Abantu bayathanda uma beyithola. Kodwa ngokuvamile ngenxa yokungabi nesibindi nokuzethemba, abantu abalahlekelwa amathuba, besaba ukusho lutho. Kukhona umuzwa wokunganeliseki wena ngokwakho, ukunganeliseki ngempilo yakho. Lesi simo kunzima ukulungisa, kodwa ungakwazi. Indlela yokuzizwa uqiniseka ekuphileni, funda futhi uqale ukwenza okwamanje!
Qala ngokubukeka
Yiqiniso, ukuzethemba ngokweqile kuqala ekhanda. Kodwa kungcono ukuyibuyisela ngaphandle. Sondela esibukweni, yini engabonakala? Amahlombe aqondiswe, ikhanda liphakanyisiwe, isisu sitholwe ngaphakathi, futhi imilenze ayiguqukile emadolweni. Cha? Khona-ke udinga ukuziqondisa kuma-akhawunti amathathu. Omunye - amahlombe adlulisele phambili ukuze ngemuva kugcwaliswe. Ababili - baphakamise phezulu, njengokungathi nizamazama. Amathathu - thatha amahlombe akho emuva ngangokunokwenzeka futhi uwabeke phansi. Futhi esibukweni omunye umuntu ubonakala. Inhloko iphakanyisiwe, isifuba sithumele phambili, isisu asikhiphi, imilenze yilapho. Futhi ngokushesha uzizwa uqiniseka kakhulu. Yiqiniso, kuzodingeka ubuke ukuhamba kwakho futhi ungavumeli ukuba "hump." Lokhu akuwona umsebenzi olula, kodwa ungahamba ngenxa yemihlatshelo enjalo.
Ngaphambi kokulandela ukulandela i-gait. Ukuze uzizwe uqiniseka, kudingeka uqondise emgwaqeni, uqondise amahlombe akho, uphakamise ikhanda lakho. Ngenhloko yakho phansi, akufanele uhambe nhlobo. Lokhu akugcini nje kuphela kunika umuntu ongekho, kodwa futhi ubuhlungu ukubukeka. Entanyeni kunemibimbi, okulukhuni ukuyiqeda, futhi insizwa ikhubazekile, ngenxa yalokho okuvela kwesibili nakwesithathu. Njengoba uthathe ukuhleleka okulungile, bukela isinyathelo sakho ukuze "ungafaki", ungabi "shirk" futhi ungagudluli izandla zakho ngenkathi uhamba. Uma ugqoka izicathulo nezithende, kudingeka uqaphele ukuthi ungahambi emilenzeni yakho enezintambo. Yiqiniso, kwenzeka, uzokhathala kakhulu, futhi izithende eziphakeme kakhulu kunzima ukuhamba usuku lonke. Khona-ke kungcono ukukhetha izicathulo ngejubane eliphansi, ngoba intombazane ehamba njengodada ihlekisa kakhulu futhi ngesikhathi esifanayo ibuhlungu kakhulu.
Ekuphileni azikho izihluthulelo zokuzizwa unesiqiniseko, udinga ukubheka ukuzethemba. Ngisho nalapho uhlala nje. Ukuhlala ngokuqondile, mahhala, hhayi ekuthembekeni etafuleni - kubonakala sengathi kungaba lula. Kodwa iningi lethu alisetshenziselwa ukuhlezi kanjalo. Ngakho-ke, kudingeka usebenzise ekhaya, ubukele i-TV noma ukhulume efonini. Kancane kancane kuyokwenziwa umkhuba wokuhlala kahle futhi kahle, kodwa okokuqala ukuzithiba kusadingeka.
Uzizwa uqiniseka ekuphileni kwakho uma ubheka okuhle. Owesifazane ohlotshiswe kahle uhlale enhle. Ungalokothi uvumele izingubo ezingcolile, iphunga elimnandi, noma izipikili ezingavundiwe. Uma unombono wekhulu lonke, khona-ke uzizwa uzizethemba, futhi abantu abakuzungezile bayaphawula nalokhu.
