Phela, ukukhethwa kobuchwepheshe kuyisinyathelo sokuqala nesibalulekile ekuphileni komuntu, ukugwema isitifiketi esingakwazi ukuphunyuka kuso. Kusukela kulolu khetho, kuxhomeke kakhulu: hhayi nje kuphela ikusasa lakhe eliqhakazile, kodwa futhi nesimo sakhe sokuziphatha kanye nenduduzo engokomoya.
Kungani abantu abasha bekhetha umsebenzi ozayo - ingabe lokhu kuyinkinga enkulu? Kunezimpendulo eziningana kulo mbuzo. Ezweni lanamuhla kukhona uhlu olubanzi lwezinto ezikhethekile, abadala asele bephela, kepha abasha bavele, hhayi nje kwentsha kodwa nabazali babo abazange bazizwe ngabo!
Lesi sizukulwane esisha asinalo ithuba lokujwayela ubuchwepheshe obuhlukahlukene bokusebenza, isibonelo, njengoba kwakunjalo ngezikhathi zaseSoviet. Konke lokhu kungenxa yokuthi ibhizinisi lanamuhla alivumeli ukungenelela, iningi lezinqubo zomsebenzi alinakulinganiswa ukugcina, ngoba zidlula ezingeni lokucabanga. Kubantwana lokhu akuqondakali ngokuphelele, ngoba intsha iyinto engaqondakali, ngoba abaphothule isimo sesimo, noma kunjalo, kusukela ngaphakathi.
Enye indlela ebalulekile yokwehla kwesimanje ukuntuleka kwamaqembu ezithakazelo abazali bethu abathandana kakhulu: ama-mugs ahlukahlukene omsakazo wezobuchwepheshe, imibuthano yabathwebuli bezithombe abasha kanye nezintatheli, imodeli yomoya kanye nabanye abaningi. Abaphothulile abanalo ithuba lokuzihlola ngokwabo ezintweni ezithandwayo, ngakho abakwazi ukuthola umkhumbi. Abantwana besikole bangaqonda okuthile kuphela ngesibonelo somsebenzi wabazali babo. Kodwa lokhu kuncane kakhulu ukucacisa ukukhetha kobuchwepheshe babo.
Ungabhala ngezikhathi zonke izizathu eziningi, kodwa kuphumelela kakhulu ukugcizelela amaphutha okungenzeka abasha abakhethayo lapho bekhetha izici zesikhathi esizayo:
- izingane zingakhetha okokuqala, okuzowela esweni, umsebenzi;
- Futhi, banakekele imisebenzi ethile ngoba bayaqiniseka ngokuqinile kwayo;
- noma inkampani nabangani abakhele kakade ukukhetha;
- mhlawumbe bavela ekuzweleni kwabo ngabantu abamele umsebenzi othile;
- agcinwe ulwazi olungaphelelwe isikhathi mayelana nokukhethekile okusemandleni;
- hlanganisa indaba efundiswa esikoleni kanye nomsebenzi ngokwayo;
- abakwazi ukuzilalela, abaqapheli amakhono abo nezimfanelo zabo;
- Ungafaki ukubaluleka kumakhono abo angokwenyama noma ukwehluleka, okubalulekile futhi ekukhetheni okukhethekile;
- Angazi ukuthi yisiphi isimiso odinga ukukhetha umsebenzi.
Ungaba kanjani? Singazisiza kanjani izingane zethu ukuba zizimisele ekukhethweni okhethekile esikhathini esizayo?
Kulokhu kubalulekile ukuthi izici zomsebenzi zihambelane ngokugcwele nezimfanelo ezingokwengqondo zomntwana. Okukhethekile, okokuqala, kufanele kube nesithakazelo kumntwana osemusha. Umsebenzi ngamunye uqala ukuba khona kwezimfanelo zobuchwepheshe kumuntu. Uma ukhetha umsebenzi, udinga ukuqonda ngokucacile ukuthi le ntsha isinezimfanelo zomuntu siqu ezidingekayo emisebenzini ethile. Uhlobo lochwepheshe kufanele luhambelane ngokugcwele nezici zomuntu siqu. Ukuze ungaphuthelwa ekukhethweni kobuchwepheshe, udinga ukwazi ukwazi wena.
Lokhu kuzosiza ekuhlolweni, okuyinto eyenziwa ngempumelelo namuhla yizikhungo eziningi zemfundo ephakeme, lezi zivivinyo zikhululekile futhi zihlelwe umsebenzi. Bazosiza ukuqonda isiqu esikoleni esiphakeme - kungakhathaliseki ukuthi ibhizinisi noma kufanelekile ukulifuna.
Lena inqubo ejwayelekile futhi impendulo iyinhlangano evamile. Kulandela ukuthi kunesidingo esikhulu ukuzama izindlela ezingokwengqondo eziyinkimbinkimbi enkulu.
Uma ingane yakho ingenzi isithakazelo esithile kokuthile, futhi othisha abafaki ukufisa into ethile, amakhono akhe ahlanganiswe ngokujulile, bese inkinga yocwaningo oluzayo lizokhathazeka nabazali. Ama-daghezevists of complexity complexes nobunzima obunzima bokubhekana namathalenta angenalutho.
Kodwa uma ingane yakho isishoshovu, cishe kuyoba mnandi ukuthi azame yonke indawo, futhi kukhona ithuba lokuthi uzothola okuningi. Izingane ezinjalo zilukhuni kakhulu ukunquma ngokusebenza kwesikhathi esizayo, ukuhlolwa lapha akusizi ngalutho.
Kubalulekile ukuzama indlela enjalo yengqondo yokuqonda, njengokuqeqeshwa. Ngemva kokuqeqesha ukuqeqeshwa kochwepheshe, ingane ingakwazi ukukhipha ukungabaza, ukuqeqeshwa kuzosiza esimweni esingenathemba futhi esimweni esiyinkimbinkimbi kakhulu. Umqeqeshi uzoveza amathuba, anikeze usizo lwengqondo kwengane futhi anikeze isiqondiso ekukhuleni komuntu siqu. Futhi, kuzosiza ekwakheni uhlelo olucacile lwesenzo futhi kuzoholela ekufezeni imiphumela eminye!
Khumbula futhi ukuthi awukwazi ukuhlukumeza uma ingane ingakwazi ukunquma ngokuzikhethela lo msebenzi ngokushesha ngangokunokwenzeka. Wena, abazali, akufanele ucindezele phambili, ukukhala noma ukujezisa. Ngakho ungazuza kuphela ukuthi ingane yakho izovala kuwe! Yiba nokubekezela, usizo, ukuqondisa, ukukhuluma. Uma kunenkinga, bheka isisombululo, vakashela ukuqeqeshwa noma uya ukuhlolwa. Phela, namuhla kunokukhetha okukhulu kochwepheshe abazimisele ukusiza futhi babe neseluleko esiqeqeshiwe kakhulu. Kuphela ngale ndlela ungasiza ingane yakho ikhule njengomuntu omdala ojabulayo. Esikhathini esizayo, uzokubonga ngokusisiza ngale nkinga ebalulekile kuye, njengokukhetha umsebenzi. Khumbula ukuthi kungenzeka futhi ukuze ingane yakho ikhethe okungalungile. Mhlawumbe uyothola okuthile okuyoyithandayo. Kodwa kungenzeka ukuthi kuyoba sekwephuzile kakhulu ... Ungadabuka kanjani iminyaka elahlekile! Ukuthi lokhu akukenzeki, qaphela izingane zakho futhi ungalahli konke ngokwakho!