Ungabangela kanjani isifiso somuntu?

Indlela yokuvusa isifiso somuntu "Indoda yamaphupho ami!" Kungaba mnandi ukubala ukuthi bangaki abesifazane abacabangayo ngempela umuntu onjalo. Kungaba okuthakazelisayo nakakhulu ukuthola ukuthi bangaki babo abamukela umuntu onjalo ngokujabula okuphelele nokungenasabelo. Futhi ungabangela kanjani isifiso somuntu? Indoda, lapho owesifazane egijima, ngokuvamile akafanelekile ukunakekelwa okukhethekile. Kubonakala sengathi ingaphandle akuvamile, futhi isibalo, njengoba besho, sishaywa, futhi uNkulunkulu akazange aphuthe ingqondo. Iyini inkinga? Ungathola kanjani okufunayo?

Ake sizame ukucabangela ezinye izici zendlela abesifazane abambe ngayo, engasiza owesifazane ukuba athole indoda enomhawu. Eqinisweni, ukunqoba indoda oyithandayo akuyona neze inzima, into eyinhloko ukwazi lezizintambo okudingeka uzidwebe, ukuze ummeleli wesigamu esiphezulu somuntu anesifiso kuwe. Okokuqala, kufanele kuqondwe ngokucacile: umuntu uzwela kakhulu kulokho okukwenzeka kowesifazane, ngakho-ke ukudala isifiso somuntu, udinga ukuziphatha ngokucophelela. Uma intombazane iqala ukuhlanganyela ezithandweni zakhe noma ifuna ukufeza izifiso zakhe ngokushesha futhi ekugcineni, indoda iqala ukuzicabanga njengesipho seMonakalo, okumele owesifazane adinge ukuhola ukulwa okulimazayo, ngaphandle kwesipesheli, ithuba eliyingqayizivele lokuphumelela.

Mhlawumbe kufanelekile ukushintsha isimo kancane? Ngokwesibonelo, owesifazane uba umklomelo oyigugu kumuntu. Ukuze amnike ilungelo lokunqoba nokufeza, ngabe kungaba lula, uma kungenzeka, ukuvusa isifiso somuntu? Ake siqale ngokubonakala. Ukugqoka kahle - sonke isayensi. Owesifazane kufanele abuke okuhle, ngisho noma ephuma ukuyothenga isinkwa. Ukukhangisa kwangaphandle kudala ukuzwa ukuzethemba. Izembatho kufanele zigcizelele kancane isibalo futhi kufanele kube nesici esithile esishukumisayo kuso.

Amadoda amaningi kuqala ukulalela amabele nemilenze enhle. Isifuba sefomu elungile lihlanganiswe ngokuphelele ne-decollete ejulile, futhi imilenze encane kakhulu ibheke ngengubo emfushane. I-makeup ekhethiwe kahle iqinisa umbono jikelele wokuthi isifiso somuntu sibangela. Uma owesifazane ehlulekile ukungethusa indoda (ukudweba kwe-Iroquois ukulwa noma ukubukeka kwe-lilac ephaphathekile), wakhathalela ... cishe amaphesenti angu-30. Manje udinga ukucabanga ngamashumi angu-70 asele. Noma yiluphi ubuhlobo phakathi kwendoda nowesifazane, i-floppy ephumelelayo noma eyiqiniso, eholela engenalutho noma, ngokuphambene, iphela emshadweni ojabulisayo, njalo uqale ngokudlala ngothando.

Lesi yisikhathi esingenakunzima ukucabanga ngaso ubuhlobo phakathi kwendoda nowesifazane. Ngokuvamile lokhu kwenzeka ngokungazi futhi ngemiphumela engalindelekile, eqinisweni, lesi simo sezindaba siholela kuphela, kokubili amantombazane nabafana, ngoba uhlobo lokungaqiniseki kuyathandeka kakhulu. Ukudlala ngothando kuyisethi yokuthinta, ukunyakaza, isibonakaliso sobuso - konke esikubiza ngolimi lomzimba. Uma usebenzisa kahle lolu limi, ungathola umphumela, okungafani kakhulu kusuka ezingxoxweni ezilula. Abacwaningi batusa ukucabangela ukudlala ngothando njengendlela ethile yokuxoxisana, okuqala ngokushesha ngemva kokuheha.

Cabangela izimiso ezimbalwa zokudlala ngothando .

1. Unqume. Owesifazane kufanele aqonde ukuthi yini ehehayo okokuqala: ukubukeka noma inzuzo yomuntu siqu. Ngakho-ke, uzozikhethela yena, kulokho amadoda okufanele agxile kulowo mzamo. Leliphuzu elibaluleke kakhulu kunoma yiliphi owesifazane okufanele aziqonde yena. Ukukhwabanisa kuyinto yobuciko obuhle nesipho esihle somfazi. Ungalilahli futhi udale isifiso salowo nalowo olandelanayo.
2. Musa ukulimaza . Ukubukeka kwe-vulgar kanye nokungabonakali, ukudakwa nokuhlukunyezwa komuntu okwesaba kuphela. Futhi ukuba khona kwentombazane enhle - okungenani kuphazamise amehlo akhe. Akusizo ngalutho ukuthi bathi noma iyiphi intombazane enhle kufanele ibe nentombazane eyodwa engalungile, eya njalo emihlanganweni ebalulekile.
Noma menze ashintshe ingqondo yakhe ukuze ajwayele owesifazane oyedwa ngenxa yokwesaba ukulahlwa phambi komunye owesifazane.
3. Izimpawu zokunakwa nokuxhumana. Ukudlala ngothando kungaphumelela kuphela ngesimo sengqondo esihle. Owesifazane kufanele amomotheka ngokukhululekile nangokwemvelo, abonise isimo sengqondo somusa. Ngakho-ke, uzobonisa le ndoda ukuthi ungenza umngane futhi uvumele ukuthi azizwe ekhululekile. Ungakwazi ukucela usizo oluthile - ukuziphatha ukuze ukuziphatha kufane kokubili ukudlala ngothando kanye nesimo somusa. Ubulili besifazane buzoqedela umsebenzi. Akufanele ukwesabe owokuqala ukuqala ingxoxo.
Izibalo zithi amaphesenti angama-95 wamadoda afana nawo lapho ingxoxo yokuqala iqala ngowesifazane. Indima ebaluleke kakhulu idlalwe ukuxhumana okubonwayo, uma ufuna ukuvusa isifiso somuntu. Ukubukeka kweso iso linikeza isithakazelo sangempela. Yenza ngokuthakazelisayo ngamadoda nokuzwela okuthinta. Ukukhanya okukhanyayo, ukumanga ngobungane esihlathini - konke lokhu isikhali esinamandla samabhasi besifazane sekuye kwaphela amakhulu eminyaka. Kodwa into ebaluleke kakhulu ukuzethemba ukuzethemba. Owesifazane ofuna ukuvusa isifiso somuntu kufanele abe emehlweni akhe umuntu onomusa futhi ojabule okulula futhi othakazelisayo ukuchitha isikhathi.