Bonke abazali bazama ukukhulisa izingane zabo ngendlela abafuna ukuzibona ngayo, futhi kulokhu kuxhumene nabo bakhetha inqubo ethile ehambisana nohlobo olusungulwe lobuhlobo bomndeni. Kodwa-ke, ukunakekelwa ngokweqile kwababelethi kuyahlukahlukana - kusho ukuthi, ubudlova obunobuntu bomntwana, nakuba kubonakala sengathi ukunakekelwa okunjalo kuwukuvikela ingane yakhe kuphela ubunzima obuvela endleleni yakhe. Kodwa ukuthi ibanga elikhulu lihlukanisa kanjani ukuhlanganyela okuthandekayo kulobu buqhawe obunzima!
Lokhu kuholela kuphi? Izihluthulelo ezibuthakathaka zokuzimela ngokuzenzakalelayo ziyacindezelwa, njengoba zithi, "ekuhlungeni", futhi imvelo "mina ngokwami" iyaphenduka ibe yinto engafaneleki "Vumela ubaba acabangele", "Ngizobuza umama wami," Buza abazali bami, bavumele ukuba basize. " Ngezinye izikhathi, ukuhamba ngendlela enjalo, abazali babhekene nokubonakaliswa kokungaboni izingane, ngoba ingane isheshe ifunde ukudlala imizwa yabazali nokukhohlisa, izuze esimweni. Izingane zabazali abanakekela ngokweqile, njengomthetho, zibugovu futhi azizimele. Abafana baba "amadodana ka-mama" ajwayelekile, ngisho nangemva kokuba umshado uthinteke kakhulu kunina futhi akakwazi ukwenza ngaphandle kokunakekelwa kwakhe, iseluleko. Kufika kulelo phalisi elivamile ne-borsch, eliphekwe umfazi osemusha, abonakala bengabomama wabo. Amantombazane ashada ngokusheshisa, elinde induna yenkosi ngehhashi elimhlophe.
Ngokuvamile ebusheni, ababheki bafuna ukulahla ijoka lokukhathazeka kwansuku zonke, okudala izingxabano zomndeni. Abazali abaqondiswa ngisho nezintshisekelo, njengoba bekubona, ngomntwana wabo, kufanele bahlaziye umxhwele wabo, ngoba imibhikisho kanye "nokuvukela" kwenkathi yokuguquka kubonisa ukuthi umndeni awukhululekile kulo mfana. Ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, lokhu kukhuliswa kungaletha "izithelo" zayo, okuzoholela ekuzikhuleni kwentsha, ukubekezelelana eqenjini kanye nezidingo ezidlulele (hhayi kwabanye - kwabanye). Ngokuvamile izingane ezivame ukunakekelwa ngokweqile kwabazali bazo azihlangabezane nobunzima bokuphila okuzimele, zibuyele "ephikweni lomzali" ngenkathi zicabangela ubaba nomama ukuba babe ngabahlukumezi bomndeni noma umsebenzi wabo ohlulekile, ngakho-ke, nabantwana, abazali baxubene nenzondo ethule.
Yini okufanele uyenze kulesi simo? Abazali kufanele baqaphele amaphutha abo ngokuhamba kwesikhathi bese balungisa isu labo elikhethiwe lokufundisa ukuze lingabikho emiphumeleni enjalo ebabazayo kanye namafomu aphukile.