Uma kungekho othandekayo empilweni, ngokuhamba kwesikhathi umuzwa wokungabi nalutho uqala ukuwuqeda, abanye baqala ukubuka zonke iziteshi zeTV ezilandelanayo, abanye bahlale ku-intanethi bese bexhumana nendawo yokuphola, abanye bahamba futhi basebenza, beza ekhaya belele kuphela. Kodwa, okokuqala, kubalulekile ukuqonda isizathu sokuba nesizungu, ukuze uphendule umbuzo wendlela yokususa isizungu kalula futhi masinyane?
Kuphela, kunezinzuzo nezizathu zokuthi kungani abesifazane bengathandi ukuhlukanisa nesizungu.
1. Ukuheha inkululeko! Umuntu onesizungu akadingi ukujwayela omunye umuntu, akudingeki ukuba apheke, ahlanze indlu ukuze ajabulise indoda. Okusho ukuthi, ungaphila njengoba ufuna, hhayi ngendlela efanele. Abantu abaningi bayakwazisa inkululeko yabo kakhulu ngakho-ke bahlala bengashadile.
2. Abesifazane abangenayo indoda engunaphakade bangacela usizo, bayomzisola, bamduduze. Okusho ukuthi, isifiso sokubukeka sinobuhlungu futhi sibuthakathaka futhi sikujabulele.
3. Abanye besifazane, abanesihluku nabesilisa abangenangqondo, abafuni ubuhlobo nomuntu nhlobo. Kwabo, manje, kunenhlanhla ukubuyela ekhaya, ukuwela esihlalweni sobukhosi futhi ubukele enye insipho opera noma i-reality show.
4. Kukhona uhlobo lwabesifazane abakholelwa ukuthi bonke abantu abafanelekile. Ulindele indoda eyodwa ephelele eyoyigqoka ezandleni zayo futhi inike izimbali. Abesifazane abanjalo baphila ngaphansi kwesiqubulo sokuthi kungcono ukuba yedwa kunanoma ubani.
5. Amanye amantombazane akafuni nje ubuhlobo obunzima futhi obude, kodwa ujabulele njalo injabulo ngomuntu, mhlawumbe, ngeke abuke futhi. Laba besifazane abazibuze ngisho ukuthi kulula kangakanani futhi basheshe balahle isizungu.
6. Kunezimo lapho indoda ivele ibe yisithiyo emisebenzini yabesifazane. Owesifazane ophumelelayo akakwazi ukuchitha isikhathi kumuntu. Uvele nje angeneli ezinhlelweni zakhe.
7. Intombazane engashadile ayinqatshelwe ukuxhumana, kumnandi, ukugqoka isiketi esifushane. Akekho onomhawu, akusho ukuthi yini okufanele uyenze nokuthi uziphathe kanjani. Akudingeki ucabange ukuthi ukupheka ngodla, kanjani ukuhlukanisa ubulili bomuntu wakho, akukho ukukhashelwa, ukuhlupheka kanye nemizwelo.
Kodwa kukhona nabesifazane abanjalo, ngendlela, bangabaningi abafuna ukuqeda umuzwa wesizungu futhi bajabule empilweni yabo yomndeni.
Noma kunjalo, ungasusa kanjani isizungu?
Okokuqala, udinga ukuhamba emhlabeni we-Inthanethi uphinde uye kubantu. Futhi kungakhathaliseki ukuthi akuphi ukubaluleka kokuhamba, isibonelo, ku-cafe, ungaya emnyuziyamu, nje uhambe ujikeleze umuzi, ngenhloso yale nkampani inkampani yabangani noma izisebenzi ezizosebenza kuzokwenza. Ngokuvamile, intukuthelo yilapho kunomuntu oyedwa kuphela, futhi uma kunabantu abaningi abaseduze, isizungu asinzima kakhulu. Ungabhalisa kwezinye izifundo, ikakhulukazi labo abanabantu abaningi bobulili obuhlukile. Kunconywa ukuba uye e-resort, mhlawumbe eyodwa, ngaphandle kwezintombi. Ngakho kulula kakhulu ukujwayela futhi unqobe amahloni akho, ngoba akekho ozokubona kubangane bakho. E-resort, ubuhlobo kulula ukubopha.
Kuncomeka ukuthi ubuyekeze ukuziphatha kwakho futhi uqonde amaphutha akho. Kudingeka sihlaziye, sishintshe okungalungile, ukuziphatha okulungile, ukubukeka, imikhuba. Noma yini engakwazi ukuhlukanisa umfana osemusha. Ukuba nesizungu noma ukungabi khona, wonke umuntu uyazikhethela yena. Phela, isizungu singumqondo obanzi kakhulu. Ungaba yedwa, ekubeni enkampanini enkulu, ngisho nangomunye othandekayo wakho, ungase uzizwe unesizungu futhi ungenasidingo.