Ukuxilongwa.
Ukuphila, njengokungathi kuvezwe encwadini enodumile "U-Oblomov" akayithandi muntu, kodwa ncamashi kuze kube yilapho umuntu esesimweni esifanayo. Ngokushesha kukhona izizathu zokubili ukungenzi nokungafuni ukushintsha noma yini. Cabanga ngentaba yezitsha ezitsheni noma emakhokheni okhohliwe ekhoneni elidlule letafula! Sivame ukujwayele konke ngokushesha, futhi ubuvila buhamba ngokuthula futhi bungaqondakali. Ngakho-ke, esigabeni sokuqala kubaluleke kakhulu ukuvuma ngobuqotho - yebo, ngiyivila. Ngokushesha nje lapho sibona lokhu noma lobu buthakathaka, siyazi ukuthi indawo ethathaphi ekuphileni kwethu, sikwazi ukuzibheka ngephandle futhi sibone isithombe sangempela sezehlakalo.
Ungasebenzisa usuku, izinyanga ezimbili, inyanga noma iminyaka embhedeni, uqoqa hhayi izintaba zothuli kuphela, kodwa nezintaba zezinkinga. Indlela yokushaya ubuvila uma kuba umkhuba? Indlela kuphela yokunqoba ubuvila ukuvuma ukunqotshwa kwesikhashana bese unquma ukwenza okuthile. Kulula kakhulu ukuqaphela ubuvila - singabantu ngezwi elizolile, siphakamisa ukuthi kuhle kangakanani ukulala nge-TV esikhundleni sokwenza isidlo sakusihlwa, ezingxoxweni ezithakazelisayo ku-"ICQ" kusukela ekuseni kuze kuhlwe, kumathoyizi wekhompiyutha kanye nezincwadi ezithakazelisayo - kukho konke ngaphandle sebenzisa. Uma uvumela isilingo, emva kwezinsuku ezimbalwa umuntu angazizwa ebuthakathaka, angabi nalutho futhi ecasulwe ngenxa yesizathu esicacile. Nakuba, isizathu sibonakala - zonke lezi zinkinga ezivela ebuvila okufanele zihlulwe.
Izinyathelo zokuqala.
Wonke umuntu okungenani oye wahlushwa isilingo sokuvila lapho kudingekile ukwenza okuthile uyazi ukuthi ubunzima abukho ekudingeni ukwenza okuthile, kodwa esinyathelweni sokuqala esikuhlukanisa nobukhona obuvilaphayo bukhona ekuphileni okusebenzayo. Kulesi sinyathelo sokuqala ukuthi abantu babone ukwesaba okuyinhloko, ngoba kunezimo eziningi kakhulu eziseduze, eziningi zazo ezizophoqeleka ngesivinini esikhulu, okuningi kulahlekile.
Udinga ukuqala encane, uma ngemuva kwekhefu elide ukuze wehlele ebhizinisini ngezinga elifanayo njengabantu bonke abakuzungezile, kungaba khona ukuphazamiseka. Akekho umgijimi ozoqeqesha ngesisindo esifanayo ngemuva kokuhlukunyezwa noma ukuphumula okude, futhi akukho sloth okufanele iqale ukushintsha ekuxazululeni izinkinga zomhlaba jikelele. Kukhona indlela endala yabantu, indlela yokunqoba ubuvila ngaphandle kokulimala kakhulu kuwe - udinga ukuqala ngokuhlanza indlu nendawo yokusebenzela. Ugogo bethu bathi - umonakalo endlini - umonakalo ekhanda lami, futhi kuyiqiniso. Kodwa kufanelekile ukulahla amaphakheji angenalutho, ukukhipha udoti, ukuhlela izinto ezindaweni, ukusula uthuli nokukhipha izindawo ezinamathele phansi nasetafuleni, njengoba kuba lula ukuphefumula futhi kulula ukuqala into entsha. Wonke umuntu uyazi ukuthi kumnandi kakhulu ukuhlala ngobumsulwa kunokuba phakathi kothuli nezintaba zezinto ezihlakazekile. Futhi uma ukuhlanza nsuku zonke kwenziwa umkhuba, ngeke kuthathe isikhathi esiningi, futhi awusoze utholakale phakathi kwezingcingo zemfucuza.
Isikhathi.