Thatha umhlaba wangaphakathi
Uma sesungule ukuzethemba kwangaphandle, siphendukela emaphakathi. Yiqiniso, ungenza okuphambene nalokho, kodwa imizwa yokuziphatha ingahlala isikhathi eside. Futhi uma isigamu sempi sesilungile, ke kulula ukwenza okuthile.
Izwi liyithuluzi elibaluleke kakhulu ekuphileni kwethu. Ezimweni ezivamile, kufanele zizwakale zizolile futhi zizethemba. Ngokuvame kakhulu ezitolo noma ezindaweni zokudlela ungabhekana nabantu, njengokungathi besaba futhi bexolisa, bakhulume nabalindi. Ngendlela efanayo, sabe sesixhumana nabalingani bethu, amakhasimende, omakhelwane. Ngakho-ke, kubalulekile ukukhuluma ngokuzethemba futhi uzizwe empilweni. Ungazijwayela futhi ezitolo noma ezitolo zokudlela. Ukucela umthengisi esitolo, noma enze umyalelo ekudleni, bukela izwi lakho. Akufanele athuthumele futhi athule kakhulu, ithoni kufanele iqiniseke. Ekugcineni, uyisiklayenti kanye nomnikazi wesimo, awunawo ozokwesaba futhi akanakho ukuxolisa. Nakulokhu, njengoba usuqale umkhuba, ngokuhamba kwesikhathi uyokwazi ukuxhumana nabo bonke ngokulinganayo kalula.
Ukuze uzizwe uqiniseka ekuphileni, kubalulekile ukuba nombuthano omkhulu wabangane. Futhi ukuze bavele, udinga ukufunda amakhono okuxhumana. Into yokuqala okudingeka uyenze ukuthi ufunde ukuthi ungaqhubeka kanjani ingxoxo. Ngokuvamile kakhulu enkampanini engajwayelekile, noma ngisho ezungezwe ozakwabo noma ofunda nabo, singaziphatha ngendlela evaliwe futhi sithule ngaso sonke isikhathi. Ngokuvamile abantu abanjalo baba abangabonakali ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, bayeka ukuqaphela. Ngakho-ke, kufanele njalo uzame ukugcina ingxoxo ihamba. Sivele sinokuzimela ngokuqiniseka, ukubukeka kahle, singakhuluma ngezwi elivamile. Ngakho ungaba namahloni ngabanye abantu. Kungenzeka ukuthi banamahloni angaphansi kweyakho, bafunde ukusifihla. Udinga ukungena ezingxoxweni ngaphandle kokwesaba ukuxoxa okuthile okungalungile. Kunoma yikuphi, ukuhlangenwe nakho kokukhulumisana hhayi nezihlobo kuzongeza ukuzethemba, futhi kusize ekutholeni kangcono ulimi oluvamile nabanye abantu. Futhi noma yisiphi isitatimende singaguqukela ngaso sonke isikhathi kuhlaya.
Futhi, okubaluleke kakhulu, ungakhohlwa ukuzidumisa. Wonke umuntu uyazi indlela yokuqeqesha ngokuzenzakalela, lapho umuntu ezama ukuzitshintsha ukuthi aguqule ngosizo lwamagama abathandekayo nokuvunywa. Ukudunyiswa kubantu abangaziwayo akutholakali njalo uma ufuna. Abantu bavame ukuxakeka ngokwabo, abanaso isikhathi sokunikeza omunye umuntu esixukwini. Kodwa unomuntu oqaphelisisa impumelelo yakho nokunqoba kwakho, wena ngokwakho. Ngenxa yokusebenza ngokwakho, ungazuza okuningi. Zithokoze kuqala, futhi abanye ngokuqinisekile bazobona ushintsho lokuba ngcono futhi baqale ukuthokoza owesifazane othakazelisayo futhi oziqinisekisayo-wena!