Yebo, kwakungelula ... Kodwa zonke lezi zifo azihambisani nanoma yiziphi izinkinga ozihlangabezane nazo ngemva kokuzalwa kwezinhlanzi zakho ... Mhlawumbe, ngakho-ke ugxeka noma yimuphi umama osemusha, ebheka "encane" encane, ekugcineni walala, ngaleyo ndlela unikeza unina umfutho omfushane. Ngezikhathi ezinjalo, uqala ukuqaphela umthwalo omkhulu owehlele, futhi ovame ukwesaba abaningi omama, ikakhulukazi abangenalwazi. Kufanele uhlanganise kanjani amabutho akho, yini okufanele uyenze ukuze ube ngumama omuhle kumuntu omncane? Emva kwakho konke, manje kuncike ngokuphelele kuwe, futhi uzizwa ungajabuli, kubonakala kuwe ukuthi awwazi lutho futhi awukwazi lutho ...
Umama - rookie
Into eyinhloko akukhona ukwesaba (yebo, kulula ukukhuluma, ngiyazi ...). Kwazibulo lami ngangingazi ukuthi ngingakhuluma kanjani, ngikhulume ngokukhululekile, ngisuke ngikhathazeke ngokuphelele, kodwa kwenzeke ukuthi ngemva nje kwesibhedlela sifike esibhedlela, lapho kungekhona khona umntwana wami ophulukisiwe, kodwa safundisa nomama wakhe ongenalwazi .Ngineluleka ukuthi uphathe isimo sakho esisha njengomsebenzi, futhi kunoma yiluphi uqeqesho kukhona abasha, futhi banokuningi okumele bafunde. Kunombono wokuthi akekho ongcono kunomama ongakwazi ukuthi ingane yakhe idinga yini. Vumela, ingabe kunjalo ngempela? Ake sithi: ekuqaleni komama wenze amaphutha amaningi, ikakhulukazi uma kuziwa endala. Iqiniso liwukuthi iningi lala "amaphutha angenalwazi" alona lutho olubi, futhi, eyazi futhi elungisa, umama osemusha ufunda indlela yokuphatha kahle ingane. Kodwa kuyiqiniso nokuthi kunezikhathi ezibalulekile kakhulu ekunakekeleni umntwana, okudinga ukunakwa okukhethekile, ngoba ezinye amaphutha kungaba nzima ukuza emva kwalokho.
"Izwe leseluleko ..."
Ukuphelela, iseluleko kusuka ku-oh njengoba udinga, sebenzisa usizo olunjalo, kodwa ungawaqoqa, futhi ungasebenzisi konke kumntanakho ...Kuyinto edabukisayo ukutshela umama osemusha ukuthi kufanele acele iseluleko - wona ngokwawo azofafaza kuwe njengendlela ye-cornucopia, futhi kusukela kusondelene kakhulu, hhayi eduze kakhulu nezihlobo ezikude kakhulu nabangane. Futhi ngokuvamile bazophikisana. Cishe sonke singabazali, futhi-ke, sithemba ngokugcwele ukuthi kunoma yini, futhi ekunakekeleni kwengane esiyiqondayo.
Ungavumeli lolu chungechunge lwezeluleko lukucindezele ngekhanda lakho! Kanjani? Yiqiniso, kungaba yinto engafanele ukusho ukuthi usuwazi konke, ngakho-ke awudingi iseluleko, kepha ungabambezi izinwele zakho nge "zokupheka" eziningana zezingane ezikhulayo, kodwa kumama wakho, umamazala, izihlobo, umzala wakho kanye nomzala wakho wesibili, futhi Yebo, abangane abaningi ... Ungathola ukudideka ...
