Uma siphakamisa, siyaqaphela ukuthi sesiphelile, futhi kusukela kulo mzuzu siqala ukuphuthuma. Sigqoka ngokushesha, ngenkathi siphuza ikhofi, futhi siphuma endlini, futhi masinyane sithuthela emsebenzini. Nginomsebenzi omningi ongakwenza emsebenzini, ngakho-ke siphuthuma ukwenza konke, ngesikhatsi sasemini siphuthuma ukuze sithole ogcwele ukuqhubeka nomsebenzi wethu, futhi uma siqala umsebenzi, siphuthuma ukuze sibuyele ekhaya, futhi ngemva kokuqeda usuku lokusebenza, siphuthuma ekhaya. Lapho sifika ekhaya, sisheshe senze konke endlini, ukuze kusasa ekuseni siqale ukugijima ukusebenza. Futhi kuze kube nini nanini, sisheshe sisuke ekuzalweni.
Siphuthuma sikhule, sinezineminyaka eziyisithupha sinezindebe zethu ngokuzenzekelayo ngomlomo womama futhi sigqoke izithende zakhe eziphakeme. Lapho sineminyaka eyi-15 siyaqala ukufunda ubulili, futhi lapho sineminyaka engamashumi amabili sinezingane ezandleni zethu. Imindeni eminingi yakhiwa ngendiza, bese ikhiwa kuphela uma umyeni ekhulelwa futhi engesabi izibopho. Futhi ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, ekuqapheliseni ukungalingani kwalo nomlingani, omunye wethu ubalekela, eshiye konke, kuhlanganise nengane, nemindeni engaphelele. Inkinga yonke yukuthi sisheshe sikhule. "Umndeni ongaphelele nezinkinga zawo eziyinhloko" yilokho okuzoxoxwa ngakho kulesi sihloko.
Namuhla ezweni lethu inkinga yomndeni ongaphelele ingokoqobo. Kuwo wonke umndeni wesibili, ingane izalwa noma ikhuliswe umzali oyedwa. Iningi lomndeni onjalo, kuhlanganise nami, futhi ngangizibuza ukuthi ikusasa lami lilindele nezingane zami na? Kodwa angiboni umyeni wami noyise wezingane zami eceleni kwami. Kubonakala sengathi le nkinga yomphakathi ingena esimweni sokuphila kwethu futhi iphenduka ibe yindinganiso. Futhi njengoba le nkinga iyingxenye yendlela evamile yokuphila, ingabe kusho ukuthi lokhu kuyinkinga, mhlawumbe sekuphela kube yinkinga emphakathini wethu, ngoba ukwehlukana okuhlukile kokujwayelekile kumanqanaba ahlukene okuphila kwethu kwezenhlalakahle kuyinto eqhubekayo, emva kwalokho lezi zephutha zakha imigomo emisha.
Ngiseduze nabangane nabangane abaningi abakhulisa izingane bodwa, bayaqiniseka ukuthi abadingi umyeni, futhi ingane yabo ayidingi ubaba. Batshela ukuthi umyeni uyisidalwa esingenalusizo esishukumisa izinzwa ngenxa yokulala embhedeni nokubukela i-TV ngesikhathi esondla ingane ngesandla esisodwa kanti enye ipheka okuthile kwasemini eduze nesitofu. Mhlawumbe, kubalulekile ukuqala umndeni kancane lapho usukhulile, hhayi eminyakeni engu-18-20. Mhlawumbe ngemva kokuba sisekhulile, singase sibe nomthwalo wemfanelo ongaphezu kokushiya ingane yethu, futhi sigweme ukuhlukunyezwa lapho sikhulile, lapho unembeza uzoqala ukuhlukumeza ingane nengane eshiyiwe.
