Ngemuva kokuqhuba uchungechunge lwezingxoxo, uSmiler waqoqa izibalo ezithakazelisayo: amadoda angakhethi ubudlelwane bobulili baningi kakhulu, kanti "amandla" abo ngaphambili, ikakhulukazi, lokhu kungenani labalingani bobulili abathathu bonyaka. Ngokusho kweningi labaphendulile, bangathanda ukuqala ubudlelwane nomfazi oyedwa kuphela, futhi kuyinto ephazamisayo, kodwa lesi sifiso sibashukumisela ukuba babheke ukuthi "abangashadile", baphoqele ukushintsha abalingani.
Ukuziphendukela kwemvelo kungaphezu kwesithembu
Ukuchazwa okunengqondo komqondo wesithembu ngokuvumelana nokuziphendukela kwemvelo kuqinisekisayo: amandla emvelo azama bonke abameleli bobulili obunamandla, ngaphandle kokunye, ukusakaza imbewu yabo, ukuphishekela umgomo wokushiya inzalo eningi. Noma kunjalo, usosayensi waseMelika uqiniseka ukuthi ukuziphendukela kwemvelo kuye kwalungisa, futhi manje amadoda ayaqonda ukuthi ukulawula okuphumelelayo phezu kwamajenge kudinga ukulawula izinzalo. Futhi kulula ukwenza lokhu lapho inzalo yakho iseduze. Lokhu kuchaza isifiso samadoda anamuhla ukuba aphile nemindeni yawo, noma ekudlulele, ukungaphazamisi ukuxhumana nezingane zabo, okungenzeka kuphela uma ubuhlobo nomama wengane bugcinwa phambili.
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Ngenxa yocwaningo lwesayensi, enye indlela yokuzikhethela yachazwa-isifiso sokuthandana nabantu, ukwazi ngokuqinisekile ukuthi bazobangela ukuhlupheka kwethu. Isibonelo, indoda iyahlanya ngomfazi ongenzi ipenny, ehlazisa njalo futhi ehleka usulu; owesifazane akakwazi ukushiya umthandi weziphuzo ezishisayo noma omanizer okhuni .... Ngokusho kukaprofesa wezifo zengqondo uRichard Friedman, bonke laba bantu abashukunyiswa yisifiso esingenasisindo sokuba yisisulu, kodwa "ngomvuzo" abawuthola kumlingani wabo. Okusho ukuthi, uma ubudlelwane obuvumelanayo bukhula ngokuvumelana nesimo esibikezelayo, khona-ke ukuxhumanisa nesidumbu noma isobho kwenza kube lula ukuthola "imiklomelo" engalindelekile ngendlela yokubonakaliswa kwesaba, amazwi enomusa ekhelini lawo, ngokocansi, nokunye. Ukuze ubuchopho, lesi "gingerbread" sinamandla amakhulu ekhangayo, kubangela injabulo, ngokuvumelana nalokho lokho abadlali abakwazi ukukuphikisa. Umdlali othakazelisayo udonsa isifiso sekhasino ukuthola enye ingxenye ye-adrenaline ngenxa yokunciphisa noma ukulahleka, futhi umlingani womuntu ongenalutho olungaphilile uphinde uphonsele ubuhlobo obuseduze nethemba lokuthola idrayivu ekutholeni "umklomelo" ongalindelekile.
Ukufaneleka kwalezi zitatimende kuboniswa ukucwaninga kwangaphambili komqondo wezifo zengqondo uGregory Burns. Abahlanganyeli ekuhlolweni banikezwa ukuphuza ijusi noma amanzi. Ekuqaleni banikezwa iziphuzo ngaphandle kokubopha, bese bezithola zonke imizuzwana engu-10. Ngaleso sikhathi, i-tomograph, ehlala ibuke ubuchopho bezinhloko, yabona ukuqhuma komsebenzi omkhulu we-cerebral, ngezikhathi lapho benikezwa khona emphakathini, lapho bengenalo ithemba "isipho".
Ngokusho kukaRichard Friedman, abahlanganyeli ebuhlotsheni "obungalungile" bangama-hostage we-dopamine, noma, ngamanye amazwi, "i-hormone ukuzijabulisa", eyakhiwa ubuchopho ekuphenduleni ukubonakaliswa kothando. Yebo, uma abantu abajwayele ukuhlekwa usulu komuntu ngokuzumayo bezwa isimemezelo sothando noma babe nesimo sengqondo esingenalindelekile ngethenda kubo, ke ubuchopho babo "bulahla" umthamo omkhulu wale hormone wenjabulo.
Futhi kuyisifiso sokuzwa okungenani kanye nemizwa enjalo futhi uthole "isipho" esilindelwe isikhathi eside esenza ukuba bashiye konke njengoba kunjalo, futhi baqhubeke bebekezelela isimo sengqondo esingalungile kubo. Futhi njengoba kuyinhlanhla, ngokusho kwesitatimende sesazi, nokuqaphela konke ukungalungi kwalesi simo nokuqaphela ukuthi lokhu akufanele kube njalo, kunzima kakhulu ukuba bashintshe okuthile, ngoba akunakwenzeka ukulawula ubuchopho lapho uqala indlela yokuthola umvuzo ....