Ukuqeqesha amadoda noma izindlela zokuhlala ekhaya

Indoda nowesifazane bangamazwe amabili aphikisana ngokuphelele, anamandla ahlukene kanye nokuqonda kwezwe. Kodwa-ke, ukuhambisana nomuntu - umzingeli wangunaphakade we-adventure, udinga ukwazi amasu ambalwa azosiza ukuqukethe umoya wakhe wokuthoba cishe wesiteshi sokuthula esiseduze nawe. Lezi zindlela zazibizwa ngokuthi izindlela zokuqeqesha noma "ukugubha inkani".

Yini edingekayo ukuze kuqalwe ukuqeqeshwa okuphumelelayo?

Ukuze usebenzise izindlela zokuhlala ekhaya, kuyadingeka ukuthi ufunde nsuku zonke ngisho nezincane kakhulu ezenzekayo nezinguquko zazo, kuhlanganise nesistimu yakhe yezinzwa. Okubaluleke kakhulu ukukhuthazwa kwamadoda kuya eminyakeni engu-30, futhi emva kweminyaka engu-30 - kunikezwa, kodwa kunzima ngokwengeziwe ekubukeni kwemikhuba ekhona kakade yokuziphatha kanye namagugu. Kanti futhi, ithonya lethonya lomfazi kumuntu lithembele kakhulu kulohlobo lwakhe, okungukuthi, kubalulekile ukucabangela izici zomuntu ngamunye wezinhlobo zomlingiswa ezikhona kumuntu (i-sanguine, i-phlegmatic, i-melancholic, i-choleric). Ngemuva kwalokho, njengoba siyazi, ngendlela ehlanzekile yohlobo lomuntu luyinto engavamile kakhulu, ngokuvamile ixutshwe. Futhi endleleni yokuthola umuntu kufanele iqondiswe umqondo wokulingana kukho konke. Iphutha eliyinhloko labesifazane kuleli qembu lokuqala lokuqeqesha ukubuka umuntu osendlini nokulawula ngokweqile phezu kwakhe ("ukwelula i-leash"), okuholela ekungaqondeni ukuziphatha komuntu wesifazane. Ukuze kuqiniswe isigaba sokuqeqesha sokuqala, kubalulekile ukuqondiswa ukwakheka okucacile kwalowo wesifazane wezimiso zokuqeqesha nokunamathela kwazo.

Izimiso zomsebenzi

Ngaphambi kokuba uqale ukuqeqesha "isigceme", funda ukulawula futhi ulinganise izenzo zakho kuqala. Qinisekisa ukuthi ama-interstices abe nokuxhumana ngokomzwelo nomzwelo futhi emva kwalokho ungaqhubeka nokwakheka kwemigomo yokuqeqesha:

1. yenza izinyathelo zokuqala zokuqeqesha ngendlela engafaneleki;
2. ukujwayela "isilwane" sakho kuqala ngabaqeqeshisi abalula, bese udlulela ekubaluleke kakhulu futhi kunzima;
3. Ungaqali ukuthuthukisa amakhono amasha esilwaneni, kuze kube yilapho uqinisa umphumela wezimiso ezimbili ezidlule;
4. ukusungulwa kwendlela entsha kufanele kwenziwe ekuqaleni komngane wakho ekuseni, kuyilapho lo muntu elalela ngokwanele, futhi engakhathele umsebenzi wansuku zonke;
5. isikhathi sokuqeqeshwa sanda kancane kancane;
6. umqeqeshi kumele ahlale ecabangela kokubili izimo zangaphandle kanye nezangaphakathi;
7. chaza ngokucacile ukuthi yini ofuna ukuyifinyelela ekupheleni. Zakhele i-strategist, hhayi inqubo.

Amaphutha vperedirovke:

1. ukungabi nalutho kwedatha etholakalayo nolwazi mayelana nento yokuqeqesha, indlela yayo yokuphila;
2. ukuziphatha okungokwemvelo maqondana nendoda ngesikhathi sama-oda;
3. ukuziphatha okuthobekile, okwesaba futhi okungaqondakali eduze "kokuhlola";
4. ukukhunjulwa kokunakekelwa kokuqeqeshwa, caress ngokweqile nokunciphisa kwalowo muntu.

Indlela yokuhlola noma indlela yokufinyelela kwelitshe

Wonke umuntu uyazi ukuthi umuntu ubona leli zwe ngendlela yakhe, ngokusebenzisa imibono yakhe siqu. Ngokuphathelene nombono ohlukile wezungezile, amadoda ahlukaniswe ngamaqembu amathathu: izibuko, izilaleli kanye nezidakamizwa. Iziboniso zifana nakho konke okukhanyayo, ukuphonsa esweni - ukuklama kwakho okukhanyayo, ingaphakathi elithakazelisayo endlini. Abalaleli bathanda ukulalela umculo futhi bakhulume ngabathandekayo. Futhi i-kinestetikam njengephunga lemimoya yakho enhle kanye namafomu amahle omzimba. Futhi kukhona olunye uhlobo lwesilisa oluthile, ukuhlala okulukhuni kakhulu, kodwa kungenzeka ngesifiso sakho.

