Isizathu singaba yilokho, kodwa zonke izintombi, ezisesimweni esinjalo, ziqala ukumfuna, zibheke ekhanda layo zonke izimo ezingase zihlukanise nendoda. Emizamweni yokubuyisela othandekayo, owesifazane, ngokungapheli, uzibuza umbuzo: yini engalungile? Ulahlekelwa isifiso sakhe, akalali ebusuku, uyambiza ngokuthi, ngemuva kwalokho konke, ekuphelelwe ithemba, kodwa yonke imizamo ayinalutho. Ikholi ayikhuthazi, ngenye indlela ezungeze: ingxoxo engenalutho, izingxoxo ezivinjelwe, ukucasuka ekugcineni kwecingo noma ukuhleka usulu - noma yini ongayifunda.
Kuyathuka futhi kubuhlungu. Kodwa abangane abaqaphele abakwazi ukulala futhi baqale ukuzwelana nozwela kanye namathiphu okuwasha okungavumelekile kulesi simo, noma nje ungasizi. Futhi emva kokusebenzisa iseluleko esithile, amaphutha ayanda kuphela, futhi indoda ethandekayo iyaqhubeka isuka kude. Kanjani ukungena? Ngingabuyisela kanjani ubuhlobo bami nendoda, ngaphandle kokuphi ukuphila okulahlekelwa yikho konke?
Into ebaluleke kunazo zonke owesifazane ngesikhathi esifanayo ukukhombisa ukubekezela. Ngokuvamile, ukukhathazeka okungazelelwe komunye wesifazane akuyona into yokuzilibazisa yesikhashana engenazo izinhloso ezijulile. Uthando lusheshe ludlule, kanti isikhathi sokuthandana okuthandwayo sithatha indawo yokuqonda isimo sangempela, isimo sengqondo somngane omusha sishintsha. Futhi kulula ukunquma ukuthi ungabuyela kanjani indoda yakho ethandekayo.
Okusho ukuthi, isimo esikhulu lapha kukhona ukubekezela kanye nekhono lokuphumula. Phakathi kwababantu ababili abanothando lapho kukhona imfucuza yamandla, lapho owesilisa nowesifazane bezwa, ngisho noma bengekho ndawonye. Uma nje uhlupheka, indoda yakho ithola amandla futhi uzizwa ukhululekile nomunye wesifazane. Vumela ukuzizwa uzizwa kahle, ukuyeka ukuhlupheka, nomuntu owakushiya, uzoyeka ukuthola amandla kuwe futhi ngokuqinisekile uzofuna ukukhuluma, ukuhlangabezana nomthombo wakhe wamandla okhulayo. Umthetho wokulondoloza amandla - usebenza ngokuyisimangaliso. Hamba uthathe futhi uphumule, yebo, ngeke kube lula, kodwa ungaphazamisa ukunakwa kwakho kwenye into yesihawu noma ushintshe imvelo, uhambo. Uma ufuna, ungathola ezinye izindlela ezahlukene zokuthola indlela yokuphuma.
Kodwa futhi kwenzeka ukuthi uthando lomuntu lujulile, futhi kunzima ukuphumula nokuhlala esimweni esinjalo isikhathi eside. Ubuhlungu abudluli. Kanjani kulokhu ukubuyisela othandekayo?
Kukhona abesifazane abasebenzisa isipele sothando ukubuyisela umuntu. Futhi ngisho kukhona amacala okuphumelela kwalesi siko. Abanye besifazane basebenzisa zonke izinhlobo zezinye izindlela - zonke izinhlobo zokuhlomula, okuthi, ngokusho "izisulu", zazisiza ekubuyiseni ubuhlobo. Kodwa emilenzeni enjalo kukhona, ngokungangabazeki, okungeyona into - indoda ebuyela kumfazi ongeyena intando yakhe, ishintsha kakhulu. Esikhundleni somuntu onokwethenjelwa, onamandla, umuntu obuthakathaka obuthakathaka uvela noma, ngokuphambene, indoda enobudlova futhi esheshayo. Esikhathini sokudinga ukubuyisela othandekayo, abesifazane abaningi ngezinye izikhathi bahamba "ngaleyo magic emnyama", bengacabangi ngemiphumela, kokubili empilweni yalo muntu nabakhe. Ngaphezu kwalokho, ukuthi uzochitha imali yakho kuleli bhizinisi, akukho okunye okuphawulekayo okuzokwenzeka, akukho nqubekela phambili ebuhlotsheni.
Ingabe kukhona indlela yokubuyisela othandekayo ngaphandle kokusebenzisa umama?
Ungamceli ukuba abuyele, ungaceli isihawu, ungabonisi ukuhlukumezeka - kuzokwenza kube nzima ukucindezela. Izindlela ezinjalo zithinta kakhulu amadoda. Ungaceli ukuthethelelwa, ngakho-ke uzozishiya kuphela. Ukuhlukunyezwa kuzobangela ukusabela okunjalo. Amakholi ukuzwa nokuzwela ngawe, unike ithuba, nje umxosha othandekayo - akafuni ukuzwa imizwa yokuhlupheka ngenxa yakho. Ungazami ukubuyisela lo muntu, mkhulule.
Gcina imizwelo yakho, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi kunzima kangakanani ukubhekana nalokhu. Gcina yonke intando yakho ibe yingqimba futhi ugcine ubuhlobo obuhle nomuntu wakho othandekayo. Ngakho ungaqhubeka uxhumana naye, ngakho-ke, gcina ubuhlobo, futhi, mhlawumbe, uvuselele esikhathini esizayo. Khumbula ukuthi ukubeka lonke ulwazi "esitsheni sesiliva" mayelana nawe nokuphila kwakho kumuntu owawuthandana naye akufanelekile ngaso leso sikhathi. Uzoba nesifiso sokukwazi konke okuphathelene nawe. Injabulo enjalo ngeke ivumele imizwa ukuba iphele ngokuphelele.
Futhi qiniseka ukuzinakekela wena - lena indlela eqinisekile yokubuyisela indoda yakho ethandekayo. Qaphela ukubukeka kwakho - vakashela amachibi okubhukuda, amaqembu okuzikhandla, ama-beauty salons. Yiba nesithakazelo nakakhulu - funda i-tango yase-Argentina noma ufunde ukugibela, qala ukufunda izilimi noma ukuhlola amanye amazwe - izinketho eziningi. Into esemqoka ukuthi kukhona intuthuko.
Kodwa ngisho nangemva kokushintsha okukhulu okunjalo, kungenzeka ukuthi le ndoda ngeke ibuye. Khona-ke, mhlawumbe, kungcono nakakhulu? Bheka nxazonke - kunamadoda amaningi afuna ukukuhlangabeza! Ikakhulukazi emva kokuba ube yi-polyglot, ufunde ukuqhuba intaba edilikayo futhi ufunde okuningi ngamanye amazwe, uletha isipiliyoni esisha empilweni yakho. Lokhu kuvula ama-horizons amasha futhi kudonsela abantu abaningi abathandekayo empilweni yakho!