama ukuvula amehlo kunina (ubaba, ugogo): bheka-ke, ubheke yini esifubeni sakho! Kubi, kodwa mina, ngokuphambene nalokho, kumane kumangalisa! Ngemuva kokuqeqeshwa okuningi ezihlotsheni zabo, izinyane lithatha isipiliyoni esithintekile kanye nobuhlobo nabangane.
Ungambuyisela kanjani kumkhondo weqiniso? "Uma kukhona izingane ezimbili noma ngaphezulu emndenini, ungakhuthazi ukuphikisana phakathi kwabo - asikho isidingo sokubanika" okusheshayo "," okulalelayo "noma" okunembile kakhulu. " Kulungile kakhulu - ukuhlanganisa ithimba "elinobungane lokusabalalisa umbhede wombane." "Uma abafowethu nodadewethu bekhalaza ngomunye nomunye, balalele ngokuthula izimpikiswano zomuntu ngamunye futhi basikisele ukuthi uqonde isimo sokuphikisana ndawonye. Kubalulekile ukuthi abantwana bakubone njengomphambanisi, hhayi isandla sokujezisa. Izinsana zabazali abathintekayo kakhulu bayaziqonda ngokushesha: kubalulekile ukuba bagule noma baze babambe kanzima, njengoba umama nobaba bephonsa zonke izinto ezibalulekile bese begijima ukusiza. Ngakho-ke londoloza ingane ekudingeni ukukhombisa ukuhlushwa kwesihogo ngenxa yokuqala emadolweni, ukuze uthole umzuzu owengeziwe wesikhathi sakho! Hug and kiss it njengoba kunjalo, bahloniphe plasticine koloboks futhi udumo for amathoyizi abanjwe - ngeke ukulahlekelwa wena, kodwa the crumb uzothola share yayo ukunakwa ngaphandle kokusebenzisa tricks ezingadingekile. "Uma uye walindela indlalifa kumngani omkhulu kakhulu, ungadumisi umuntu ozobhalwa yizivakashi - kufanele abe ohlakaniphile, onolwazi, onesizotha, nokuthi angasiza kanjani unina! Kungcono ukunikeza ingane ithuba lokuqonda ngokuzimela ukuthi umngani omusha ufana nani.
Umbono wokuziphatha kwabanye ukhula kanye nekhono lokuhlaziya nokukhiqiza, ngakho-ke ukudinga ingane encane ukuba igcine ulimi lwayo ngaphandle kwezingqinamba zokuziphatha akulutho neze. Isifiso sokubelana ngemibono yakho, imicabango, izikhalazo noma ukucabangela kuyinto ejwayelekile, umbuzo wukuthi 'ungahlakulela' kanjani isidingo esivuthayo sokuxoxa ngokuziphatha kwabanye abantu. Ngonyaka ngamunye - iresiphi yakho! Ingane engaphansi kweminyaka engama-4 ubudala, ingemuva komnyango wendlu kababa, iziphatha njengomhlahlandlela we-Odessa: uyagubuzela, ihlambalaza, ikhomba ngomunwe wayo futhi ifuna ukuthi uyazi ukuthi "umalume wami uphala kanjani phansi" nokuthi "u-anti wami waphonsa i-candy wrapper futhi akazange ashaye ibhokisi" . Uma ngokuzumayo engazange uzwe lo mlayezo obalulekile, ingane izoyiphinda iphinde ikhulume kakhulu - ngakho ukuthi u-anti osevele ushiye urn ngamamitha ayikhulu uzophendulela futhi abuyele emuva ukuze akhulume uhlangothi olubi oluphethwe phansi bese ulithumela lapho eya khona. Ngalesi sikhathi isisekelo sesimo sengqondo sezwe sabekwa, ngakho-ke kubalulekile ukuthi abazali bangabi abavilapha futhi bachaze ngokuningiliziwe izisusa zabanye abantu. Kuyinto efiselekayo ukunikeza izinguqulo ezahlukene zalokho okwenzekile: "Mhlawumbe, umama wami akazange aqaphele ukuthi i-wrapper yaqhutshwa kanjani umoya. Noma mhlawumbe umhlane wakhe uyabuhlungu futhi kunzima ukuba aguqe. " Vumela i-karapuza ibe nombono omuhle wabanye - ungagxeki abantu ngezinto ezincane, ungawabhali futhi uzame ukugwema amagama "okuhle" futhi "amabi." Ingane kule minyaka ibalulekile ukwazi ukuthi abantu abadala bahlola kanjani izenzo zabanye. Ingane izama ukuqhathanisa imithetho yokuziphatha eyamukelwa emndenini neminye imibono yabantu mayelana nokuphila. Kuvela ukuthi uTanya uvunyelwe ukuthatha amaswidi ngaphambi kokudla ukudla, uma ethembisa ukuthi uzodla lonke isobho! Futhi manje ingane yakho iqinisekisiwe nje - kufanele ushiye ngokushesha ukubandlulula ngamaswidi bese umnika isikhwama se-caramel. Yini?! Omunye akashisi ngesifiso sokulindela i-borsch ne-sugar candies?! Awukwazi ukungabaza - ugogo kaTanya uzokwaziswa nakanjani ukuthi "umama uyangiphatha kabi". Ngaphansi kwalolu culo oluvuthiwe, usengenza indlu yokukhohlisa - bese uTanina Ugogo ubukhulu benkululeko yanele ukwenza omunye umntwana ajabule. Futhi uma ungenayo ngokwanele, khona-ke, thola owesifazane omdala ohahayo, uthole: "Futhi ubaba uthi yonke imindeni yakho ikhuluphele, ngoba udla amaswidi amaningi!" Ingane izinikela emhlabeni njengengxenye ebalulekile yomndeni wayo - ibhekana nesisusa, uma ibhizinisi lomuntu libonakala lihamba kangcono, futhi alifihleli injabulo lapho abazali bakhe bephumelela noma behle kakhulu kunamanye amama nobaba. Kubalulekile ukuchazela indlalifa ukuthi emndenini ngamunye amasiko awo, ukukhuluma ukuthi lezi zithethe zikhula kanjani nokuthi kungani abantu bekhetha ukuziphatha ngale ndlela, futhi kungenjalo. Ingane kufanele ifunde ukuthi esimweni esifanayo ungenza ngezindlela ezehlukene - khona-ke kuyoba khona isizathu esincane sezikhalo.
