Uma umuntu eyeka uthando, indlela aziphatha ngayo

Ukudala ubuhlobo obuthandayo obulawulayo, thina ngokuqinisekile sikholelwa ukuthi ngeke kube khona indawo yokukhwabanisa, ukungavumelani nokuhlukaniswa, ukuthi uthando lwethu, naphezu kwezibalo ezidabukisayo zesehlukaniso kanye nokuhlangenwe nakho okubuhlungu kwabanye, okuyobe kumelele ukuvivinywa kokuphila nesikhathi. Kodwa kudlule iminyaka, futhi kanye nabo, njengoba kungadabukisi ukuvuma, nothando. Uthando luhlala iminyaka emithathu ... Le nkulumo ibekwe emlonyeni we hero yeveli yakhe, uFrederic Begbeder, futhi wahamba emhlabeni wonke, ethola impendulo ecacile ezinhliziyweni zabathandi.

Futhi noma ngabe le noveli iphela ngombhalo othembekile ngokholo othandweni olude oluthandwayo, siyaqhubeka sizama le mbono ebuhlotsheni bethu, sibalwa ngeminwe ukuthi iminyaka engakanani uthando lwethu luye lwahlala kuyo. Amadoda ayesithandwa kakhulu, kanti izinhlobo ezinjalo zezinkolelo ziphukile mayelana ne-pragmatism yabo. Kuzo zonke izinto zilula: "Yebo, othandekayo! Futhi-ke konke! Angithandi futhi. " Singabantu izidalwa eziyinkimbinkimbi, futhi sifuna ukuqonda uhlobo lokucabangela okungcono kakhulu kwesilisa. Kungani uyeke ukuthanda? Yiziphi izibonakaliso ongazithola ukuthi uvele othandweni? Futhi kungenzeka yini ukubamba lezi zitshelo zokuqala, ezifanekisela ukufa kothando?

Izimpawu zikhala ngokuthi indoda yeka uthando

Amadoda nawo angabantu abavela egazini nasenyameni, kusukela kuma-hormone nakwa-psyche. Futhi kubo, kungokwemvelo futhi ukuthi ukushintsha kwemizwa yesikhashana, ukucasula noma inqola. Kodwa uma lo mzila wokuziphatha uhlala isikhathi eside, futhi isikhathi sishabalala, sekuyisikhathi sokuzwakala i-alamu. Izimpawu ezilandelayo zingase zibonise ukuthi indoda iwile othandweni:

