Nakuba eqinisweni kubonakala sengathi umbuzo wombhede wengane ungavela ngokuhamba kwesikhathi futhi ukhombise ukukhathazeka kwabazali mayelana nokuthi uzohamba nini esitokisini esincane kuya kwesinye esikhulu. Nokho, lokhu akulona iqiniso ngokuphelele.
Abazali abaningi abacabangela ngokujulile ukuthi bangayisebenzisa kanjani isabelomali emva kokubeletha kwengane, benqabe isikhala semvuthu, becabanga ukuthi embhede womzali, umntwana uzobe ekhululekile futhi ekhululekile kakhulu. Sikholelwa ukuthi umbhede uyadingeka ingane kusukela ezinsukwini zokuqala zokuphila, futhi yimbhede yakhe. Uma ungeke uthenge umbhede omusha - cela abangani bakho: mhlawumbe othile unomntwana omncane udoti, umuntu angayinika noma ayithengise ngokungabizi. Noma kunjalo, umbhede omdala ungcono kunokungabikho okuphelele.
Ukuphendula umbuzo: "Ingane idinga umbhede ngakanani ubudala", sifuna ukugcizelela ukuthi ngokunciphisa ingane kusukela ebusheni bendawo yakhe yokulala, uyamnciphisa ithuba lokufunda ukuzethemba nokuzimela. Kodwa emva kwakho konke, kubaluleke kangakanani ukufundisa ingane kulokhu ukuzimela? Kubonakala ukuthi ngonyaka wokuqala wokuphila izinga lokufunda kwengane likhulu kakhulu, ngakho-ke kudingekile ukuzama ukubeka ulwazi lwazo ezingezansi zobuntu, kodwa futhi nokuqonda kwezwe. Masiqale ukubona umbhede wengane kulolu hlu aludlali indima, kepha uma simba ngokujulile, sizoqonda ukuthi nguye obeka iziqu zokukhululeka kwakhe. Ifundisa ukuthi ngamunye wethu unendawo yakhe, lapho kumnandi kakhulu ukuphumula ekukhathaleleni.
Konke lokhu kuzofika kumntwana, yebo, hhayi ngesikhathi esisodwa - kodwa kholwa kimi, isisekelo esakhiwe isikhathi sizosiza ukugwema izinkinga eziningi esikhathini esizayo.
Sivame ukubeka izingane ukuba zilale eceleni kwazo ngoba nje zilula kakhulu kithi. Kungcono ngoba ingane ilala eduze komama wayo, ngoba iphuma kancane ebusuku. Kuyinto elula kakhulu uma sibeletha - akudingeki ukuba sivuke phakathi nobusuku futhi senze izinto eziningi ezengeziwe, kodwa nje sithuthele eduze komntwana - futhi usondla ngokuyivula. Kodwa kungaba ngcono uma sicindezela ubuvila eceleni kwesikhashana futhi senze lezi zinyathelo ezine ekubhekeni komntwana okhala ngokulamba!
Manje ake sixoxe ngesidingo sombhede wengane, okuzofaka esikhundleni sokubheka okuncane. Futhi hhayi ngisho nangesidingo, njengoba kusobala, kodwa mayelana nokuthi udinga kangakanani ukuthenga umbhede omkhulu.
Ngicabanga ukuthi wonke umuntu ngokwakhe, futhi kuncike ekuqaleni, kumntwana ngokwakhe: ikakhulukazi, ngezici zakhe zomzimba. Phela, ezinye izingane kanye neminyaka emibili zihlala ziyingcosana, amaphuphoni - ngakho-ke umbhede wabo wokuqala ungakhonza isikhathi eside, kuzokuba lula ukubeka kuwo. Futhi uma ingane engonyaka nesigamu isivele isongela embhedeni - khona-ke lesi yisikhathi sokucabanga ngokuthenga okuthile okunye.
Ngaphezu kwalokho, indima ebalulekile idlala ngendlela ingane yakho ilele ngayo. Isibonelo, uma engenakuphumula futhi ephenduka ephusheni, uphenduka ngapha nangapha - bese udinga ukuzama ukuphuma esikhwameni ngokuvikelwa kuze kulungiswe ukulala kwengane. Ake ucabange ukuthi kuyingozi kangakanani ingane ebhedeni, lapho kungekho lutho olungamvimbela ukuba awe phansi. Phela, akunakwenzeka ukuthi uzokwazi ukumboza ngamacilongo, noma umboze phansi ngezingubo - konke okufanayo, uma umntwana ewela embhedeni, angeke akwazi ukulimala, kodwa wesabe kakhulu! Kodwa zikhona nezinye izingane ezingcono - kubonakala sengathi ngukuphi lapho ingane ilele khona - kulokhu ekuseni futhi ivukile. Lapha kulaba bantwana, ukuguqulwa ku-crib "omdala" kungenzeka ngokushesha kakhulu.
Ngokuvamile, mhlawumbe, angizange ngincoma ukuthenga umbhede womntwana ngaphambi kweminyaka emibili. Kuphela uma nje esanda kuphuma emanzini - futhi udinga isikhala esiningi, kungenjalo, nawe, kulindeleke ubusuku bokulala. Kungani kusuka kule minyaka? Ngoba emva kweminyaka emibili izingane ziyazi kahle, zikwazi ukuzilawula ngokwazo kanye nokunyakaza kwazo ngisho nenye ephusheni. Futhi, ngaphezu kwalokho, kulesi sikhathi ukuthi isigaba sokuqala sokuhlukaniswa, ukususwa kwengane kusuka kumama kuza. Okusho ukuthi, izinyane liyeke ukuzizwa lilodwa elilodwa nomama wakhe, uyaqonda ukuthi ungumuntu ohlukile, usazophila. Kule nkathi, ngendlela, kunengxenye enkulu yezingxabano zezingane ezidinga ukufundiswa ukuqedwa. Ubhado balo obukhulu luzosiza umntwana ukuba azizwe ewubaluleke kakhulu, isimo sakhe nesimo emndenini. Ucabanga ukuthi lokhu kuyize ne-trivia? Kodwa impilo yengane eneminyaka enhle kangaka ihlanganisa ngokunjalo lezo zicucu.
Ngakho-ke, iseluleko sami kuwe: bheka ingane yakho, uzizwe izidingo zakhe, ulalele izifiso zakhe ... Uma yena ngokwakhe eveza umqondo wokuthi udinga enkulu, uhlaka lwakhe - kungani ungamlaleli? Yiqiniso, uma kungeyona nje i-whim. Ngezinye izikhathi izingane ziyazi ngempela ukuthi zidingani.
Futhi uma ubeka lo mbuzo ngale ndlela, bathi, kusukela kudala kangakanani lo mbhede odingekayo, khona-ke ayikho impendulo eqondile futhi ayikwazi. Ungakwazi kuphela ukubeka imingcele yobudala obuncane futhi obukhulu: isibonelo, ingane engaphansi kweminyaka emibili, lo mbhede cishe uyakuba mkhulu, kodwa iminyaka emithathu kuya ku-3.5-4 kufanele isetshenziswe kakade ngamandla futhi amakhulu.