Maye, ngisho nobuhlobo obuhle kakhulu, uthando nobuhlungu bungafani. Futhi kubesifazane abaningi ingxoxo mayelana nentethelelo ihlobene nokuphinga. Kungani? Mhlawumbe ngoba akunzima ukumthethelela. Kunzima, kodwa kungenzeka. Ufuna ukwazi kanjani?
Khumbula inkulumo edumile: "Uthando lusho ukuthi awusoze waxolisa?" Ngomongo wengxoxo yethu, kuyiqiniso nakwehlukile. Uthando yilapho ucela intethelelo njalo. Kodwa kuyinto eyodwa ukuthethelela umyeni uma ukhohlwa ukuthatha ingane esikoleni. Noma akazange ahlanze izitsha ngemuva kokudla. Enye into - ukumthethelela.
"Futhi kufanelekile ukuthethelela?" - iningi lethu lingabaza. "" Njengoba ukwethenjwa kuphelile, akukho lutho olungabuyiselwa. " Akunjalo. Yiqiniso, wonke umuntu kuleso simo uthola isisombululo. Kodwa ungagcina umshado ngisho nangemva kokuvukela umbuso. Kanjani? Izinto ezimbili zibaluleke kakhulu lapha.
Bheka impande
Iqiniso liwukuthi, ngokuvamile, ukuphinga kuyisibonakaliso sezinye izinkinga. Ngesizathu esicacile, abantu, njengombuso, abaguquki. Kukhona izizathu ezithile ezijulile, futhi uma ufuna ukulondoloza umshado wakho, okokuqala udinga ukufika phansi ezinkingeni ebuhlotsheni, bese uwakha futhi.
Yiba nesibindi nokubekezela futhi uxoxe ngesimo nomlingani wakho. Lalela ngokucophelela incazelo yakhe mayelana nezizathu zokukhaphela kwakhe - ngokuzumayo kuzoba nezinkinga ongazixazulula kuphela. Kodwa lokhu akusho ukuthi umnika i-blan blanche ye-infidelity. Kodwa ukuze uqhubekele phambili, udinga ukuyeka ukucabanga ukuthi ubani olungile nokuthi ubani ongasola. Kufanele uzibuze umbuzo owodwa: "Yini engingayenza ukuze ngibuyise ubuhlobo bethu?" Lokhu akuwona umsebenzi olula ezimweni. Kodwa imizamo yakho ngeke isetshenziswe. Ngokusho komfazi oyedwa othethelela umyeni wakhe, "ngemva kokuba sigijime phansi phansi kolwandle futhi sivele sibheke umoya, kwakukhona ububele phakathi kwethu" ...
Khumbula zonke izinto ezinhle
Ngokusho kwedatha yocwaningo, imibhangqwana eye yabhekana nokuhlukunyezwa kodwa engazange ihlukane, kuyisici sokuqashelwa ngokubaluleka kokubaluleka kokubambisana komunye nomunye. Kudingekile ukushiya lo mzwa, ngoba isisusa sokuthethelela masinyane sanyamalala, ikakhulukazi uma ukulimala komunye womshado kujulile.
Ngakho-ke, ngaphansi kwanoma yiziphi izimo kufanele uzivumele ukukhohlwa imizwa eyakuphazamisa ekuqaleni kothando lwakho. Khumbuza wena nomunye ngokuthi kungani uhlangene, futhi mayelana nezikhathi ezimangalisayo ozisebenzise. Lezi zinkumbulo zizosiza ngokubhekana nezinkinga zesikhashana ebuhlotsheni futhi zikukhumbuze ngokuqhubeka koxhumano lwakho. Kubaluleke kakhulu ukweqa ukulahlwa nokwehliswa futhi uhlaziye umthamo womshado wakho: izithakazelo zakho ezivamile, izindlela zokukhulisa izingane, imigomo yokuphila, injabulo oyitholayo ngokuxhumana nomunye nomunye.
