Ukuphila okuhlangene kowesifazane kanye nendoda kulalela, njengokubusa, isigqi esithile. Iqiniso liwukuthi yonke iminyaka embalwa isigaba esisha sokuxhumana siqala phakathi kwendoda nowesifazane, futhi isigaba ngasinye siletha izinjabulo nezinkinga zayo.
Izigaba zokuxhumana ezingu-10
Isigaba 1 sobudlelwane - ukuhlanganiswa (iminyaka emibili yokuqala yomshado). Ngaleso sikhathi, kubonakala sengathi abasanda kushada ukuthi i-honeymoon ngeke iphele. Bobabili abalingani bazama ukufeza zonke izifiso zomunye, zama ukuhlangana ndawonye kaningi. Ekuqaleni lapha, njengomthetho, uthando lomzimba. Le nkathi yezimo zengqondo ebizwa ngokuthi "intwasahlobo yemicabango."
Kodwa-ke, njengokuphila, akukho ntwasahlobo ngaphandle kwesiphepho. Ngokwezibalo, ama-3% wabashadayo asele kakade izinyanga eziyisithupha ngemuva komshado wabo, nakuba bephinde baphikisana ngokuhlukumeza. Kodwa amaphesenti angu-50 emibhangqwana asevele eqala ukwesaba ukuthi ikusasa lomndeni wabo osemusha lingacacile. Futhi amaphesenti angu-4 emibhangqwana achitha okungenani ubusuku obu-1, kanti amaphesenti amathathu kwabashadayo asevele anesikhathi sokushintsha umlingani wabo.
Isigaba sesibili sobudlelwane ukukhungatheka (ngokuvamile ngumnyaka wesithathu noma wesine womshado). Nansi ukuthokoza kokuqala okwadlula futhi isimiso somndeni safika. Futhi manje, imibhangqwana eminingi iyaqaphela ukuthi umlingani wayo akafani neze njengoba beyizinyanga zokuqala zokuwa othandweni. Isibonelo, amaphesenti angu-87 abesifazane athi emva komnyaka wesibili wokuhlala ndawonye bayeka ukuthanda labo abakhethiweyo. Yize kunjalo, lokhu kuyi-exaggeration ngonyaka wesine wokuphila okuhlanganyelwe, amanxeba amaningi, ngeshwa, ahlukana. Ngalesi sikhathi ingane yokuqala ikhulile, le nkosikazi ibuye ikhululeke.
Isigaba sesithathu sobudlelwane - ukukhiqiza (lesi yisikhathi sesihlanu nesithupha somlingani). Abashadile abangenazo izingane, njengomthetho, bahlele ukugcwalisa umndeni. Ngalesi sikhathi, uthando aluyithandi kakhulu, kodwa lunenjongo kakhulu. Nokho, njengoba umuntu engakwazi "ukubamba iqhaza" ngokomzimba ekukhulelweni komkakho, i-toon ijwayele ukuhlukaniswa naye. Futhi umphumela - amaphesenti angu-70 omama wamasasa azizwa behlukunyezwa ngokobulili ngokwabo.
Isigaba sesine sobudlelwane - lesi yisigaba samandla (endaweni ethile eminyakeni yesishiyagalombili kuya kweyisishiyagalombili yomshado). Ngokuvamile lena yisikhathi esisebenzayo kakhulu emshadweni. Ngokuvamile abashadile banqoba ubunzima bokuqala kwengqondo, futhi manje banemigomo engokoqobo. Isibonelo, lo mbhangqwana ndawonye bathenga indlu futhi bayinikeze. Ngokuvamile isikhundla sobuchwepheshe somyeni sinamandla ngokwanele, futhi abesifazane abaningi ngemva kokuzalwa kwengane baqala umsebenzi wabo. Izindima emndenini sezivele zisatshalaliswe futhi "indawo" yomuntu ngamunye iyazi.
