Kulesi sihloko, sizokhuluma ngamathoyizi avumela ukuthi uhlukanise impilo entsha yezocansi futhi ulethe izinjabulo ezintsha ohlelweni lokuxhumana okuseduze. Kodwa abamele amasiko naminyaka ahlukene bahlobene kanjani nemikhiqizo evela esitolo socansi?
Intsha eningi yanamuhla iyazi ukuthi kungani zisebenzisa izinto ezivela esitolo esiseduze, kodwa izinto ezinjalo zikwazi ukushayela abantu abasha, ikakhulukazi amantombazane ekudwebeni. Abantu abaneminyaka engamashumi amabili nanhlanu abaye bazama izinto eziningi zokuzijabulisa ngokocansi, kodwa abangakabi nesikhathi sokuzijabulela ngokugcwele, bakholelwa ukuthi i-raber kanye neminye imikhiqizo ngeke isetshenziswe kubo. Kodwa oneminyaka engu-35-40 ubudala ubonisa isithakazelo esiqotho emadilini, okufaka esikhundleni sokufakelwa kwabafazi, amabhola nezinye izinto ezingavamile. Lokhu akumangazi, ngoba abamele lesi sigaba sebevele babe nokumelela okugcwele kwamakhono emzimbeni wabo, banesikhathi sokuzama cishe lonke uhlu lwemidlalo yothando futhi banesithakazelo sokuthi bahlukanise kanjani impilo ebuseduze. Abantu besizukulwane esidala babhekisela kwimikhiqizo evela e-sex-shopopo-ehlukile: omunye umuntu ubonisa isithakazelo, omunye umuntu onjalo amathoyizi awunasithakazelo, abanye banomuzwa wokuthi bangawadingi.
Futhi manje cabanga ngendlela ozizwa ngayo lapho uzwa inkulumo ethi "isitolo socansi", "izimpahla eziseduze"? Awuthandeki noma uhlazekile ukuvuma ngisho nakuwe ukuthi ungathanda ukuzama okuthile ebangeni? Abakwa-Sexologists, abaye bacwaninga lolu daba, bathi ukuhlazeka kufanele kubangele ukungabi nentshisekelo kumathoyizi oseduze.
Abantu asebekhulile, abadlula izitolo zobulili, bavame ukucasuka yiqiniso lokuthi uzozama ukudubula noma yikuphi ukungazi lutho ngemali yakho. Abesilisa abaneminyaka yobudala babonisa ilukuluku lokuzijabulisa futhi bangakhathaleli ukuvakasha. Abesifazane abaneminyaka ephakathi nendawo iningi bakholelwa ukuthi izitolo eziseduze manje zitholakala cishe kuzo zonke izingqungquthela futhi kufanelekile ukunciphisa inani lawo.
Kodwa ake sibheke izibalo. Ngakho-ke, e-megalopolis enkulu kangaka njengeMoscow, kunezitolo ezingaphezu kwamatshumi amathathu kuphela, lapho umuntu angathenga khona amathoyizi ngokuya ocansini. Kunezikhungo eziningi ezinjalo eBerlin: kunezikhathi ezingu-3 abantu abaningana edolobheni kunasezindaweni ezinkulu zaseRussia, kodwa kunezitolo ezingaphezu kuka-130 zobulili.
Ubani ovame kakhulu esitolo socansi?
I-Psychoanalyst kanye ne-sexologists bathi amathoyizi asondelene ikakhulukazi abathakazelisayo kulabo abahlanganyela ekutadisheni ubulili babo futhi bazama ukuthuthukisa isimo sengqondo. Ngokusobala, laba ngabantu abakhetha ukuba nobulili obuphezulu, ngenkathi behambisa injabulo enkulu kumlingani.
Uma lo muntu ehambisana nohlangothi lwezinsizwa, uzama ukwehlukanisa impilo yakhe ebuseduze.
Izivakashi eziningi ezitolo zobulili zithenga ithoyizi ngesizathu esilula ukuthi abanayo umlingani okwesikhashana, futhi amandla ezocansi akwanele futhi adinga ukuhoxiswa.
Ake sibuke umlando
Amathoyizi womzimba wezocansi asungulwa kakhulu hhayi eminyakeni eyi-100, hhayi eminyakeni engu-200 edlule - ayesekhona eGibhithe lasendulo naseGrisi. Ngakho, ekwakhiweni kokugcina kwama-phalluses enziwe ngamapulangwe kuye kwafakwa cishe cishe ukuthi akukho ukugeleza. Imikhiqizo esondelene kakhulu yokunethezeka kwabo nabesifazane baseRoma lasendulo, abangakwazi ukulinda uthando kumyeni wabo, futhi ubulili nama-srabs bekunqatshelwe. Izidingo zahlanganiswa ngosizo lwezitho zangasese zobulili zesilisa, ezikhiqizwa kumasifundisane akhethekile.
Amasonto amaKatolika namaProthestani awakhuthaza kakhulu into enjalo. Ngaphezu kwalokho, ekhulwini le-18, amakhadikhadi azama ukuphoqa upapa ukuba akhulume ngokukhululekile futhi avimbele amakholwa ukuba asebenzise amathoyizi ocansi. Yiqiniso, isikhalazo asizange siphendulwe - umgconti ohlakaniphile wahlulela ukuthi isonto akufanele liphazamise empilweni esondelene nabasonto lakhe.
U-Hitler naye akajabuli ngokuba khona kwezitolo zobulili ezenqabela ukuhweba kwezimpahla eziseduze. Amasosha kwakudingeka alethe izimpahla eziseduze emazweni angomakhelwane.
Okubi kunazo zonke kwakungabesifazane baseSoviet, abangazange babame ukuthi kule ndawo elala entshonalanga kunezitolo ezithakazelisayo, futhi benza uhlobo oluthile lwezilwane ngezandla zabo.
Siya esitolo sangasese
Njengoba ubungalindela, izinto ezidume kakhulu zifana nama-dildos nama-vibrators. Izibalo zithi ama-43% aseBrithani, abesifazane abangama-60% baseMelika nabangu-66% abesifazane baseJalimane banenani okungenani ithoyizi elilodwa elithengwa esitolo socansi. Kuthiwani ngabesifazane bethu? Kuvela ukuthi 4% kuphela izakhamuzi zase-Soviet isikhala esinemikhiqizo esondelene nayo.
Ukudinga okunjalo okukhulu kwezidlidliza kanye namadala avela kolunye uhlangothi kubonisa ukuthi abesifazane abatholi ukuphumula ngokocansi ngesikhathi se-caresses esondelene nokulala nobuhlobo nabalingani. Kodwa ngakolunye uhlangothi, abesifazane baseNtshonalanga bayakhululeka kakhulu emibhalweni yezocansi, ngakho-ke kulula kalula ukuthi zonke izinyathelo ezikhona zingenziwa. Ngaphezu kwalokho, lezi zivivinyo zikuvumela ukuba uqonde kangcono umzimba wakho, futhi ngemuva kwalokho uthole injabulo eyengeziwe kusuka ku-Spartner yokuxhumana.
Ukuqhubeka kulokhu, abakwa-sexologists bancoma ukuthi bathole i-vibratoevdva hhayi wonke owesifazane, bephikisana nombono wabo wokuthi ithoyizi ingaletha ukuphila kobulili ezingeni eliphakeme lekhwalithi ephakeme.