Njengoba wazi, impilo yakhe yonke umuntu omncane uhlangabezana nezinkinga eziningana. Bonke abazali bazi ngokwabo ngengozi yonyaka owodwa, inkinga yeminyaka emithathu, ukulungiswa kanzima enkulisa nasesikolweni. Futhi, mhlawumbe, akukho okungaqhathaniswa nenani lezinkathazo kanye nokwesaba ngokulindelwe kwabazali basakhula.
Ukukhathazeka kwabazali ngalokhu akunjalo neze. Ulwazi lobuningi bezindaba lugcwele izindaba mayelana nezinguquko, lapho intsha iwa khona. Umlingo wamagnet uheha labo abazobe beyizolo indodakazi yendodana kamama othobelayo, beyishintsha ngaphandle kokuqaphela, behlwanyela ukungavumelani kanye nokuxabana emindenini. Ngisho nezingane ezinhle kakhulu "ezihle" zengozini emkhakheni wezinkomo. Igunya lomuntu omdala liwela ngokushesha, futhi igebe eliphakathi kwabazali kanye nezingane ezingenakunqotshwa. Indlela yokuphila nokwakha kahle ubudlelwane nengane yakhe kule nkathi enzima kodwa ebaluleke kakhulu empilweni yakhe? Indlela yokulahlekelwa ukuzethemba komunye nomunye futhi wenze lesi sikhathi into eyobuthela umndeni ngisho nangaphezulu? Kungenzeka yini ukuvikela ingane yakho ithonya elibi lomgwaqo?
Ngakho-ke, owokuqala: siyaqaphela ukuthi ingane yethu ikhulile futhi isikhathi sokuzikhandla okusebenzayo futhi indlela yakhe kulo mpilo ifikile. Isikhathi sokulalela nokuthobeka kwezidingo zethu siphumelele. Kuwubuwula ukulindela ukuthotshelwa kwamaminithi amancane, akasasakwazi futhi angeke asilandele. Isikhathi sokuthatha izinyathelo ezizimele. Into engcono kakhulu esingayenza kule simo ukumbonisa ukuthi siyamethemba ngokugcwele. Ngakho-ke, simnika inkululeko enkulu njengoba edingayo. Ukwenza lesi sinyathelo esinzima kubaluleke kakhulu kuqala ngoba ukukhula kuyisikhathi sokuguquka kusukela ebuntwaneni nokunakekelwa kwabazali bayo kanye nokuphepha okuphelele kubantu abadala, ngezinye izikhathi ezingalindelekile, ngezinye izikhathi, futhi ngezinye izikhathi imithetho nemithetho enonya. Futhi uma sifuna ukuba ingane yethu izithole futhi ekugcineni ibe umuntu omdala ngokwanele, kumelwe simvumele ukuba afunde lokhu. Ngale ndlela, amaphutha azimele angenakugwemeka. Kodwa yibo labo, uma bekulungele ukubekezela, kuzothatha ingane yethu ngaphandle kwe-whirlpool yenkinga ngendlela efanele.
Isinyathelo sesibili: thatha isikhundla esifanele. Ukuze uyiqonde kahle, udinga ukwazi izidingo ezithile eziyisisekelo kwanoma yimuphi umusha. Ngesikhathi sokuguquka kwengane, isidingo sokuba ubulungu emphakathini ongewona wezenhlalakahle wenyuka, owombono wakhe ophila ngokuzimela, unemithetho nemithetho yawo siqu. Ngomuntu osemusha, umbono wakhe kontanga uba yisikhathi esibaluleke kakhulu. Ngakho-ke, ufuna ukunqoba ukuqashelwa kwenkampani ekhethiwe nganoma iyiphi indlela. Isifiso sokuba "ngumuntu siqu" sinamandla kangangokuthi kaningi kwenza umuntu ahlasele iqiniso. Lapha usizo lomuntu omdala lubalulekile. Kodwa ungasheshi. Izindlela zokuxoxisana ezifundisayo nokuziphatha kahle ngeke ziphumelele. Kuyafaneleka futhi ukugwema nanoma yiziphi izahlulelo eziyigugu, ikakhulukazi ezimbi, ngokumelene nenkampani entsha yengane yakho. Hlonipha ukukhetha kwakhe. Kungcono ukukhombisa isimo sengqondo sokuzola, ukucabangela ingane, ukubuza ingane imibuzo mayelana nokuthi yini eyimdonsa inkampani ethize, lokho akufunayo, lokho akutholayo, nokuthi yini elahlekelwa yona. Ingxoxo kufanele iqhutshwe endaweni ekhululekile.
Futhi, ekugcineni, okwesithathu. Konke okwenziwa yingane yakho kule nkathi enzima kuwe kuncishisiwe kube yinto eyodwa elula - uzifunela yena. Lokhu kusesha kuyamdabukisa futhi kuyabuhlungu kumntwana ngokwakhe. Uhlukana nabazali bakhe, ezama ukuzimela, kodwa ngokungazelelwe uwela kwinethiwekhi yezindinganiso ezihlukile, ngezinye izikhathi ezimbi kakhulu - izitaladi, ama-comrades asebekhulile, inkampani ethile. Futhi ngokuqaphela izidingo zabo zangempela kuphela, lo mfana uthola futhi uthatha indawo yakhe yokuphila okungajwayelekile. Yenza isinqumo esifanele, thola izimpendulo kuzo zonke imibuzo azothola yona. Kodwa uma eyazi ukuthi kukhona labo abazokwamukela futhi baqonde isikhundla sakhe, amathuba okuba nomphumela ophumelelayo akhulise izikhathi eziningi.