Unganqikazi ukucela usizo
Ngendlela, mayelana nosizo ... Akusekho ukusetshenziswa okuphuthumayo kokunye okwedlulele - ukwakha i-heroine yomama kusuka kuye, owenza konke ngaphandle kosizo. Kungakanani okwamanje ongazi futhi ungazi kanjani! Umama noma uninazala angasiza ngempela.Ake sibhekane ngokukhululekile: uma kukhona umsizi ozobamba okungenani ingxenye encane yokunakekela ingane (ukwenza ibhodlela ngokudla noma ukucindezela izinto zezingane) - lokhu kuyoba usizo olukhulu kuwe. Ngakho-ke, ungavikeli izifiso zakho, kungenjalo wenze amaphutha, futhi, ekugcineni, - vele uzenzele ngokweqile ... Futhi udinga ingane yakho ...
Yenza ukonga!
Ngizibonela phambili ukusabela kula mazwi: wow iseluleko! Njengokuba umlobi engazi ukuthi ukuzalwa kwengane kakade kushayisana isabelomali somndeni wonke?Futhi uma ucabanga ngokuhlakanipha? Thola kuphela lezo zinto ezidingeka ngempela, ungabathengi amaqembu aphelele. Okungenani ezinyangeni ezingu-2-3 zokuqala, funa ithuba lokulondoloza imali, okungaphezulu noma ngaphansi ukulungisa isabelomali somndeni ...
Konke angikululeka ukwehlisa ingane ebaluleke kakhulu. Kodwa ukuthenga okungacatshangwa kwezingubo, ama-creams, amafutha, njll. Ungakwenzi ube ngumfundi-mhle kakhulu.
Ukucindezeleka? Sizolwa!
Isimo esidabukisayo ngemuva kokubeletha ... Mhlawumbe le nkinga ngeke ibonakale ungabaluleke kakhulu phakathi kwakho konke okunye okukucindezelekile, kodwa kulesi sikhwama sokukhathazeka kubalulekile ukungabi nandaba nalesi simo esingathandeki futhi ukufuna indlela yokuphuma kweso simo. Ungacabangi ukuthi lokhu kuyinkimbinkimbi, futhi lesi sifo sinokuchaza, njengoba kunezindlela zokubhekana nayo.Cela omunye ugogo ukuthi akusize okwesikhashana (uma uthemba umyeni wakho - ikakhulukazi), futhi uhambe kancane-ukuyothengisa, nezintombi, kumuntu wezinwele. Kodwa hhayi amahora angaphezu kuka-3 - kuze kube nokudla okulandelayo ...
Ungakhathazi "umlingani wakho womphefumulo"
Ngeshwa, iphutha elivame kakhulu lomama abasha ... Okungaba nemiphumela emibi kakhulu, kubandakanya ingane yakho. Yebo, ngiyazi, uzizwa ukhathele kakhulu kunanini ngaphambili empilweni yakho, amandla asemkhawulweni kuphela, kodwa akufanele ukhohlwe ukuthi ungowesifazane.Udinga omunye nomunye manje ngaphezu kokuzalwa kwengane yakho. Ngezinye izikhathi ukubukeka kwengane (ake sithi, ukuvivinya kanzima!) Kungabangela ukuhlukana kobudlelwane bomshado, kodwa ohlwini lwakho olukhulu lwamacala abalulekile, faka into eyodwa - zama ukungavumeli lokhu kuthuthukiswa kwezenzakalo empilweni yakho.
Ukondla akuyona indlela ejwayelekile yokwehlisa ingane
Futhi ukushintsha amathayi, ngendlela, futhi ... Abanye omama abasha basuke bekhohliswa ukuthi ukukhala kwezinhlanzi zabo kubangelwa izisusa ezimbili: indlala kanye nejafa ephelele. Ngezinye izikhathi bajwayele okwesithathu - isisu sikhathaza. Kodwa wazi, izizathu zingaba okuningi, futhi akekho kulezi ezingafanelanga!Funda ukukhala komntanakho: akuhlali njalo, kuyahluka kuye ngokuthi ingane yakho ikhala ngani okwamanje.