Ukucindezeleka kwamaphosta, ukuwugwema kanjani?

Ngakho, kwenziwa, wanikezwa, futhi ngemva kwesikhashana umkhosi omkhulu womshado ulandelwe. Futhi konke kwakuyoba kuhle: kuwe kukhona umuntu wamaphupho akho, kukhona indlu yakho, kodwa kukhona okungalungile, nakuba kungekho zizathu zokulila.
Uma ungenalo umshado uzokwazi ukuvimbela amaphutha amaningi, futhi ugweme ukucindezeleka kokuthunyelwa komshado. Ngokusho kwedatha yemininingwane, inyanga yokuqala yokuphila okuhlanganyelwe ukuthi abasanda kushada babhekana nokudumazeka okuningi, okuhlobene nokungafani phakathi kokulindela kanye nesimo sangempela sokuphila.

Umshado, akungabazeki ukuthi, esinye sezici ezibaluleke kakhulu ekuphileni komuntu wonke, futhi lesi senzakalo ngezinye izikhathi asilungiselelwe inyanga eyodwa, kodwa imikhosi emangalisayo kakhulu iyilungele izinyanga eziyisithupha nonyaka. Ngezinye izikhathi kuvela ukuthi umshado uba umgomo obaluleke kunawo wonke wokuphila, uma uzuze futhi uqaphela ukuthi, umuntu uzizwa ukubhujiswa, ngoba ngaleso sikhathi akawuboni umgomo othakazelisayo phambi kwakhe.

Umshado uhlala ezinsukwini ezingu-1-2, ukuze emva kwalokhu kugubha isiteji somshado esingekho, into ebaluleke kakhulu ukucabanga ngemigomo yokuphila elandelayo wena futhi ungagcini ukuthi iholide lidlulile. Ngesikhathi ulungiselela umshado, ungakhohlwa ngokuphila kwakho okuvamile, ukuxhumana nabangani bakho, wenze izithakazelo zakho siqu.

Ngemuva komshado, kungcono ukuhamba ngokushesha, njengoba bethi kusukela eholidini kuya ebhola. Ngesikhathi sezinyosi, ukuphumula futhi ufike ngezinjongo ezintsha zokuphila. Yiqiniso, ungakwazi ukubuka amavidiyo nezithombe kusukela emshadweni, kodwa akudingeki ukuba uzinike isikhathi esiningi ukuze uthuthuke, ungaxoshe okwedlule, udinga ukugxila esikhathini esizayo nokuhlela kwawo.

Ukwenza ubuhle ebuhlotsheni ongaya kumuntu wezinwele futhi uguqule kakhulu izinwele zakho, ngaleyo ndlela uzokwenza intsha.

Ngokuvamile, abaningi bakholelwa ukuthi ngemva komshado, ukuphila okuhlangene kuqinisa uthando kuphela, kodwa kunomunye umuntu okufanele alungiselele ukuthi umyeni empilweni yangempela ngeke abe kuhle nakakhulu phakathi nemihlangano, ikakhulukazi uma ungenalo impilo ehlangene isipiliyoni. Kuyadingeka ukuthi ukwazi ukuthola ukuyekethisa.

Emva komkhosi womshado, khombisa indlela yokuphila owawunayo ngaphambi kwayo. Uma ngabe usadla, qhubeka ulandela, ungene emidlalweni - ngisho nangcono. Indoda ithanda ukudla okunamafutha nephezulu? Lokhu akusho ukuthi kufanele udle ngendlela efanayo. Ngokuvamile, yenza konke okwenziwe ngaphambi komshado, ungazishiyi futhi ungabi umama ojwayelekile wendlu (ungakhohlwa ukuzenza ngaphambi kokuba umyeni avele emsebenzini). Yenza isimanga kumyeni wakho, yiphathe, kodwa ngokulinganisela.

Abesifazane bakhathazekile kakhulu ngomshado, kubesifazane abaningi kusukela ebuntwaneni, inhloso ebaluleke kakhulu yokuphila yembatho ezimhlophe kanye nenduna ehhashi elimhlophe, ngakho akumangazi ukuthi abesifazane abathandekayo emva komshado abazizwa bejabule. Ngemuva komshado, ungavumeli umyeni wakhe ukuba axhumane nabangani, futhi ungakhohlwa ngabangani bakho.

Ngemuva komshado, isikhathi esisha siqala ekuphileni komuntu ngamunye, lapho umzimba udinga isikhathi ukulungisa. Ukuphila okuhlangene akulula futhi kulula, njengoba kungase kubonakale ekuboneni kokuqala. Ukuphila komndeni kuyisigaba esisha empilweni yomuntu futhi kudinga isikhathi ukuzivumelanisa nayo, ngakho uma ungaphelelwa ithemba ngemuva komshado, lokhu kuqubuka kuyodlula maduzane.

Njengoba ubona, ukucindezeleka kokuthunyelwa komshado akuyona into embi kakhulu, into ebaluleke kakhulu ukwazi ukuthi ungakuvimbela kanjani, noma ukunciphisa imiphumela yayo.