Umngane wami wayengabangane nomfana oyedwa, bahamba, bakhuluma, kodwa babengabanga noma bengazi. Babengabangane nje. Wajabula kakhulu ngalokhu ubungane, ngoba akukho buhlobo phakathi kwendoda nowesifazane njengalokhu, wonke umuntu uthi, ngubani ongevila kakhulu ukusho kanjalo. Ubuhlobo bungumusa wothando, bekhuluma ku-ace, futhi ukushaya, nokubiza, ngokuvamile, kwakungabikho. Ngaleso sikhathi sobabili bakholelwa ebuhlotsheni phakathi kwendoda nowesifazane, futhi sazama ukuzitshengisa thina nalabo bantu esasingathandi njengabangane, kodwa njengamantombazane. Sasiyiziphukuphuku futhi sinezinkani, ngenkathi satshelwa ukuthi asikho ubungane obunjalo, sazama ukukuthola, kodwa njengoba wazi, noma ngabe ubuphi ubungane buphela, futhi esikhathini sethu ukuphela kobuhlobo kuza ngokushesha futhi ngokushesha. Mhlawumbe sikhohlwe ukuthi singaba kanjani abangane? Futhi awuboni lutho olungaphezu kwekhala lakho? Ngakho, ubungane babo buphela ngoSepthemba 7.
Lolu suku usuku lokuzalwa lomngani wami. Waba neminyaka engu-20 ubudala. IJubile, okusho ukuthi izivakashi, abangane, izihlobo, izipho, amabhola, izimbali, ukuhleka namahlaya. Siyakuhalalisela kanye nezifiso ezigeleza emfuleni, ngokuvamile, imizwa yokugubha futhi kwakungumHe. Futhi kwenzeka kanjani ukuthi balala. Ukulala njalo kwenzeka njengento engalindelekile. Ucabanga ukuthi awusoze wenza lokhu ngomuntu othize, kodwa kwakukhona, futhi kwakungemva kwalezi zinkinga ukuthi kwenzekani okwenzekayo. Ngokusobala ngokuvumelana nokuthandana nokuthanda, okuxubene nokuphuza okuningi kotshwala kanye ne-hookah, bobabili bakhohliwe ngokuba nokukhulelwa komzimba. Njengoba kujwayelekile kwesigamu sethu sesilisa, emva kobusuku bothando wayelahlekile. Wayeka ukubiza nokubhala, futhi waqala ukungayinaki. Ngobobusuku ubungane babo bafa. Ubulili bubulala njalo ubungane, ngoba abakwazi ukuhlala ndawonye ebuhlotsheni babantu ababili. Ngemva kwamasonto ambalwa, sathola ukuthi ukhulelwe. Isikhathi sasingekho isikhathi eside, futhi kukhona okwakungenziwa, kepha wenqaba, wanquma ukuzala. Wabeletha indodakazi enhle, enempilo, enhle, efana namaconsi amabili, kubonakala sengathi unina.
Sikhuluma kakhulu, ikakhulukazi uma kungasikhathaleli. Ngokuhleba nokukhuluma, ubaba wathola ukuthi intombi yakhe ikhulelwe. Wakhetha ukukhuluma naye, angiqondi ukuthi yini ayefuna ukuyizuza ngale ngxoxo, futhi okuthakazelisayo kunazo zonke, wajika konke ukuze abe necala, futhi ngenxa yalokho washiya ukucasuka, ethi ngeke asondele kuye sondela. Kuzwakala sengathi wamthuka ngeqiniso lokuthi isisu sakhe sakhula iqanda lakhe. Akazange afune lutho kuye, ngisho nakuye futhi wathi kanjalo, kodwa ekuqaleni wamtshela ukuthi wayengeke aqaphele ubuso.