Izinhlelo ezinyaka emihlanu kancane kancane ziqala ukuthuthukisa ukuzethemba. Ngenkathi esalokhu engazinzile kakhulu, kulula ukuba ingane ikhulise inani layo ngokunciphisa izimfanelo zabanye abantu - "ukusola" ngalunye kweontanga noma abantu abadala baqinisekisa nje isimo sabo esiphakeme. Kuyathakazelisa ukuthi kule minyaka yobudala abantwana basabela kakhulu ngokubheka izikhalo ekhelini labo: ngisho nalapho bezwa benecala ngesenzo esibi, abakwazi ukuthethelela lowo owathatha indawo yommangali. Ukuze ulondoloze izinto ezingenalutho kusuka e-megalomania, udinga ukumqinisekisa ukuthi kungaba okubi noma kuhle ngokwayo, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi kwenzekani ezinye izingane. Wonke umuntu angaba iphutha, kepha umuntu oqinile uzama ukulungisa iphutha lakhe, futhi angaqala ukubuka amaphutha abanye abantu. Uma othile emini ephuka isinkwa, ungakhononda uthisha - kungcono ukubona ukuthi kukhona yini imvuthu epulazini yakho.
Kusukela ku-6 nangaphezulu, ukulungele ukuya esikoleni, umntwana uzama ukubuka ovuthiwe futhi azibonakalise nomuntu ovela kubadala: indodana, ekhononda njengendoda endala, ihlala njalo
i-sofa eduze komkhulu wami, indodakazi yami, ukukopisha igama lomama, ukumbotela udonsa, njll. I-crumb iqala ukuhlanganyela ngokulinganayo izindinganiso zomndeni futhi, lapho ihlangabezana nokuphulwa kwemigomo eyamukelwa ekhaya, ifuna ukuthuthukisa isimo. Indlalifa isivele ijwayele imiqondo yokuthi "ukukhwabanisa", "ukwesaba" nokukhohliswa, ngakho-ke, ngosizo lwakho, usevele ekwazi ukuqonda umehluko phakathi kokucindezeleka nokuthola usizo. Ngidinga ukutshela abantu abadala ukuthi abafana banqume ukubeka umlilo ku-poplar fluff eceleni kwebhokisi le-transformer? Ingabe kufanelekile ukubiza umfundisi uma iqembu lonke lidlala idada ngesihluthulelo sentombazane eyingozi kakhulu? Le mibuzo eyinkimbinkimbi kakhulu kusukela ekubukeni kwecebo leminyaka eyisithupha icela abazali ukuba babe nokuhlakanipha okungavamile. Udinga ukuchaza ngokucacile ingane ukuthi, lapho wenza isinqumo, akufanele agxile ezifisweni zabanye, kodwa ngemibono yakhe ngemiphumela yezenzo ezithile. Nikela ingane i-algorithm yezenzo ezinjalo: "cela ama-pranksters ayeke ukumnandi okuyingozi; "Nikeza abangani enye indlela (isibonelo, ukunikeza isigqoko sakhe isichotho, kodwa hhayi ukungena emdlalweni); "Uma isiphakamiso sinqatshiwe, xwayisa ngenhloso yokukhononda kumuntu omdala; "Isixwayiso asizange sisebenze? Ungacela ngokuphepha usizo kumfundisi noma kumzali! Esihlokweni sethu esithi "Ingane iphinde ibe isitibhaka se-koryabed, futhi futhi" endala "ufunde ukuthi ungaziphatha kanjani nomuntu omncane omubi ohlale ekhononda.