Ubudlelwano phakathi kwabazali kanye nentsha


Ingane yakho ikhula futhi ifuna ukuba nezimfihlo. Futhi ukhathazekile ngokuthi ngokuvumelana nalokhu, ulahlekelwa ukuthula nokulawula okudingekayo. Yini okufanele ngiyenze? Ubudlelwano phakathi kwabazali kanye nentsha akusihloko esilula, kepha izazi ze-psychology zeluleka ukusinda ngalesi sikhathi ngokuthula ngangokunokwenzeka. Ngezansi kukhona amathiphu asebenzayo ezimweni ezithile.

Isimo 1. Emnyango wangena ekamelweni lakhe indodana yabe isifaka isibonakaliso: "Ngicela ungqongqoze." Waqala ukuvala ideskiti lakhe lesikhiphe ngesikhiye - akakaze amvumele awenze. Kumbuzo othi "Unayo yini lapho?" Izimpendulo ezingekho ebhizinisini lami. Kamuva nje ngenza ihlazo lapho ngivula isikhwama sakhe esikoleni (Ngangifuna ukumbeka idayari, ehlolwe). Indodana yami yaqala ukumemeza ukuthi anginalo ilungelo lokuthinta izinto zakhe, ukuthi lesi yisikhala sakhe kanye nokuphila kwakhe. Kungabe kunalokho kusheshe - ngo-13? Ngisabela kanjani ekuhlaselweni okunjalo futhi ngenzani?

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Ukuqaphela ilungelo lendodana yakhe, ubonisa ukuthi uyamhlonipha. Kule minyaka, "abalingani abalinganayo" basungulwa phakathi kwabazali nezingane ezisencane. Izingane azifuni ukulalela ngokungaboni kahle. Uma ufuna okuthile kubo, vumela isicelo sakho. Uma unentshisekelo kokuthile - ungafaki ukuphendula. Ingane yakho ikhulile futhi ifuna ukuzimela, idinga ukuba nendawo lapho abantu abadala bengenawo ukufinyelela. Ukumba ezintweni zakhe ukungabi nenhlonipho yengane, ukuphulwa kwamalungelo akhe okuyimfihlo. Ngaphezu kwalokho, kuzoholela ekuhlaselweni, ingane izovala kuwe futhi ubuhlobo bakho buyoba nzima kakhulu ukusetha. Kodwa lokhu akusho ukuthi impilo yengane yentombazane kufanele ingalawulwa. Kunezimo lapho abazali kudingeka nje bangenele ngesikhathi - isibonelo, uma unesizathu sokusola ukuthi ingane isebenzisa izidakamizwa. Kodwa ngisho nokuphenywa okulula nokubhekwa ngeke kusize - udinga ukuthola ukwethenjwa kwengane, udinga ukungena naye. Khona-ke uzokudalula izimfihlo zakhe kuwe, njengoba kunzima kakhulu kubantwana ukuba bazigcinele izinto ezinjalo ngokwabo. Kulesi sigaba kubonakala ukuthi inkululeko enengqondo oyinikezela ingane - ilawulwa ngokwengeziwe kuyo. Uzokuthemba, akuhloniphe, ngeke afune ukugcina izimfihlo ezivela kuwe. Phela, usengumntwana futhi udinga iseluleko, isiqondiso kanye nokwesekwa. Mnike inkululeko - futhi ulawule ngendlela efanele.

Isimo 2. Kuze kube yamuva, ngangixhumana kakhulu nendodakazi yami. Wayehlala ethanda ukuxoxa nami, athembele zonke izimfihlo zakhe. Sikhuluma isikhathi eside mayelana nesikole, mayelana nabangane bakhe, ngabafundisi ... Ngeshwa, isimo sashintsha, ngoba izinyanga eziyisithupha edlule indodakazi yahlangana nomunye wabafana futhi, kubonakala sengathi yathandana naye. Angikwazi ukusho lutho olubi ngaye - ungumfana omuhle, ujabule kuzo zonke izici. Njengoba ehlala esifundeni sethu, ngibabona ngendodakazi yami cishe nsuku zonke. Kodwa lokhu akutsheli lutho. Uma sebesekhaya, bafunda noma babukele i-TV. Kodwa-ke, angikwazi ukuthi benzani ndawonye ngaphandle kwekhaya - indodakazi eneminyaka engu-15, ngalesi sikhathi noma yini engenzeka. Ngizama ukubuza indodakazi yami imibuzo, kodwa iqala ukuzibamba futhi ayisho lutho. Ngiyazi kuphela ukuthi bayabanga, kodwa ngokuzumayo konke sekuvele kuqhubeke? Ngizama ukulandela lesi simo kangcono, ngoba angifuni indodakazi yami ilichithe impilo yakhe.

