Kodwa, ngeshwa, muva nje emphakathini wanamuhla kukhona ukuthambekela okujwayelekile: abantu baqala ukuchitha isikhathi esincane etafuleni elifanayo, besidla futhi badla ngezikhathi ezahlukene noma ngisho ngaphandle kwezindonga zendlu. Futhi inani lemindeni likhula ngesilinganiso esesabekayo.
Njengomthetho, isidlo sakusihlwa kuphela ithuba lokuhlangana nomndeni wonke. Kodwa, njengoba kunikezwa ukuthi manje cishe kuzo zonke ikhishi "umhlobiso omkhulu wetafula" yi-TV, kaningi amalungu omndeni ukhetha ukuxoxa ngokubukela imibukiso ye-TV yasemanzini.
Ukuze uthole ukuthi kwenzekani emphefumulweni wendlu, kwenzekani empilweni yabo, ukuthi bachitha kanjani lolo suku, omunye kufanele acabange ukuthi angenza kanjani umcimbi wesidlo sakusihlwa esilula noma isidlo sakusihlwa. Ngaphezu kwalokho, lo mcimbi ujabulisa futhi uyingqayizivele, ngosizo okungenakwenzeka nje ukugubha umndeni kuphela, kodwa futhi ukufaka izingane ohlelweni lokubaluleka oluthile.
Kungani umkhuba wokudla komndeni ohlangene uphelalala?
Ukudla okunomsoco, ingxoxo enomphefumulo kanye nokuhleka okuyingqayizivele - lezi ziyingxenye yomdlo wasekhaya. Kodwa umsebenzi wethu njalo awuvumeli ukuba sihlanganise wonke umndeni etafuleni elifanayo. Kodwa ngani?Intsha ibona isizathu sokuthi abazali basebenze isikhathi eside, futhi abazali ngokwabo yiloluhlelo lwabo lomsebenzi futhi isimiso sosuku asihambisani.
Phakathi kwezinye izizathu ezivame ukushiwo, umuntu angahlukanisa "ukungafuni ukudla ndawonye", "ukungathandi ukuphazamisa kakhulu ezindabeni nokulawula izimpilo zezingane" kanye "nezinhlelo zethelevishini ezithakazelisayo kakhulu ezingenakukwazi ukuzenza."
Kodwa ngokuvamile ngokuvamile abantu abadala nabantwana bathi "bamatasa kakhulu" ukuba badle ukudla kwasemini noma kokudla. Kodwa ukuze kulondolozwe futhi kuhlanganiswe umndeni, hhayi ukungazinaki izinkinga ezisencane futhi ngaleyo ndlela ugweme imiphumela engaba yingozi, kubalulekile ukwenza imizamo emikhulu ukuze ukudla komndeni okuhlangene kube isiko elihle kuwo wonke umndeni.
Vele uqale ukukhuluma nomunye
Eqinisweni, ukuze usindise imindeni eminingi, ukuyikhipha emfudumeni yokungaboni kahle nokuphikisana, umuntu akufanele aphendukele ezinganeni ze-psychoanalyst usizo. Badinga nje ukuqoqa etafuleni lokudla ukuze baxoxe ngokukhululekile futhi baxoxe ngokukhululekile ngezinkinga zamanje.Njengoba inkinga enkulu emindenini eminingi iwukuthi bayeka ukukhuluma omunye nomunye.
Ukuhamba njalo kwabazali, imihlangano nabangani, ukuzilibazisa okuhlukahlukene kwezingane, konke lokhu kuthatha isikhathi esiyigugu esingasetshenziswa nomndeni. Kodwa kanjani ukubeka phambili? Iningi labantu abadala lixazulula kalula izinkinga ezinjalo emsebenzini, kodwa uma kuziwa emisebenzini yasendlini, abanamandla. Nakuba, njengomsebenzi ophumelelayo udinga ukuhlela okuphumelelayo, ngakho-ke umndeni udinga indlela efanayo ngokucophelela kuyo yonke into, kuhlanganise nenhlangano yokudla komndeni ohlangene.
Ngakho-ke, ungenza kanjani umndeni ube munye ngokwama-dinners ehlangene.
Ekhumbula ukuthi isidlo somndeni akuyona nje ukudla okuhlanganyelwe, kodwa futhi nesimo esibalulekile sokuzinza komndeni, kubalulekile ukufeza izimo ezithile zokubamba ukudla okunjalo.
- Hlela usuku kanye nesikhathi sokudla komndeni kanye nokudla, gcina isikhathi sokuhlela kuze kube yilapho ukudla okuhlangene kube yisiko. Futhi kungcono ukuhlela ezinye zomsebenzi zasendlini ezibalulekile okudingeka zenziwe ndawonye, isikhathi esithile noma ngemuva kokudla komndeni. Ekuqaleni, ngeke kube lula ukulandela isimiso, kodwa umphumela ngeke ube yisikhathi eside. Qala ngesikhatsi sangempela - isibonelo, isidlo esihlangene ngeSonto - bese nesikhathi ungakhetha iminyango embalwa ngesonto. Qinisekisa ukuthi unike isikhathi esithile sokudla. Njengoba ukugwinya ukudla okusheshayo kubikwa kakhulu futhi kugayiwe, okungesiwona umphumela omuhle kunayo yonke impilo nempilo yomzimba jikelele.
- Kungcono ukudla etafuleni lokudlela, kodwa hhayi phambi kwe-TV. Ukudla isidlo ngemuva kokubuka lo mbukiso, ehlezi embhedeni ngetayitela esandleni sakhe, akunakwenzeka ukukhuluma. Futhi akukho okumangalisa ukuthi eminyakeni eyishumi eyedlule ukuthengiswa kwamatafula okudlela kudlule kakhulu, ngoba imindeni eminingi nje ayiboni isidingo kubo.
- Thatha ukuthi lo mthetho usho okuthile okubalulekile ngaphambi kokuqala kokudla, ukunikeza izingane izingane phansi. Isibonelo, siyabonga umuntu ophekwe ukudla noma wenza into ebalulekile kumndeni wonke.
- Phakathi nesidlo sasemini, xoxani izikhathi nezikhathi ezinhle kuphela.
- Ungakwazi futhi ukuchazela izingane ezintsha amagama angajwayelekile futhi ufike ngezindaba ezithile ezimnandi lapho kukhulunywa khona la magama. Ngakho-ke, ungajabula futhi ukwandise isilulumagama sabantwana.
- Zama izitsha ezintsha. Ngemuva kwalokho, usuku nosuku sidla into efanayo, futhi sidle ukudla kwasemini emcimbini, ungakwazi ukupheka ukudla ezivela ezingxenyeni ezahlukene zomhlaba kanye ngesonto futhi ndawonye nixoxisane izindlela zokupheka nezinzwa ezintsha zokunambitheka.
- Ukudla kuvela kuphi? Khuluma etafuleni ngalokhu. Buza izingane uma ziyazi ukuthi lokhu noma lowo mkhiqizo uvelaphi, ukuthi bayayikhiqiza kanjani. Le mibuzo neminye eminingi ngeke nje kusize ukwakha ingxoxo ezithakazelisayo, kodwa futhi zikhomba izikhala kolwazi futhi ziqede.
- Hlaka ekudleni! Ngosizo lwehlaya, ungenza isidlo somndeni esijwayelekile kumnandi futhi ungakhohlwa. Esikhathini sezincwadi ungathola iqoqo lama-anecdotes namahlaya, okuhloswe ezinganeni zeminyaka ehlukile. Ngaphezu kwalokho, kwaziwa ukuthi ukuhleka kunomthelela wokugaya.