Esinye sezizathu eziyinhloko zokuthi kungani abantu beqala ibhizinisi labo bengakwazi ukuphatha isikhathi sabo. Iqiniso lokuthi kubalulekile ukuhlela usuku lwakho, ukuthi ngezinye izikhathi izinhlelo ezicacile nezinhlelo ezidingekayo ezizosiza ukuthi ungakhohlwa okuthile okudingekile futhi ungaphumeleli, kusho okuningi. Kodwa ngesizathu esithile singayinaki lokhu njalo.
Kuzo zonke izinto esizenzayo, kunesikhathi - nokulala, nokudla, nokusebenza nokuzilibazisa. Uma ezinye izinto ziqala ukushintsha izindawo, uma siqala ukudela ubuthongo emsebenzini noma ukusebenza ngenxa yokuphumula, khona-ke ngokuqinisekile ngeke siphumelele sibe khona. Akuzona zonke izinto esibophezelekile ukuzenza nsuku zonke, sithanda okufanayo. Uma unamathele ikati elikhukhulayo lihle kakhulu, bese uhlanze indlu yangasese ngemuva kwakhe - cha. Kodwa sonke siyazi ukuthi kuzokwenzekani uma siyeka ukwenza le nqubo engavamile kodwa edingekayo. Kubalulekile ukusabalalisa imisebenzi yakho ukuze ezinye izimo eziyinkimbinkimbi noma ezimane zingase zenzeke kalula, khona-ke ngeke kube nokucindezeleka.
Imikhuba.
Konke lokhu ngenhla kusiza ukukhipha okwesikhashana ithonya elibi lobuvila empilweni yakho, kepha lokhu akunikezi isiqiniseko sokuthi ngolunye usuku uzokwazi ukumelana nesilingo sokuhlehlisa ibhizinisi ebalulekile, ukuya emhlanganweni, uhlanze ekhaya. Ungabetha kanjani ubuvila uma kubonakala kungenakunqotshwa? Imfihlo ukuthuthukisa imikhuba ewusizo. Lokhu kungukubusa kosuku, okungalahleki ngisho nangezimpelasonto, kungukulawula ukusebenza kwayo yonke imisebenzi yayo nokulawula isikhathi esichithwa kulezi zindaba noma kwezinye izinto. Umuntu ojwayele ukuya eshaweni nokudla kwasekuseni ngemuva kokuvusa, ngeke akhohlwe ngakho kuze kuhlwe, ukuxoxa nabangani efonini noma ku-ICQ. Umuntu oye wajwayela ukushiya umsebenzi ngaphandle kokushiya izindaba ezibalulekile kusasa ngeke abe ngomzuzwana othile okungenani isikhathi kanye nezinkinga eziyishumi nambili okudingeka zixazululwe ngokuphuthumayo. Umuntu ojwayele ukuhlala endlini ehlanzekile futhi ekhangelekile, ngisho noma engacabangi ukuphuma, ngeke azithole ezungezwe yincithakalo ngezinwele ezingenawo amandla.
Kuyaziwa ukuthi imikhuba yenziwa okwesikhashana. Ngokuvamile kuthatha amasonto ambalwa kuya ezinyangeni eziningana. Kodwa uma wenza okuthile njalo, ngokuqinisekile kuyoba umkhuba. Uma kunjalo, akukuhle yini ukuzijwayeza izinto eziwusizo, kunokuba uziphathe ngezindlela ezingafani zokungazenzi?
Uma sikhuluma ngendlela yokunqoba ubuvila kanye nhlobo, asikwazi ukwehluleka ukusho isidingo sokuzilibazisa. Umuntu akakwazi ukusebenza kuphela, kungenjalo impilo iyoba yisithukuthezi futhi ibukeke, okuzoholela ekunganakwa nasekucindezelekeni. Ukuphumula kuyadingeka kithi, sidinga injabulo nokuzikhohlisa, kubalulekile ukuthi sifunde ukungena emgqeni phakathi kweholide elifanelekile nobukhona obuvilaphayo. Umuntu uhlala ngempela, lapho esebenza, ubuvila bunethonya elibi emgangeni wepilo ngokujwayelekile, ukwehlisa impilo, ubudlelwano nabathandekayo nokunciphisa ithemba lokuphumelela okungenani. Isinyathelo esisodwa singaba iphuzu lokuqala kusukela ezinsukwini ezinothile kuze kube uchungechunge lwezehlakalo ezikhanyayo. Yenza lokho - ukukhetha kuhlala kulowo nalowo kithi.