Ngezinye izikhathi izingane zifaniswa nezingelosi. Ngezinye izikhathi bathi ziyizimbali zokuphila. Kodwa okungelona iqiniso iqiniso lokuthi abantwana banonya. Uma ungawafaki iziqondiso zokuziphatha, ukuziphatha kwabo kuzohluka kancane ekuziphatheni kwezilwane, futhi iklasi lesikole lizofana nepaki lempisi ...
Lokhu kungcono kakhulu kulotshwe umlobi waseNgilandi uWilliam Gerald Golding encwadini yakhe edumile INkosi yezimpukane, ezitshela indlela abafana abafika ngayo esiqhingini esingasakhileyo futhi baqala ukuhlala lapho ngokuvumelana nezingane zabo (ukuba yiqiniso, hhayi yonke imindeni). Kodwa lokhu kuyiqiniso futhi kuyingozi: empilweni yangempela yonke into, yebo, ayiyona into emangalisayo. Kodwa empeleni, kufana kakhulu. Ngokushesha ingane iphakathi kwabanontanga, ngakho-ke kufanele afunde ubudlelwane bomuntu siqu eqenjini labantwana futhi afunde ukuthi angathola kanjani igunya lakhe. Ezinye izingane zivumelane kahle kunoma imuphi umphakathi omusha: kungakhathaliseki ukuthi badluliselwa kangakanani esikoleni ukuya esikoleni, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi bangaki abathumela ekamu labantwana, yonke indawo banabantu abaningi nabangane. Kodwa, ngeshwa, akuzona zonke izingane ezinikezwa isipho esinjalo sokuxhumana ngemvelo. Izingane eziningi zihlangabezana nezinkinga endleleni yokujwayela, futhi ngezinye izikhathi ziyingxenye yokuhloswa kokuhlukunyezwa kontanga (uhlobo oluthi "umfana oshayayo").
UMNTWANA AKUBA UKUBHALA EMKHULU
Kwanele ukuqala ekilasini kwelinye, ake sithi, ingane engenampilo - nesimo esingenampilo soshushiso siqinisekisiwe. Izingane ezinjalo zizwa isidingo sokuziveza ngokweqile kwabanye: umuntu ozocasula futhi ahlazise, ahlele ezinye izingane ngokumelene nabanye (njengokuthi "Sizoba nobani?"), Njll. Ngenxa yalokho, abafundi babo abasengozini kakhulu bahlupheka: abanomusa, abangajwayele ukuqondisa ngokumelene nabo ubudlova. Phakathi kwabo kungenzeka kube ngumntanakho, ngakho-ke uma ungena ekilasini lokuqala (noma uma udluliselwa esikoleni esisha), okokuqala kufanele kube ukuxwayisa.
Uma unomuzwa wokuthi esikoleni ingane ingase ibe nezinkinga ngontanga, kungcono ukusebenza naye kusengaphambili bese utshela ngamasu alula okuthi "aikido yengqondo". Yini okudingeka ichazwe ingane ukuze ihlangabezane nezimo eziyinkimbinkimbi ezihlomile ngokugcwele futhi ziphuma kuzo ngesithunzi?
1. Izingxabano azikwazi ukugwema
Ekuphileni, izithakazelo zabantu zihamba kahle, ngakho-ke kudingeka sidabule futhi siphumelele ukuphikisana kwezimpikiswano ezivela phakathi kwabo, sizama ukuvumelana (okungukuthi, isivumelwano esizuzisayo). Ngalokhu, kuyadingeka, uma kunokwenzeka, ukuba ungene ekuxabaneni (kungabi yinto engathandeki, ukungabi nabuhlungu nokungazihaha, ukuziqhayisa futhi ungaceli).
2. Awukwazi ukuthanda konke
Njengoba u-Ostap Bender uthe: "Angiyona i-chervonetz, ukuthi wonke umuntu uyathanda." Fundisa ingane ukuthi akudingeki ukuba uthande wonke umuntu futhi akufanele uzame ukujabulisa wonke umuntu. Ngaphezu kwalokho, akuvumelekile ukucubungula izintandokazi ezinganeni ezigunyazayo futhi uzame ukuwuthola inhlonipho ngokusebenzisa izipho, izivumelwano kanye ne "podlizyvaniya."
