Uqala kanjani umuzwa womhawu emphefumulweni womuntu, futhi kuthiwani? Okokuqala, ngokuvela komhawu, kubalulekile ukuqonda ngokucacile ukuthi "Mina" uqobo, ukuzihlukanisa nobuntu obuvela kuzo zonke izinhlobo zezwe eziqondwe ngumuntu.
Ukuzizwa kokuziqhenya komuntu wonke kubalulekile kuzo zonke izinyane, othandekayo emndenini wakubo, kanye nokuvuleka kwengane evulekile ukuqonda izwe elikuzungezile. Ukuqonda ukuthi eceleni kwe "I" yakho kukhona "Mina" kwabanye abantu abanezintshisekelo zabo, futhi ngendlela yabo ezithakazelisayo, kuza kancane kancane. Intuitively, ingane izwa inhlangano enzima kangaka yezwe elizungezile eneminyaka emibili noma emithathu. Lapha yilapho kuvela khona umhlabathi wekhwele lokuqala lomntwana.
Ukuhawukela umzali wobulili obuhlukile
Ingane ithatha ngokungathí sina umhlaba wezinganekwane, eziningi zazo ezitshela indlela abalingiswa abakhulu abashadile ngayo futhi bahlala bejabule njalo. Ukuzama indima yabalingiswa bezinganekwane, ingane ibuzungezile ibe yindoda enhle kunazo zonke, engumlingani ophila kahle kakhulu emhlabeni. Ukuzibonela njengomfana noma intombazane, engakabonakali okwamanje, kodwa ikuvumela ukuthi wenze isinqumo esingavumelekile ngokuthanda umama wakho noma ubaba, ngokulandelana.
Umzali wobulili obuhlukile uqondwa, ngenxa yokufanisa okunjalo inhlalakahle yomkhwenyana noma umakoti "njengomncintiswano". Futhi uma abafana bengaphazamisa ingozi engabangela ingozi umdlalo osebenzayo, umsebenzi wokuqonda, ukuphikisana noontanga kwi-sandbox, khona-ke amantombazane okuyiwona obaluleke kakhulu ngokwengeziwe ngokomzimba, ngokomzimba, ngokuvamile ebonakala ngokujulile umhawu "ongajwayelekile".
Incazelo "ubaba wakho futhi uyindoda kamama" ingakhubeka ngokuphikisana nenkani, ethi: "Cha, ubaba uyindoda yami!" Kusho ukuthini ukuba umyeni? Intombazane encane, yebo, ayiqondi. Kuye, amagama athi "Ubaba uyindoda yami" isho okufana nenkulumo ethi "Lona ngubaba wami!", Wathi phambi kwamanye amantombazane amancane. Kula mazwi - nje ukwesaba uPapa angasusa, gcina konke ukugcwala kokuxhumana nomuntu othandekayo wakho.
Amaholide omndeni jikelele, lapho kungekho muntu oveza okunamathiselwe komuntu kunoma ubani, kodwa kunomqondo wokunakekelwa kokubili, ukujabula okuhlangene, kuzosiza ukudlula le nkathi enzima yokukhula kwengane engenakubuhlungu. Ungakhohlwa ukunikeza ukunakekelwa okungaphezulu kwengane, ukumbamba, ukumshaya, ukushaya ikhanda, ukusho amazwi omthandayo, okukhuthazayo, nokwenza lezi "zinto "ezilula zabazali, hhayi nje kuphela, kodwa ndawonye, ukuze ingane ihlale inobunye emndenini oqinile lapho kungekho ndawo yomhawu , umona, ubukhulu obungapheli kwabanye kwabanye phambi kwabanye.
Ukuhawukela umntwana ozelwe kamuva emndenini
Lokhu, njengomthetho, akukwenzeki uma izingane ziqokwa, ngoba ngisho nangaphambi kokuvusa ukuqwashisa ngokuthi "Mina" ngizojwayele ukuhlanganyela okuhlangene. Kuzo zonke ezinye izimo, ngandlela-thile zibonakalisa futhi zidinga ukuvimbela okuthile, kuyilapho ingane elindelekile ihlala nomama esiswini. Kubalulekile ukuchazela ingane ukuthi nguye ophezulu, oyinhloko, ukuthi uzofundisa konke kumzalwane noma udade, usizo, ubonise kukho konke isibonelo. Ukuqaphela ukubaluleka komuntu kungabuthakathaka kakhulu umhawu wesithunzi esivelayo. Uma, ngemuva kokunakekela umntwana osanda kuzalwa, ngeke sikhohlwe ukuzinikela isikhathi esanele kumntwana omdala (ubaba uthatha ngezandla, ngenkathi umama ematasa esondla umntwana, umama udlala nomdala ngenkathi ubaba ebeletha umntwana), ngeke kube khona isikhathi somhawu.
Ukuhawukela ukuzulazula emathoyizini abo
Ngokuqondene namathoyizi, kunelungelo lokuchaza ukuthi abathandwanga kuze kube phakade ngontanga futhi ngaphandle kwalabo abathandekayo kakhulu enhliziyweni, ukuphazamiseka noma ukulimala okungaqondwa ngumntwana njengengozi yomuntu siqu, kancane kancane ejwayele umqondo womdlalo ohlangene, ukwamukela njengezenzo zemvelo ngokuphelele lezi zenzo ngokuthi " , nikeza ukudlala. "