1. Amanga. Insimbi yokuqala - indoda iqala ukuqamba amanga. Mhlawumbe kuqala yena ngokwakhe akakuboni. Akafuni nje ukulimaza iqiniso, elivuthwe ngaphakathi. Akasazi ukuthi injabulo ngokulindela injabulo, ukubuyela ekhaya, kanye nombuzo othi: "Ingabe unesizungu?" Ubeka omile "Yebo." Futhi ngisho nalapho ethi "Ngiyakuthanda", wenza umzamo, ngoba uhlala emelene namanga ngaphakathi, futhi engakakulungeli iqiniso.
2. Ukungabi nokunakekelwa. Ikhofi ekuseni ulungisa yena kuphela, ebhekisela ekubambezelekeni, nakuba ayevame ukumletha embhedeni, noma ashiye etafuleni nge sandwich. Noma waqala ukuzivumela ngokuphindaphindiwe ukuba angazithembi ubusuku, aziphendulele ngesisindo, ekuboneni kuqala, izizathu: ukhathele, ugula, kufika isikhathi eside.
3. Ukuthukuthela ngaphezu kwezicathulo. Kwaqala ukungahambisani kahle futhi kucasule into engakazange ayiqaphele ngaphambili, noma ngisho nokucabangela isici esihle. "Ukhuluma okuningi futhi uhlale efonini isikhathi eside!", "Ukugqoka ngokungenangqondo nangokungcola!", "Ngobusuku uhlakazeka embhedeni wonke bese ususa ingubo!", Njll.
4. Ukubonakaliswa kokunganakwa. Indoda eyeka ukukhathazeka ngezinkinga zomndeni, izidingo kanye nemicabango yowesifazane. Ukhetha ukuchitha isikhathi sakhe samahhala kude nomuzi, wenqaba ukuya emicimbi yomndeni futhi ukuya emihlanganweni nabangani abavamile.
5. Ukungahloniphi nokuhlazeka. Le ndoda isebenzisa ama-scandals ukulimaza endaweni ebuhlungu kunazo zonke, mhlawumbe, kuphela owaziyo. Uhlambalaza uhlambalazo futhi angathathi amagama nabantwana, abasondelene noma abangabazi.
6. Kuvaliwe. Izingxoxo eziyimfihlo, izingxoxo zezinkinga kanye nezinqumo ezithathwe ngokuhlanganyela zidlule. Le ndoda isengqondweni yakhe. Yena noma ngokuvamile uthula, angafaki umsebenzi wakhe wokukwazisa ngomcimbi obalulekile, noma okhulunywe eqinisweni.
7. Ukungazinaki ucansi. Ukwenza uthando kube "inqubo yezobuchwepheshe", kuncishiswe ukusebenza komshado, noma indoda ivame ukuhlasela isifo "sezinsikazi" esibizwa ngokuthi "ikhanda". Uyakugwema ukumbumbana, ukugwema ukuthinta, ukumanga futhi ukungazinaki noma yikuphi ukubonakaliswa kwesisa nokuthandwa.
8. Ukuhlukumeza okungalawuleki. Ukuhlaselwa kwakhe kwentukuthelo kuba yinto evamile futhi ikhule ibe yintukuthelo. Uqhubeka elahlekelwa ukufutheka ngenxa yesizathu esicacile, ngezinye izikhathi ukubukeka okungenacala, izwi noma ukububula. Ukubuka amehlo agcwele intukuthelo, kukhona ukwesaba impilo nempilo yomuntu.

Kungani uyeke ukuthanda?

Izimpawu ezingenhla, ezibonakaliswe kumuntu oye wangena othandweni, kungumphumela wecala lokungathandi. Uma sesikuchazile, kungenzeka ukulwa nemibono engabangela ukuthi ukuwa komthando noma umndeni kungabikho. Yiqiniso, ebuhlotsheni ngabanye kubalulekile ukubeka "ukuxilongwa" komuntu othandweni olufayo, kodwa kunezizathu ezine eziyisisekelo eziholela kulokhu:

1. Uthando olusha. Iqukethe izisusa eziyinhloko zokuziphatha okungaqondakali komuntu othandekayo. Mhlawumbe, ebuhlotsheni bakhe bangaphambilini, ubanjwe yizingane, izibopho, unembeza, futhi akanakulingisa ukuthatha isinyathelo esinqumayo, kodwa futhi uyaphumelela ekufihla imizwa yangempela.
2. Umkhuba. Imibhangqwana esebenze ndawonye iminyaka eminingi, uthando luyaqhubeka, imizwa epholile, nokucasuka okuvela emibangweni, ukuphikisana, ukuphikisa, ukusho komuntu kufuna ukuphuma futhi akulondolozi ubungozi besifazane.
3. Ukuzethemba okuphansi komuntu wesifazane. Owesifazane othi, e-altare lothando, ubeka ukuzethemba, ubulili kanye nenani lakhe, ngokushesha noma kamuva kuba mnandi kumuntu. Ufuna ukumncoma, uziqhenye futhi uzizwe umhawu ngomunye wabantu abazungezile.
4. Ukuvunyelwa nokufinyeleleka. Indoda - umzingeli ngokwemvelo, iyathukuthela owesifazane osekude anqotshwe, uhlale ebikezela futhi engenaso isifiso sokudukisa, ukukhathazeka, ukucasula. Uyeke ukuzizwa efana nendoda yangempela, noma ahambe efuna lokho afuna futhi afune "ukuzingela."