3. Zivikele njalo!
Ingane kufanele ikwazi ukuthi ukuhlukunyezwa akunakunqunywa ngokuzenzekelayo: uma kubizwe noma kubhalwa, kubalulekile ukunikeza ushintsho. Isikhundla sobuKristu sokungabi nokuphikisana "uma ushaya esihlathini - esikhundleni somunye" eqenjini lezingane kuyamlahla ingane ngokushushiswa.
4. Gcina ukungathathi hlangothi
Inketho ekahle ukuba nobuhlobo obulinganayo nawo wonke umuntu. Ngakho-ke, kungcono ukuthi ungasisekeli ama-boycotts futhi ungabambeli izingxabano. Akudingekile ukwenza lokhu ngokubonisanayo: ungathola isisusa esizwakalayo ("Ngidinga ukutadisha", "Anginalo ilungelo lokuphazamisa ezindabeni zabanye).
IKHAYA LOKUKHAYA ABAZALI
Njengomthetho, uma ingane ingatholi kahle neontanga, omunye okhuluma lapha ngeke akwenze. Abazali kufanele baqale ukuthatha zonke izinyathelo ezingenzeka ukuze umntwana angene emphakathini. Khuluma nothisha ngezinkinga zengane yakho bese wenza izivumelwano zakho.
* Qinisekisa ukuthi ingane yakho ibonakala ingabonakali kakhulu kwabanye.
* Zama ukunikeza ingane ngokuxhumana nabalingane nabo ekilasini (bameme ukuba bavakashele, banike ingane enkathini yezinsuku ezandisiwe, njll).
* Uma ingane ibonakala ingajwayelekile, kuyadingeka ukuba imlungiselele ngokuziphatha ukuze 'ihlasele' ingxenye yabantwana: izazi zengqondo zeluleka kusengaphambili ukuthi zifike nabalingisi bese zibahleka ndawonye.
* Uma ingane ingacacile futhi ingazi ukuthi isabele kanjani ngokushesha ezimweni ezinzima, ungabavuselela ekhaya ngendlela yokudlala indima ("uthayipha izinto," "ukuklolodela," njll) nokuthuthukisa amacebo wokuziphatha.
"IZINGANE ZIQONDE"
Kukhona umbono wokuthi abantu abadala akufanele baphazamise ezindabeni zezingane: kuthiwa ingane kufanele ifunde ukuxazulula izinkinga zabo. Lokhu kuyiqiniso kude nazo zonke izimo. Okokuqala, ingane kufanele ihlale izwa ukusekelwa kokuziphatha. Okwesibili, uzobe ukhululekile uma ejwayele ukwabelana nakho okuhlangenwe nakho nawe. Ngisho noma ungaziphazamisi ngokwabo kunoma yisiphi isimo esinzima, ungatshela ingane ukuthi yenzeni.
"Angiwunikeli ingane yakho ekudleni"
Yini okufanele uyenze uma ingane icasulwa yiontanga futhi uyazi ukuthi ubani oyenzile? Kubonakala sengathi indlela elula ukuhamba nokubuyisela ubulungiswa: ukujezisa ababi ngokwabo. Ingane ifunda ngalokhu futhi izothola ukwaneliseka kokuziphatha. "Ngihle, zimbi." Kuphela manje izinzuzo ezinjalo zizozuza? Akukuhle yini ukuzama ukuxazulula le nkinga emmpandeni: ukuchaza ingane ukuthi yini engayenza ukuze kuvinjelwe isimo esinjalo sokuziphindaphinda. Khona-ke esikhathini esizayo uzokwazi ukubhekana nabahlukumezi ngokuzimela.
