Ungazwa imibono ephikisanayo ngocansi ngemuva kokubeletha. Eminye imindeni iyesaba lokhu, abanye bakubheka njengokujwayelekile. Odokotela bathi emva kokubeletha, ungaba nobulili - kodwa ngokucophelela. Ochwepheshe baphendula ngemibuzo ephuthumayo kakhulu mayelana nobulili ngemuva kokuzalwa kwengane.
Ngasiphi isikhathi lapho kungenzeka khona ukuba uhlanganyele ocansini emva kwezinhlobo noma ukusebenza? Odokotela bavame ukuncoma okungenani amasonto ayisithupha ngokuziqeda ngemuva kokubeletha. Kodwa qaphela ukuthi kunabesifazane abaningi, ngoba izinyanga ezintathu zokuphumula "akwanele". Isinqumo sokugcina singomunye wesifazane nodokotela wakhe kuphela. Konke kuncike ekutheni ukuphuma kwegazi sekuphelile, okwenzeke ngesikhathi sokusebenza (i-episiotomy), ukukhathala nezinye izinto eziningi ezingokomzimba nezingokwengqondo. Emasontweni okuqala emva kokubeletha, ukuvuthwa kwengqondo kwabantwana abancane kuyabhekwa. Uma bebambe iqhaza ngokugcwele ekunakekeleni ingane, ngokushesha omusha omusha uzophinde athole amandla. Kubandakanya ubulili.
Kungcono kuphi ukulala ocansini emva kokubeletha? Ukukhulelwa nokubeletha kungumzimba wesifazane umthwalo omkhulu wengqondo nomzimba. Futhi lokhu kufanele kucatshangelwe. Okokuqala, ungakhetha izikhundla lapho ijubane, ukujula kokungena nokuqina kweminyango kulawulwa kangcono. Akufanele uqinisekise amandla omuntu nokuqina komuntu wesifazane. Uma ulala ocansini emva kokubeletha, ukuthakazelisa, ukwethula nokubaluleka kubalulekile kuqala. Owesifazane kubalulekile ukwazi ukuthi ngisho nangemva kokubeletha, uyathandwa futhi uyathandwa. Isikhundla sezithunywa zevangeli ngezihumusho zayo ezihlukahlukene sikhuthazwa. Futhi, uma owesifazane ephezulu futhi ngokwakhe elawula ukuqina nokujula kokungena kwepenisi. Futhi, umuntu kufanele aqaphele kakhulu futhi asabele kunoma yiziphi izimpawu zobuhlungu noma ukunganaki okungase kuphakame ngenxa yezenzo zabalingani.
Ungayithatha kanjani isondo ngemva kwesigaba sokuqeda? Konke kuncike ekutheni isilonda siphulukisa kanjani. Umzimba wesifazane emva kwesigaba sokuyeka ukuvame ukuphendula ngokuphawulekayo ekushintsheni kwama-hormonal. Ngaphezu kwalokho kunabesifazane ababeletha ngokwemvelo. Isikhundla esiphezulu nesiphephile yisimo sezithunywa zevangeli kuzo zonke izinhlobo zayo. Futhi i-pose ngehlangothini kanye ne-pose yomgibeli.
Kungani i-vagina ngezinye izikhathi isomile kakhulu? Ukumelela kwama-vaginal kubonakala kubesifazane abaningi ngemva kokubeletha. Futhi kungenye yezizathu ukuthi omama abancane bahlukumeze ngokobulili izinyanga ezimbalwa. Okubalulekile ukuthi i-vagina ayinikezi lubisi olwanele, okwenza uthando lukhuni futhi lubuhlungu. Ukushisa komzimba kubangelwa ikakhulukazi ngenxa yokuntuleka kwamahomoni. Noma kunjalo, lokhu kungavinjelwa kalula nge-gel esondayo esondayo. Ngendlela, lezi zidakamizwa kufanele zisetshenziswe njengeziqalo ezinhle kakhulu zokuqala.
Kuthiwani uma owesifazane egwema ucansi ngemuva kokubeletha? Abantu abaningi akudingeki benze lutho, vele unikeze ikhefu. Kodwa lokhu kuyiphutha! Kufanele siqaphele izizathu ezihlukahlukene zokunciphisa i-libido yomlingani bese uzama ukulungisa lesi simo. Uma owesifazane enamahloni okweqile ngokweqile, okungakaze ahlasele, le ndoda kumele imane iveze uthando lwakhe olukhulu ngomzimba wayo. Uma owesifazane ekhathele ukunakekelwa kwengane, indoda kumele ilayishe futhi ithathe umthwalo omkhulu ngangokunokwenzeka. Uma owesifazane esaba ubuhlungu obungase kwenzeke ngesikhathi sokuqokwa, lo muntu kufanele amqinisekise ukuthi uzokwenza konke ngobumnene nangokucophelela. Uma ukwenza uthando kumthanda umntwana, ungathola njalo isikhathi. Isibonelo, lapho elele.
Ngingamncelisa yini umama wami wokuncelisa? Yebo. Kodwa mayelana nendlela efanele yokondla amabele, kungcono ukubuza ochwepheshe. Abaningi abanakekeli abakwazi ukucabanga ukuthi umuntu angathinta amabele esikhundleni somntwana, ngisho namadoda abo. Kukhona nabesifazane abaphambene nalokho, uma amabele abo engacindezelwa izinyanga ezimbalwa. Esikhathini sokuqala, indoda kufanele ihloniphe imizwa yowesifazane futhi igxile kwezinye izindawo eziyingozi. Futhi kukhona okwanele kubo: entanyeni, emilenzeni, emathangeni, emuva, ezandleni, emlonyeni nakwezinye izingxenye zemfihlo zomzimba wesifazane. Esikhathini sesibili, ungakhohlwa ukuthi i-caresses kufanele ibe yinkimbinkimbi. Phela, amabele nezinsipho ngokuvamile zithinta kabi kakhulu ukuthinta. Ngaphezu kwalokho, owesilisa kufanele aqonde ukuthi ubisi lungakhuphuka ekhanda. Uma ungakhululekile ngalokhu, kungcono ukuyeka ngaphambili i-caresses futhi ungavumeli isenzakalo esingathandeki kuwe nomthandekayo wakho. Ithuba elingaphansi lwesifuba ngesikhathi se-lask yilapho usenza khona masinyane emva kokudla. Ngoba isifuba asinalutho.
Ingabe isipiliyoni socansi sizofana naso ngaphambi kokuzalwa? Hhayi ngokushesha. Ingane ngesikhathi sokubeletha kwemvelo ivula isisu. Futhi futhi kukhona i-episiotomy, ukwanda komlomo wesibeletho. Kuzothatha amasonto amaningana, futhi ngezinye izikhathi ngisho nezinyanga, ukubuyisela konke ubukhulu bayo bokuqala phakathi kwezinqulu. Odokotela abaningi bezocansi bayavuma ukuthi isikhathi esithile abalingani besifazane ababelethile abakwazi ukujabulela ubulili ngokugcwele. Noma kunjalo, kungaqinisekiswa ukuthi ngokuhamba kwesikhathi yonke into iyobuyela emuva evamile. Abesifazane bangasheshisa le nqubo ngokuqeqesha imisipha ethile ngokuzivocavoca okukhethekile. Kodwa kubalulekile ukulawula isimo sakho, ukuze ungalimazi umzimba. Ngemva kokubeletha, ungalala ocansini, kodwa emva kwesikhathi esithile.