Manje ukucabanga kwengqondo kubalulekile njengesayensi. I-Psychology namuhla inentshisekelo kwinani elikhulu labantu, naphezu kokuthi i-psychology ingenye yezesayensi encane kunazo zonke. Kungani kubonisa isithakazelo esinjalo kuye? Mhlawumbe, iqiniso lokuthi ngezinye izikhathi kunzima kakhulu ukuqonda abantu, ikakhulukazi abesilisa obuhlukile, futhi ngosizo lwengqondo ukuthi ungakha isithombe somqondo womuntu wonke.
Ukuze ufunde ubuntu, akudingekile ukuba ube yingcweti emkhakheni wezokwelapha. Thatha isibonelo isibonakaliso somzwelo, ake kube ukuhleka. Izwi lokuhleka, elikhulu noma elithule, elinamahloni noma eliphambene nalokho, isenzo esingahle sihambisane ngaso. Konke lokhu kungakusiza ukucacisa umlingiswa womuntu okungekho ukuhleka okufanayo kuye.
Indlela yokwazi uhlamvu lomuntu ngokuhleka kwakhe
Abamele ubulili obunamandla bangabhekiselwa esigabeni sabantu abanamahloni nabanamahloni, uma behleka ukuhleka, bavala umlomo ngomlomo wabo. Ngenxa yokuthi banamahloni, baqaphele, bakuthola kunzima ukuthola ulimi oluvamile nabanye. Ngendlela efanayo, abamele insimu yabesifazane nabo bahleka, okungahle kubhekwe njengezinkinga futhi zivaliwe.
Uma umuntu "egaxa" ukuhleka, ke ukhuluma nge-typolyudey, eqiniseka ezenzweni zakhe, eqinile ezinkolelweni zakhe. Umuntu onjalo akaphiki izinyathelo zakhe, amandla akhe. Abesifazane abahleka ngendlela efanayo banengqondo, izifiso zabo. Iningi livame ukuba nesimiso esinamandla.
Ukuhleka kusuka phansi kwenhliziyo, ngezwi elivela kumuntu, kungasitshela ukuthi umnikazi wayo ungumuntu ongenakuphikiswa. Ungumuntu ongenakuqiniseka, imibono yakhe iguquka ngezikhathi ezithile. Izihloko ezinzima azithandeki kuye.
Uma ngesikhathi sokuhleka okukhulu umuntu evula umlomo wakhe kabanzi, khona-ke singaphetha ngokuthi lo muntu unomlingiswa we-irascible. Baphumelela eziphethweni, ukusika, njengoba bekusho, kuqala ukwenza, bese ucabanga. Embuthanweni wabangane kukhona into enentshisekelo enkulu. Ngokuqondene nabesifazane abanokuhleka okunjalo, bangabameleli besigaba esibucayi kakhulu futhi esibucayi. Banezwe elinomhlaba ocebile. Uma ubulili obuhle buhleka, ngenkathi kuvezwa yonke "amazinyo angamashumi amathathu nambili", kuyahlukana kubonisa umlingani owanele.
Ukuhleka okuthulile nekhanda elikhothele kancane kusitshela ukuthi umninikhaya uyindoda enomusa futhi oqotho. Abantu abanjalo bagcina imizwa yabo ilawulwa futhi bangashiyi imingcele yokufaneleka. Bangabantu abakhulile abaye bakhuliswa kahle.
Ukuhleka kwesifazane okungenangqondo, ukushintsha ukuqondisa kwayo kusukela ekuthuleni kuya phezulu kukhuluma ngokuhlakanipha kwabanikazi babo. Banesithakazelo kwezobuciko, uthando, ukuphupha.
Uma ukuhleka kuthatha isikhundla somuntu oshaya umlomo, lapho izindebe zigobile khona ngakwesokudla, kuthiwa ungumuntu onzima. Lokhu, njengombuso, abantu, ukungaboni kahle nokubhekene nobuso ababili.
Abaningi bangahle bahleke ngendlela ehlukile. Njengomthetho, lokhu kuyingxenye yomuntu ngamunye. Laba bantu abambelela ngokuqinile emibonweni yabo, futhi abakhathaleli ngabanye. Phila ezweni lemithetho yabo siqu.
Ngenhla sichaze eyodwa kuphela yezibonelo ezithinta kakhulu zomuntu wokuhleka ongakuzwa. Eqinisweni, konke kuyedwa. Futhi ukuhleka kwamanzi kungawela ngezinhlobo eziningana. Futhi akudingekile ukuthi kungenakuzaza ukuthi ukuchazwa okucacile kufike kulokhu noma lokho kuhleka. Lapha siye sakhipha izakhi ezicacile, ezingase zihlangane nabanye ngesilinganiso esithile. Isiphetho mayelana nomlingiswa womuntu angeke senziwe budedengu. Eqinisweni, ukuhleka kungenye yezingxenye ezingaba nomuntu othile. Esikhathini sethu, ikhwalithi yokuhleka ingasinika umbono ojwayelekile womuntu.
Futhi, ekugcineni, ngingathanda ukuxosha inkolelo-mlando ye-tickling. Kukholelwa ukuthi ngosizo lwe-tickling ungenza umuntu ahleke, ngakho-ke, futhi akhuthaze. Ososayensi baseMelika bakholelwa ukuthi lokhu akunjalo. Baqhuba ukuhlola futhi bachaza ukuthi ukuhleka okushiwo umuntu ngesikhathi sokukhipha isicoco, kungenalutho, ukuze akwazi ukujabulisa nokujabula nakakhulu.