"OKUQALA UKUFUNDA UKUTHOLA"
Abazali babafana njalo bafuna izindiza zabo ukuba babe "abafana bangempela" futhi bakwazi ukuzimelela ngosizo lokulala. Kungenzeka futhi kuyadingeka ukunikeza umfana esigabeni sezemidlalo, ukuze afunde amasu okulwa, kodwa kufanele simchazele: akafundile nhlobo ukuze asebenzise njalo. Izindlela zokuzivikela zingenza ingane ikwazi ukuzethemba, kodwa ngokufanayo nalokhu kufanele umfundise ukuxazulula izingxabano ngokuzenzekelayo, ukushiya izingxabano zezingxabano zecala elibi kakhulu.
LIST OF APPLICERS FOR THE ROLE OF "GOAT OF RELEASE"
Izingane ezinokubukeka okungavamile
• obukhulu kakhulu (noma obuncane kakhulu)
• ukukhula okuncane noma okude kakhulu
• Izingane ezinezibuko (ikakhulukazi zokulungisa - ngeso elilodwa elivaliwe)
• ukulungiswa
• Ukunciphisa ngokweqile
Izingane ezinezimkhuba ezingathandeki kwabanye
• ukushaya njalo (noma ukukhetha ekhaleni)
• engaphelele egqoke izingubo ezingcolile
• izingane ezigxila ekukhulumeni kokudla nemilomo yazo egcwele, njll.
Izingane ezinganele ekukhulumisaneni
• ukuphanga futhi ukukhuluma
• unamahloni futhi unamahloni
• esengozini futhi ezwelayo kalula
• i-whiners
• braggart
• amanga
Izingane ezivelele ekuhlanganyeleni
• izingane ezigqoke zigxilile kangcono kunabanye
• izintandokazi zothisha (kanye nezingane ezingathandwa uthisha)
• Sneaks kanye crybaby
• amadodana omama
• futhi abstruse ("hhayi yaleli zwe")
IZINDLELA ZOKUPHILA NEMITHETHO YOKWENZA
Kunezinhlobo eziningana eziyisisekelo zobuhlobo bomuntu siqu phakathi kweqembu lezingane:
Ukungazinaki
Ingane ayizinaki, njengokungathi ayikho. Akucatshangwa nanoma yikuphi ukusatshalaliswa kwezindima, ingane ayinandaba nanoma ubani. Ingane ayayazi amafoni wezingane ezifunda nabo, akekho obiza ukuthi avakashele. Akasho lutho ngalesi sikole.
Yini abazali okufanele bayenze?
Khuluma nothisha weklasi, zama ukuxhumana nabantwana ngokwabo (banciphise ingane yakho)
Ukulahlwa okuncane
Ingane ayamukelwa emdlalweni, enqaba ukuhlala naye edeskini eyodwa, angafuni ukuba naye kwelinye iqembu lezemidlalo. Ingane engafuni ngokuya esikoleni, ivela esikoleni ngesimo esibi.
Yini abazali okufanele bayenze?
Hlaziya izizathu (kungani ingane engamukeleki) bese uzama ukuqeda. Yenza othisha nabafundisi.
Ukulahlwa okusebenzayo
Izingane zibonisa ukuthi azifuni ukuxhumana nengane, ungacabangi ngemibono yakhe, ungalaleli, ungafihli isimo sengqondo sokukhathazeka. Ngezinye izikhathi ingane ivele ngokungazelelwe inqabe ukuya esikoleni, ngokuvamile ikhala ngaphandle kwesizathu.
Yini abazali okufanele bayenze?
Dlulisela ingane kwelinye isigaba (noma kwesinye isikole). Khuluma nabothisha. Ukubhekana nesazi sokusebenza kwengqondo.
Ukuhlukunyezwa
Ukuhleka usulu njalo, ingane ihlehliswa futhi ibizwa, iqhutshwe futhi ishaya, izinto eziphangiwe nokuphangwa, zisatshiswa. Ingane inezinxephezelo kanye ne-abrasions, ngokuvamile "iyanyamalala" izinto nemali.
Yini abazali okufanele bayenze?
Thumela ingane ngokusheshisa kwesinye isikole! Mnike embuthanweni, lapho azokwazi khona ukukhulisa amakhono akhe futhi abe phezulu. Ukubhekana nesazi sokusebenza kwengqondo.