Kusukela esikhathini esedlule kwakukholelwa ukuthi indoda yangempela - yomsindo, ithule, ihlala ihlaziye futhi ingapheli. Khumbula ukuthi ku-movie yakudala ibonisa kanjani uthando? Ukubukeka ngokweqile.
Ngezinye izikhathi i-hero yavunyelwa ukuphetha into yokuthakazelisa ngensimbi eyamukelwa ngenhlangano yokunyakaza. Ngalesi sikhathi, izilaleli zaqonda: lokhu kuyingozi kakhulu futhi, nakanjani, kuze kube nini nanini ... Futhi yini phakathi kwalabo abathandekayo okwakungaphezu kwalokho, ngamunye wacabanga ngokwakhe.
Yiqiniso, namuhla ezikrinini esizijwayele kakhulu kumaHollywood serial azinhle, ukukhukhumeza abesifazane babo ngemifudlana yenkulumo enhle. Lokhu kungukuphila kwangempela kuphela, ukuqashelwa kwabo ngesizathu esithile kuvame ukuzwa abameleli bobulili obufanayo nabo ...
Ngendlela, izazi ze-psychologist ziqinisekisa lokhu okushiwo: amadoda ahlakaniphile ngokweqile, okuthiwa uhlobo lwe-demonstration-hysteroid. Imvelo ibalwe ngendlela yokuthi isinkwa singondli - ake ngibonise futhi ngipende. Okunye kwezinga "lokukhuluma" kuxhomeke kwizizathu ezimbili: ukuzithemba kanye nomlingani nokukhulisa ...
Hhayi ngezwi, kodwa ngezenzo
Okokuqala, kufanelekile ukuqonda ukuthi yini oyifunayo: ukuvuma ngothando kumuntu othandekayo noma kumnandi? Kungenzeka ukulinda kuze kufike ukubuya kwesibili. Kodwa ngokuveza imizwa - kulula kakhulu. Ngemuva kwalokho, amadoda "kukhona ukuhluka okubili okukhulu".
Owesifazane onothando, njengombuso, ubonisa imizwa yakhe ngokukhululekile nangokwebala, indoda iya kwenye indlela. Okufanele - ngezenzo. Yenza ukulungiswa komuntu othandekayo efulethini, uphonsa isibani sokukhanya esishisayo, ubophe isipikili ngaphakathi kodonga noma uthele amafutha emshinini. Izintaba zizophenduka ubufakazi bokuzizwa kwazo. Kodwa - ngokuthula. Ngomomotheka owodwa oziqhenyayo: bheka, bathi, ngalokho engikulungele ngawe!
Into eyinhloko ukufunda ukuqonda nokuqonda ulimi lwamadoda: uma engakugcini amandla noma isikhathi, isimo sakhe sengqondo ngomuntu wakho sinzulu kakhulu ...
Awuqinisekile, thola
Abaningi bamadoda bayaqiniseka ukuthi labo abakhala ngokuzizwa kwabo ngakwesokunxele nangakwesobunxele kukhona amabhokisi okuxoxa kanye nemimoya yemimoya. Kukhona iphuzu elilodwa elibaluleke kakhulu: ngenkathi i-testosterone idlala, kunzima amadoda ukuba abone ukuthi bangathí sina kangakanani ngentombazane yabo. Izintshisekelo kufanele zithinte noma zifake ojwayele, okushoyo, u-rut - khona-ke uzothatha isinqumo ukuthi uzohlala nani isikhathi eside kangakanani kuze kube sekupheleni kwezinsuku zakhe noma kuze kube sekupheleni kwesonto ...
Nakhu kufakwe!
Kubuye kwenzeke nokuthi lona wesifazane ngokwayo uba imbangela yalokhu ukuqonda komuntu ekuboniseni uthando othandekayo. Isibonelo, ngokushesha emva kokuqashelwa kokuqala, uqala ukucabangela le ndoda njengempahla yakhe: ecasulwa ukuthi wakhetha ukuhlangana nabangani, futhi engahambi emabhayisikobho naye, ekunciphiseni inkululeko yakhe evamile, efuna izibonakaliso ezingapheli zokunakekelwa, ukuncoma, amazwi othando, ukulinda iseluleko nokuvunywa mayelana nezibuyekezo. Kungabe kuyamangaza ukuthi manje esesabisa ukucindezelwa okunjalo kokuphindaphindiwe okuthandekayo kwamazwi athandekayo akudingeki ukuba ulinde ...