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Iningi lezingane ezisencane azifuni ukukhuluma nabazali bazo ngobuhlobo babo nobulili obuhlukile nangothando lwabo lokuqala. Vula futhi bakhulume kwezinye izihloko, bazoqhubeka bebeka lo mbuzo ngokuqhubekayo. Le mfihlo kumele yamukelwe nguwe. Ungaphoqeleli izingane zakho ukuba zithembele kuwe ngokusondelana kakhulu, ngoba lokhu kungaholela emthonjeni ohlukile. Kuyaqondakala ukuthi ufuna ukwazi ngangokunokwenzeka mayelana nokuphila okuncane kwendodakazi yakho, ukuze umvikele engozini yokukhulelwa ngengozi. Kodwa wena kule ndaba kufanele ube ohlakaniphile, ucabange futhi ucabange ukuthi ingane yakho isencane esekhulile kakade. Indodakazi yakho kufanele kuqala izwe kuwe okubalulekile kulokhu kuxhumano nokuthi kungani. Lo mzwa omncane, nakuba ushisa, uvame ukungazinzile, ngakho-ke kufanele uchaze intombazane ukuthi ubuhlobo bobulili buyisisekelo sothando. Ukuqala kwezincazelo ezinjalo kufanele kube yinto yabo siqu, umbono wabantu abahlonishwayo owaziyo futhi abahloniphayo. Indodakazi yakho izozizwa isekela futhi yazi ukuthi uyakhathazeka ngekusasa lakhe. Qinisekisa ukuthi ukhuluma ngokuqondile ngokukhulelwa kwemithi! Hlala uthembekile futhi uvule - ingane yakho izokwethula ekuphenduleni ubuqotho bakho. Izingane ezinanoma yikuphi ubudala kubalulekile ukwazi ukuthi bangakwazi njalo ukusiza usizo lwakho nezeluleko.

Isimo 3. Indodakazi yami isihleli kahle kuyi-intanethi, futhi ineminyaka engu-12 nje kuphela! Ngokushesha ngemva kwesikole, ugijimela ekhompyutheni bese ehlezi emva kwakhe kuze kuhlwe. Uhluleka ukumthola ukuba ahlale ezifundweni. Kodwa ngisho lapha ugijima ekhompyutheni yonke iminithi yamahhala ukuze athumele omunye umlayezo noma awuphendule. Unenkamelo yakhe, angikwazi ukubona ukuthi ubona ngempela esikrinini noma oxhumana naye nge-intanethi. Mina-ke, ngimtshele ukuthi kufanele aqaphele, ngoba angakwazi ukugijima kwelinye ilanga. Kodwa ngingabaza ukuthi indodakazi yayithatha ngokungathí sina. Angikwazi ukumvimbela ukuthi afinyelele emakhasini ahlobene nocansi - angase agweme ngephutha amafilimu noma izithombe ezingcolile. Ngikhathazekile ngoba, ngakolunye uhlangothi, angifuni ukuba ngumlondolozi wendodakazi yami, futhi ngakolunye uhlangothi, angimthembi ngokuphelele. Kwenzeka ukuthi akabuyanga kubangane bakhe ngesikhathi esimisiwe, kodwa ngifunda ngokuhlola okungalungile esikoleni kuphela kubantu besithathu. Mhlawumbe kufanele ngiqale ukulawula indodakazi yami ngaphezulu ukuze angahlali isikhathi eside kukhompyutheni futhi engakha izinkinga ezengeziwe?

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Nakuba izwe elibonakalayo lihlaba umxhwele, hhayi kuphela kubantwana, kodwa nakubantu abadala - ingozi abasha abasuke bayidalula ayinqatshelwe. I-intanethi yizwe lonke lapho ingane ingahlangana khona nanoma ubani, thola ngaphansi komthelela womunye umuntu futhi ubone into engafani neminyaka yakhe. Ungamvikela kanjani ingane yakho ezweni elibonakalayo kanye nezindawo zalo ezihlukene ikakhulukazi ezindala? Lawula indodakazi yakho. Futhi lapha akukhona kwamalungelo abantu noma isikhala somuntu siqu - konke kuyingozi nakakhulu lapha. Tshela indodakazi yakho ukuthi uzobukela umlando wamasayithi ahambele kuwo. Chaza lokhu ngokunciphisa, kepha uthi: "Angifuni ukuthi umuntu akulimaze, ngakho impilo yakho yangempela akumele ibe yimfihlo." Ungakwazi futhi ukulungisa ukukhiya ikhodi yomzali kwikhompyutha ethile, ngenye ingxenye yamasayithi ayovinjelwa ukubuka ngaphandle kwephasiwedi ekhethekile. Cacisa futhi amasayithi aphephile ngokuphelele (isibonelo, izinhlelo zemfundo) lapho ingane encane ingathola ulwazi oluningi oluwusizo. Ukuqapha okunjalo ngokuvamile kuvusa izingane, kodwa kuyadingeka ngempela. Lokhu ngeke kulimaze ubudlelwane obengeziwe phakathi kwabazali kanye nentsha, futhi ngendlela efanele kuyobaqinisa kuphela. Ingane empeleni ifuna ukwazi ukuthi uyamkhathalela. Ufuna ukubona intshisekelo yakho nokukhathalela. Futhi nakuba ngezinye izikhathi bayabhikisha - kamuva bayavuma ukuthi bayabonga abazali babo ngokungenelela ngesikhathi kanye nokusekelwa kwengqondo.