Ama-men-shares ngokuvumelana nezici zawo ahlukaniswe:

• ezinzima-ezinonya - ziqondile, zixaka, zihlukumezeka, kodwa zisheshe zithuthukise indlela yomsebenzi;
• ukuncibilikisa - badinga ukunakekelwa njalo, bangathathi amahlaya ngokwabo, bahamba kakhulu;
• kufihliwe - bahlale benganelisekanga ngento ethile, nakuba belalela noma yiziphi izinto ezincane (khumbula igama lakho ngalinye);
• ababi - bathanda ukucacisa konke kukho konke, kuze kube yirekhodi le-ruble ngayinye oyichithe. Ukuze silwe okungenani ukulingana ekuphathweni kwesabelomali, ungambonisi yonke imali engenayo, vumela izinto zivele endlini ngentshisekelo enhle yezihlobo noma abangane;
• spender - okuphambene okuphelele komuntu ohlukumezayo. Bayajabula, bazinikele kalula ezintweni zonke, lokhu kukhanya kubonakala ngokuphathelene nemali. Lokhu kuziphatha kungenxa yobudala obunzima bokuthi "ukuhlolwa" kwakho, noma inkomba yokukhulisa okungcono kakhulu emndenini lapho yonke into ingathengwa ngaso sonke isikhathi;
• Izindinganiso - zidala izwe lakho ukuze uphumelele ngokwakho, ngale ndlela engcono yokuthola ubuhlobo, ngaphandle kwalokho ubungozi bokuchitha impilo yakho. Kulezi, ngokuvamile ziphuma gigolo, freeloaders, ngubani, ngokusebenzisa ubuhle babo engavamile futhi bathers, ukuphuza amantombazane nabesifazane ekhanda. Balekela kulolu hlobo lokunganaki, banjengama-chameleons;
• abathandi bomama 'nabesifazane' - nabo bahlukaniswa ngezigaba ezine:
• UDon Juan Romantik-bakhangwa yimfihlakalo futhi abangenakufinyeleleka kwabesifazane, uma usebenzisa ngobuchule leli khombisi, uyisiguli sakho;
• ukuzimela-donzhuany ngokuvamile kuvame ukwesaba abesifazane futhi kubasole ngokungathembeki ngenxa yezinkinga zabo ezitholakala ebuntwaneni bokuqala noma ukubonakaliswa kwabesifazane abangaziwa, badinga ukubekezela kanye nokuhlala njalo ukuze bakhulise ukubaluleka kwabo kanye nesidingo;
• i-dandies yezocansi inithanda inkululeko, ijwayele ukushintshwa kaningi kwabalingani, kodwa uma unesineke futhi ungagcina amehlo akhe ezintweni zakhe zokuzijabulisa, ngokuqinisekile uzakwazisa ukuthi awuphuli ukunyakaza kwakhe mahhala ngokusebenzisa impilo;
• Ama-Planification womanizers ngokuvamile azinikela ngokusabalalisa okuqhubekayo kokuncoma ngakwesobunxele nangakwesokudla, kodwa bodwa kuphela - bahlakulele umuntu wabo, okuhlobene nalezi zibonakaliso ze-syumor nokuqonda.

Akuyona imfihlo ukuthi i-hormone esemqoka yomuntu yi-testosterone, engcono kakhulu ekhiqizwa uma inyama ithathwa, ngakho-ke inkulumo ethi "indlela eya kumuntu isisu sayo" ayizange ikhanseliwe, ngakho-ke yenza isenzo! Qaphela, ungazidingeli ngokwakho. Kodwa-ke, uma umuntu engafuni ukushintsha kangcono, ulala embhedeni usuku lonke, ashintshe iziteshi ze-TV, futhi ekulindeni, emahlombe akho abuthakathaka, ukuthwala yonke imithwalo yemindeni ekunakekelweni komndeni, akuyona into engafanele ukukhombisa ukuthi ubani kumnikazi wesizinda. Noma, uma ungathandi ukupheka, ugeze futhi uhlanzekile nomunye umsebenzi wasekhaya, ungenza unembeza ohlanzekile uthathe umthwalo wempahla womndeni, futhi isilwane sakho simenze ahlele ukufudumala kwekhaya, induduzo nokuhlanzeka.

Futhi, ungakhohlwa ukuthi umuntu ungumuntu oshintsha imibono yakhe nezintandokazi kuye ngokuthi uneminyaka yakhe. Isibonelo, eneminyaka engu-14-16 uyisithandwa sothando, eneminyaka engama-25 indoda iba ngumthandi ohlakaniphile, ngo-30 unzima kakhulu, ulinganisela futhi akahambisani nobuwula bakhe bokuqala bobulili, futhi ngo-45 - udinga ukugcina izindlebe zakhe zivulekile! Ngokuphishekela intsha esedlula, ngokuvamile amalungu omndeni agijimela emzimbeni omncane, ezama ukuguqula nokuqeda isiphetho. Kodwa-ke, uma ungahlali nje ngaphandle, kodwa futhi ngaphakathi ngaphakathi, ikati lakho elikhuni ngeke lihambe enkingeni, lizolala ezinyaweni zakho.