Umzimba - ngezocansi
Ubumnene futhi obuthandekayo - hhayi kuphela ngamazwi, kodwa futhi nasekukhulumisaneni kwansuku zonke - akuvamile ukuthi amadoda axhumane ngokomzimba nje kuphela. Noma yikuphi ukuthinta kwabo kunencazelo "esebenzayo". Kulula kakhulu ukufunda izinto ezinjalo: abasoze bazikhukhumeza, ngeke bafune, ngeke babange "njengaleyo." Futhi ngokuvamile abazithandi ngokwabo uma "bengathinti ize." Emkhunjini, lezi zinduna ziyisithukuthezi futhi azikhathaleli, nakuba zizenza sengathi ziyingozi.
Uma, noma kunjalo, isiphetho sikulethele "okuthinta" okunjalo, zama ukuhlanganyela ekuboneni kwakhe kokuxhumana ngokocansi nokuziphatheka komzimba. Yenza ukusikhipha okulula, qiniseka ukuthi uyamanga ngobumnene emhlanganweni nokuhlaziya, uvumelane, ubheke imbukiso yakho ye-TV oyintandokazi - yebo, konke lokhu endaweni engenazo ukusondelana. Kancane kancane, isoka lakho liyahamba futhi liqonda ukuthi kunezinjabulo eziningi ezilethwa yizi "zithando".
Iminyaka kamuva
Zingaki iminyaka oye wahlala ndawonye, amazwi ngothando ngeke alahlekelwe yinhle. Futhi ungacabangi ukuthi ukuzwa ama-epithets amancane nokuqinisekiswa kwemizwa kujabulisa owesifazane kuphela. Amadoda futhi ayazi ukuthi angathanda kanjani ngezindlebe zawo! Ngaphezu kwalokho, amagama amathathu omlingo angaphathwa nge-sauce esiteshini, owakhonza kuso isidlo sakusihlwa. Yiqiniso, ngezinye izikhathi kwenzeka: ulinde ukuthambekela nothando, futhi u-HE uyakhohlwa ngisho nangosuku lomshado! Ngendlela, ungakhohlwa mayelana nokuzikhethela kwengqondo yesilisa - abakhumbuli izinsuku ezibalulekile! Ukuze ungabi esimweni esifanayo, umkhumbuze ngeholide elizayo.
Noma ugcizelele okuthile okuzocansi futhi obuseduze, njengoba nje wazi obabili. Ngemuva kwesikhumbuzo esinjalo ngaphandle kwesipho, nakanjani ngeke uhlale!
Khuluma ngakho
Yenza umthetho - chaza izenzo zakho kumuntu, ngoba akaqondi ukuthi kungani wenza lokhu noma leso senzo. Mchaze njalo ukuthi ukhubekile, kungani ukhubekile - kungenjalo ngeke awazi imbangela yentukuthelo yakho futhi uzohlala ephazamiseka isikhathi eside. Awunawo ukunakekelwa okwanele - chaza ukuthi ungathanda ukuthini, ufuna ukuxoxa ngekhanda lakho elisha - umtshele ngakho, uzizwe ukungaboni kahle - khuluma naye ngenkinga.
Beka ithoni engxoxweni. Qala owokuqala, njengokungathi uvela kude, unemibuzo engabonakali futhi engathathi hlangothi futhi kancane kancane ulethe endaweni efanele: ukuthenga into edingekayo, uhambo oluhlangene eholidini, ukuhamba ngosuku lwakho lokuzalwa izihlobo zakho, ukuvakashela kumama wakho noma uhambo oluzayo lwebhizinisi. Futhi iphuzu elilodwa elibaluleke kakhulu - namadoda osoloko udinge ukukhuluma ngokucacile nangokumane - ngokucacile umbuzo noma isicelo kuceliwe, ukukhonjwa okunye kuyoba khona.
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