Yini ekhuthaza abantu ukuba bayeke umthwalo wemfanelo? Futhi singayishiya? Ngabuza le mibuzo. Isibonelo esiyinhloko sishiywa abesifazane abakhulelwe, nezingane ezisanda kuzalwa. Ukuhlanganyela ocansini akuvikelwe, ngempela amadoda ethu asebenza noma asebenze "mhlawumbe prokanaet"? Yebo, ngiyavuma ukuthi bobabili abesilisa nabesifazane kumele basolwe ngalokhu, kodwa yibani nomusa, ungayeki lokho okwenzile. Intombi yami ayizange imshiye ingane, yanquma ukuzala, kepha yenqaba ukuqaphela ingane. Akazange afune lutho kuye, akazange amtshele nokuthi ukhulelwe. Yena ngokwakhe ufunde kubantu ukuthi ukhulelwe. Futhi ngenxa yalokho, wamenza wamacala, wamshiya ingane. Lapha, lolu daba alusoze lwacasula ngoba wafihla ukukhulelwa kuye. Lapha iphuzu lonke liwukuthi uzama ukufihla ngemuva kwecala, ukuze alungise ukungabi nandaba kwakhe, bathi, Ngiyayinqabela ingane, ngoba unjalo-futhi-kanjalo. Ngisho noma kunjalo, ingane akumele ilahlwe. Ingane yayingakazalwa, kodwa nje yaqala ukwakha ngaphakathi komama wayo, futhi kakade yaba necala ekubunjweni komndeni ongaphelele. Abantu bakulungele ukusola konke nonke, uma kuphela bona abanecala. Kufana nomdlalo "Mafia". Okuyisisekelo salowo mdlalo ukuthi uyakulahla wonke umuntu, uthatha izinsolo zakho, bathi, ngihlanzekile njenge "imbongolo yesana," noma ngabe ungumama ".
Phela, lokhu kuyimeko evamile, futhi ukuphela kwalendaba sekuvele kucacile. Eminyakeni embalwa uyaqaphela futhi uzolala ngaphansi komnyango wabo, umlindi noma indodakazi, ukuze nje abone ukuthi waba kanjani ubuhle, noma uthando lwangaphambili, ukukhuluma naye, futhi uchaze ukuthi uyini idiot. Umbuzo kuphela ophakama, kungani bewudinga? Phela, benza kahle kakhulu. Ngempela, kunzima ekuqaleni, bese sijwayele, futhi kamuva asifuni ukushintsha lokho esikujwayele ukukujwayela. Ngamunye wethu kukhona ukwehla kwe-conservatism. Eminyakeni embalwa ngeke bafune ukuphula ukuvumelana okwakhiwa phakathi komama nendodakazi yakhe.
Ngakho-ke yiziphi izinsolo ezinganeni ezingakazalwa? Kungani bahlushwa ngokushesha ebuntwaneni obugcwele, noma esikhathini sethu, ubuntwana obugcwele bubhekwa njengobomi nomunye wabazali, kanti ukukhubazeka komphakathi ukuthi umndeni unomama nobaba? Noma ingabe kufanelekile ukudala umndeni nokubeletha izingane kungekuqaleni kwezinyathelo zokukhula, kodwa ngemuva kwesikhashana? Noma kunjalo, ngiyaqiniseka ukuthi imishado yasekuqaleni ayizinzile kakhulu kunabantu abavuthiwe. Phela, sekusemukelwe kakade emphakathini ukuthi umshado osemncane kusho ukuthi umbhangqwana osemusha ulindele ingane, futhi konke ngoba sisheshe. Kuphela lapho umuntu esemdala angenza isinyathelo esifanele sokucabangela, ukuqaphela yonke imithwalo yemfanelo.
Umfowenu washada lapho eneminyaka engu-28 ubudala, nomyeni wakhe 26. Wonke umuntu wathi bashade sekwephuzile. Futhi uphi ukuphuthuma? Manje banendodakazi enhle ekhula, futhi bayajabula. Futhi nginesiqiniseko sokuthi umshado wabo uzohlala kuze kube yiminyaka yobudala, ngoba abantu ababili abakhelwe wona bathatha isinyathelo sokuziphendulela, bazi kahle izenzo zabo. Futhi ngifuna ukuxwayisa wonke umuntu, ungasheshi! Futhi sizovimbela, ngakho-ke, zonke izinkinga zomkhaya ongaphelele! Injabulo ngeke ibaleke kuwe isikhathi, ngokungafani nomyeni osemusha ... Ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, kuyoba kuphela okumnandi futhi okumnandi, njengewayini leminyaka yokuguga.