Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi lokhu kwenziwa noma kusadingeki kwenziwe, into ebalulekile ukuthi lokhu kuzodingeka baphile impilo yonke elandelayo futhi mhlawumbe ubheke incebo yenjabulo yakho nobumpofu. Ngakho-ke, sizoyeka ukunakekelwa kokukhipha isisu, ikakhulukazi, ukuthi ithonya lithinta kanjani i-napsihik yowesifazane.
I-Postabortny syndrome. Kuyini?
Akekho onganika incazelo ecacile. Njengoba kungase kubonakale sengathi kunesibindi, usabhekwa njengechungechunge lwengqondo langempela. Noma kunjalo, ngamagama amabili, le syndrome ingachazwa kanje. I-PAS yiqembu lezifo ezingokomqondo nemiphumela eyenzeka ngemva kokukhipha isisu.
Naphezu kokuthi le nqubo ayinalo uhlamvu olusemthethweni, iningi labafazi libhekene nale syndrome. Isifo singazibonakalisa ngokushesha ngemva kokukhipha isisu, futhi singalinda isikhashana futhi ngengozi. Ukuqedwa ngokuphelele kungaba ezinyangeni ezimbili, futhi mhlawumbe uhlale impilo.
Umthelela wokukhipha isisu napsihiku
Ngokungangabazeki, i-psyche yowesifazane ngumlingiswa, imizwa nemizwelo ekhona kuwo. Ngamanye amazwi, isisekelo sokuziphatha komfazi. Ukukhipha isisu nakho kubangela ukucindezeleka okukhulu emzimbeni. Ake sizame ukuthola ukuthi owesifazane uzizwa kanjani emva kokukhipha isisu. Yiqiniso, lokhu akusebenzi kubo bonke abesifazane, kodwa kuningi kakhulu.
1. Ukungabi nalutho ngaphakathi, usizi, ukulahleka
Imizwa enjalo iphakama ngemva kokushonelwa othandekayo. I-Noabort ayifani nokufa. Umehluko kuphela wukuthi owesifazane wenza ukhetho lokuzikhethela ngokuqondene nokucabanga kwakhe. Lokhu kungomunye wamathonya anamandla kakhulu ku-psyche wesifazane, kodwa okubaluleke kakhulu kuwo kusalindele kithi phambili.
2. Imizwa yecala
Emva kokukhipha isisu, lo wesifazane uhlala yena ngokwakhe. Kukhona yonke indawo ukuqala ukuphishekela umuzwa wecala, kusuka okungenani izinhlangothi ezine.
Okokuqala - okubekwe ngumphakathi, ukulahla umbono, izithombe ezimbi ezindongeni zesibhedlela kanye namazwi ahlaba inhliziyo. Iziguli eziphuthumayo zesibhedlela, njengokungathi, zazwa ngengozi ingxoxo ngokukhipha isisu. Iziqeshana eziningi zevidiyo ku-intanethi kanye nokuningi kwezihloko ezikulesi sihloko. Ukungaboni kahle odokotela.
Owesibini yilo wesifazane uqobo. Sivame ukuzizwa sinecala uma singazi ukuthi kufanele siphendule kahle kanjani ukushaywa kwekusasa. Ngokuvamile owesifazane uqala ukuqaphela ukuthi zonke izizathu azishiya ingane ziyizizathu kuphela futhi isizathu sangempela sonke futhi uyaziwa kuwo wonke umuntu.
Ingane engakaze izalwe. Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi isithelo singaphelele kanjani ngaphakathi, owesifazane uqonda njalo futhi uzizwa ukuthi lo ngumntwana wakhe. I-kidot ingane ifuna ukuvela emhlabeni, kodwa, maye, akavunyelwe ukuyenza.
Le ndoda. Ngisho noma kulesi simo, owesifazane uyazi kahle. Ubhekene nalokho okwenzekayo kanye nokukhathazeka mayelana nobuhlobo bakhe besikhathi esizayo, okungenzeka ukuthi, kuyoba khona ukugubha. Futhi ngaphandle kwalowo wesilisa kukhona izihlobo eziningi, abajwayele, abangane, osebenza nabo owazi ukuthi bangenza kanjani kulesi simo, kodwa awuzange ulalele.
3. I-panic
Iyini isongo sokukhipha isisu? Kwenzekani manje? Ingabe ngizoba nezingane esikhathini esizayo? Yini ezoba ukuphila kwami? Ingabe wonke umuntu uzoxoxa nami futhi akhumbule ngamazwi angakhethi?
Njengomthetho, akekho ongakunika impendulo - akukho ukukhipha isisu. Ngakho-ke, uma usuqumile ngalokhu, esikhathini esizayo ulindelwe ukungaqiniseki okufingqwayo. Futhi empeleni, konke kubukeka kanje: isimo esibi ngokomzimba, ukucindezeleka okuqhubekayo nonembeza. Indlela yokuphila, ukuthi yini okumelwe iyenze ngazo zonke izinkinga eziwile ekhanda lami, kuzokwenzekani emndenini wami, yonke le mibuzo ihambelana nokubunzima kwabasindile ngemuva kokukhipha isisu.
4. Ukungabi nasizo
Ukukhipha isisu kwenziwa futhi kungabuyeli emuva. Imicabango: "Kungcono ngenza okuhlukile", kuzokuphishekela isikhathi eside. Akekho ozosho ukuthi angaphuma kanjani ekucindezelekeni futhi abhekane nesimo esidabukisayo. Indoda yakho ayikwazi njalo ukuthi iziphatha kahle kanjani. Futhi umphakathi nganoma yikuphi ithuba elihle elibonisa ukuthi kwakudingeka ucabange ngaphambili, esikhundleni sokwakha manje amathemba ama-iridescent okuzayo.
5. Ukuphikisana kwengqondo nomzimba kumuntu
Ukukhulelwa, okuyinto engekho ngesikhathi kwehla ekhanda-isevisi hhayi kuphela kwabesifazane, kodwa kumadoda akhe. Ukuze ngandlela-thile asuse umthwalo wakhe, lo wesifazane uqala ukuphakamisa izwi lakhe kumuntu, efuna ukudlulisela umthwalo emahlombe akhe, futhi ngokuvamile uhlangabezana nokusabela okungalungile ekuziphatheni kwakhe. Maye, imibhangqwana eminingi emva kokukhipha isisu ayitholanga ulimi oluvamile.
Abesifazane bathi ngisho nangemva kokuba zonke izithiyo zinganqotshwa, kunzima kakhulu ukuba balale ocansini nendoda. Futhi uma ubulili buqhubeka, inqubo yokwabelana ayiniki injabulo.
6. Ukukhathazeka, ukubekezelelana, ukuhlukunyezwa njalo
Ngemva kokukhipha isisu, owesifazane uqala ukucasula abantu nezinto ezenzeka kuye. Ngokuvamile, imicabango engenayo ingamshiyi isikhathi eside. Abesifazane abaningi bayavuma ukuthi emva kokubeletha ingane yesibili, esikhundleni senjabulo nothando, bavuswa ubutha nokuhlukumeza ingane.
Ukuguquka njalo kwemizwelo, ukucindezeleka, izingxabano, ukulala, ukuguquka kokuqaphela - yonke le miphumela yengqondo, kubangela izinguquko zomzimba ngenxa yokukhipha isisu.