Isigaba sesihlanu sobudlelwane ngumphefumulo (kusukela ngonyaka wesishiyagalolunye kuya kweshumi nanye). Isisekelo sokubambisana sesivele sinamandla kakhulu, njengoba kunjalo nesimo sezimali emndenini. Amathuba okuhlukanisa ayancishiswa, ngokushesha nje lapho abashadile bewela umngcele weminyaka engu-30. Lesi sigaba sobuhlobo "ihlobo lomshado". Abashadile abaningi baye bahlanganyela ngokuzibophezela phakathi kwabo, ngokwezikhathi eziningi isimiso se-classical: le ndoda iholele ngokuqondile emkhakheni wezobuchwepheshe, futhi owesifazane osendlini. Ngezinye izikhathi kunezimpikiswano kuphela ezindabeni zokukhulisa izingane. Isibonakaliso sangaphandle semindeni ejabulayo singacatshangelwa okulandelayo. Eminyakeni eyishumi yokuqala, kungemva komshado ukuthi omkakho bazuza isisindo nxazonke, 8 kg, kanti amadoda - 8.5 kg.
Isigaba sesithupha sobudlelwane-isigaba samanani (kusukela ngomnyaka weshumi nambili neshumi nane). Abesifazane emva kokudabuka kwabo (ngemuva kwesikhashana, nabesilisa) baqala ukuhlanganisa imiphumela yokuqala yabashadile. Njengomthetho, bahlolisisa uhlelo lokuphila, ngoba bayaqonda ukuthi akusikho isikhathi esiningi esisele sokwenza into ebaluleke kakhulu. Abanye abalingani kulesi simo bakholelwa ukuthi basesiphelile, badumala, ngezinye izikhathi bekulungele ukuhamba. Abanye abantu bayaqaphela ukuthi izinto ezibonakalayo akuyona into ebaluleke kakhulu ekuphileni. Lesi sikhathi singachazwa ngokuthi "ekwindla yokuqala" yomshado.
Isigaba sesi-7 sobudlelwane - izinkinga (kusukela ngomnyaka weshumi nanhlanu kuya komnyaka wamashumi amabili). Uthando seluvele luba umkhuba, abalingani baqala kancane ukuhamba. Abesifazane abafuni ukubekezelela ukunakwa komyeni wakhe, ukunganakwa kwesiguli. Abanye besifazane bahlala begcwele ngalesi sikhathi ngo-17 kg. Futhi amadoda avame ukushiya "ukushiya". Kodwa-ke, benqaba ukulahla umshado, futhi bakhetha inxantathu yothando, nabafazi, ngokuphambene nalokho, bavame ukwenza imizamo emikhulu yokuphuka. Kule nkathi lapho iningi lehlukaniso lwenzeka khona, futhi kuma-70 amaphesenti amacala, abesifazane baqala.
Isigaba sesishiyagalombili sobuhlobo sivuselelwa (kusukela eminyakeni engamashumi amabili nanye kuya komnyaka wamashumi amabili nanhlanu). Njengomthetho, abambisene nabo sebevele bahlola zonke izinketho zokuphila kwangemva kwesikhathi futhi bahlala ndawonye. Isikhathi siqala, "ekwindla yokuvuselela". Izingane sezikhulile futhi zidinga usizo oluvela kubazali bazo (ngaphandle, mhlawumbe, ngezezimali). Amanye amadoda avula "ukuphefumula kwesibili" emsebenzini. Futhi abesifazane nabo benza umsebenzi wabo wokuzimela ozimele ngenjabulo.
Isigaba sesishiyagalolunye sobudlelwane "isigaba sezulu sekwephuzile" (kusukela eminyakeni engamashumi amabili nanhlanu kuya kumashumi amathathu). Ngisho nalapho izingane ziphuma ekhaya, zithandana ngokuzumayo zithola umfutho omusha: kuba ngobumnene nangaphansi kobugovu. Imikhaya engamaphesenti angu-48 ibheka ubuhlobo bayo bujabule kakhulu. Amaphesenti angu-38 azobhekwa njengezivumelanisiwe futhi amaphesenti amathathu kuphela anzima.
Isigaba sokuxhumana-isigaba sokuguga (emva kweminyaka engamashumi amathathu nambili). Lesi sikhathi "ukuvuna". Labo abaye bahlala ndawonye isikhathi eside bangajabulela izithelo zothando lwabo, njengomthetho, bayabonga omunye nomunye ngemicabango ejulile, ngamahora abanjwe ngokuhlanganyela. Naphezu kokuthi emadodeni amathuba okwenyuka kancane kancane ancipha, abalingani bayathembeka ngokungenamkhawulo ngumngani. Umshado ufinyelela "ekwindla yasegolide".