Ukungathembeki komyeni wami kwavula amehlo ami
Ngendlela, ngokusho kochwepheshe, okuhlangenwe nakho kokuhlubuka, nayo yonke imiphumela yaso ebuhlungu, umuntu angaya futhi azuze. Enye intombazane, eyasinda ekukhonjweni komyeni wayo futhi yakwazi "ukumkhulula esonweni," iyavuma: "Ngangivame ukucabanga ukuthi umculo uzoba unomphela, kodwa ukungathembeki komyeni wami kwavula amehlo ami." Manje sithandana kakhulu.Ubudlelwane bethu bekungakaziwa kuze kube manje ukujula nokuzwana ukukhanga ".
Gcina ngokwakho
Intukuthelo ngumeluleki omubi. Esikhathini lapho ufunda khona ngokuhlukumezeka, kunzima ukungavumeli imizwelo iphume, yebo, mhlawumbe, futhi akudingekile. Kodwa hhayi bonke abangakhethi. Owesifazane esimweni esinjalo kufanele aqaphele ukushisa kwama-rabies akhe futhi azinike isikhathi sokupholisa, ukuze angazisoli kamuva ngokuqhuma. Ngezinye izikhathi, uma ungaphathi ukulawula intukuthelo yakho, ungakuleka ukuba usakaze isikhathi esifushane.
Ungazami
Esigabeni sokuthi "ukukhuluma" isimo akufanele sihambe ngaphezu kolwazi oludingekayo ukuze siqonde izimbangela zokuhlubuka. Ungabuzi umthengisi ngemininingwane - bangahlala behlupha izinkumbulo zeminyaka ezayo. Utshela umfazi oyedwa okhohlisiwe: "Wangitshela:" Uma engithinta, uyangihlupha. Futhi akalahli amandla kuwe. "Ukuqashelwa lokhu kwakwanele ukuvimbela umshado wethu ukuba ungasindiswa."
Setha i-leash
Uhlangothi oluthintekile, ngisho nangemva kokubuyisana, lubucayi kakhulu futhi lusolisayo. Futhi isidingo sokugcina umyeni oshintshile esikhathini esizayo nge-leash esifushane sinamandla kakhulu. Zitshele ukuthi "cha" njalo lapho isifiso esinjalo sibonakala, akukho ukulawula okungaqondakali ngeke kuholele kunoma yini.
Ukuthethelela akusikho ukukhohlwa
Empeleni, iningi labesifazane, uma uthethelela, ungakhohlwa. Ngokwesifazane othethelelwe, ngezinye izikhathi, lapho umyeni wakhe emgxeka, ufuna ukumphonsa ngendaba ebusweni. Kodwa uyabamba, ngoba ngaleso sikhathi waphenduka ngobuqotho. Uthi: "Umthunzi uzohlala unomphela, kodwa kancane kancane wehla ngobukhulu."
Ngingaba ngcono yini kunabo?
Futhi omunye umbuzo obalulekile: kanjani futhi ukuthi ungaqala kanjani ukulala nomuntu owakuphika ngendlela enokuqala? Njengomthetho, owesifazane okhohlisayo ugijimela kwesinye sezidakamizwa ezimbili: yena noma uzama ukuhamba naye ocansini, ebonisa umyeni wakhe ukuthi ulahlekile kangakanani, noma, ngokuphambene nalokho, uvaliwe ngokuphelele futhi wenqaba ukuya ocansini. Yebo, kunzima ukuzwa njalo ukuthi owesithathu ulele embhedeni ... U-Marina P uyachaza: "Ngonyaka odlule ngaphambi kokuba ngiphinde ngizizwe ngikhululekile embhedeni, ngangilokhu ngicabanga:" Futhi wamkhathaza futhi? "Sabe sesimemezela ukuxoshwa ngocansi kuze kube yilapho ukuthembela okuyisisekelo kuvuselelwa phakathi kwethu. "Kwabe sesibuye saqala ukumanga futhi kancane kancane sifike emcimbini omkhulu ..."