Ukwesaba namaphutha
Ngimaphi amaphutha umama ongayedwa owenzayo, yiziphi izinhlobo zokwesaba ayenakho, futhi kungenzeka yini ukugwema la maphutha? Sizosiza ukuthola amandla kithi, ukuqonda konke okwenzekile, ukuqala "kusukela ekuqaleni" futhi uye embusweni omusha. Kumele sikhumbule ukuthi umama ongayedwa, lo akuyona umama omubi, hhayi umndeni ongajabuli, kodwa umndeni ongaphelele. Kunezibonelo eziningi lapho emndenini ovamile, oqukethe umama, ubaba nomntwana, ngokuvamile ukukhathazeka nokukhuliswa kwengane kwenziwa ngumama. Futhi emndenini onjalo wonke umuntu akajabuli, mama - ngoba umyeni uneminyaka encane, ubaba ngoba akanalo ithuba lokuphila, ngoba ufuna, futhi akukho nkululeko, ingane ngenxa yezingxabano eziqhubekayo zabazali.
Ngakho-ke ingaba umama onesizungu, hhayi okubi? Ngempela, kwabesifazane abaningi, ukuhlukaniswa kuyindlela kuphela yokuphuma kulokhu (ukushaywa, ukuthukwa, ukuhlazeka, ukungabi nuthando, njll) futhi ujabule futhi. Phela, abantu bavame ukwenza amaphutha uma bekhetha umuntu ongalungile, baya emnyango ongalungile, bathi amagama angalungile. Ungayeki, futhi into esemqoka ukuqhubeka, ngeke kube lula. Phela, okudlule akukwazi ukuguqulwa, kodwa kungenzeka ukwakha ikusasa elijabulisayo lomntwana kanye nokwakho. Wonke owesifazane kufanele abe nelungelo lokuthola ithuba lesibili.
Amaphutha omama onesizungu
Abesifazane abakhulisa ingane yedwa bayazi ukuthi inselele kangakanani umama kubo. Owesifazane onesizungu, ngenxa yokulahlekelwa ukuphila nokuqondiswa nokuzihlonipha, ukunakekelwa ngokweqile kwezingane, kuyilapho bekhohlwa ngezidingo zabo nangabo ngokwabo. Futhi benza iphutha elikhulu.
1. Ngokuphelele futhi zizinikele ngokuphelele kumntwana
Mhlawumbe akukubi, kodwa omama abazinikela impilo yabo yonke ingane, njengokungathi, banamathele kulo, futhi abakwazi ukuzibona njengabantu. Kunzima kakhulu ukuvumela ingane yabo endala ukuba ihambe empilweni yokuzimela. Omama abanjalo banesidingo esikhulu ezinganeni zabo. Amaphupho abo angagcwaliseki abazama ukuwaqaphela ngomntanakho, amnciphise ilungelo lokuzikhethela nokulihlela. Yiqiniso, ingane empilweni yabo yinto ebaluleke kakhulu, kodwa udinga ukukhumbula ngawe. Lokhu kusebenza kokubili imizwelo nokubukeka.
2. Zizwa unecala elikhulu
Ngokuvamile, omama abangashadile bakholelwa ukuthi banecala lokuhlukanisa, nokuthi ingane ayinayo uyise. Futhi kungakhathaliseki ukuthi kungani igebe lizimele, bazibeka icala ngalokhu kuphela. Empeleni ngenxa yabo ingane ikhula emndenini ongaphansi futhi ngaphandle kobaba. Ngenxa yokuntuleka kwemali, baphoqeleka ukuba basebenze izinsuku, futhi kunjalo, ngenkathi bekeza izingane isikhathi esincane. Futhi uma kukhona isikhathi samahhala, abaphumuli, kodwa banike isikhathi futhi bachithe nezingane. Futhi kanjalo kwenzeka konke ukuphila, bazizwa benecala futhi bezisola, okuzibonakalisa ngokwabo ngokuzidela ngokuphelele.
Owesifazane odela imihlatshelo eminingi kumntanakhe, inhlobo yemvelo, kodwa akumelwe ibe yingozi futhi ibe yinto ezwakalayo. Akudingekile ukuba unikeze ingane yonke iminithi yokuphila kwakho. Phela, ngale ndlela umama unikeza ingane yakhe isibonelo esihle. Awukwazi ukuzincisha ithemba lenkululeko nokuphila komuntu siqu, awudingi ukubona kuphela indima yomama ongayedwa.
3. Inqubo yokukhulisa ingane iyancipha ibe ukwaneliseka kwezidingo zomzimba
Lokhu kuyisifiso esingokwemvelo nesokwemvelo, kodwa umuntu akufanele akhohlwe ngecala elingokomoya. Umama ongayedwa, onakekela indlela yokugqoka nokondla ingane, angaphuthelwa izikhathi ezinjalo ezibalulekile njenge: imfundo yomthwalo wemfanelo, umusa, ubuzwe, uthando nokunye. Khuluma naye kaningi, unike isisa nokufudumala ekubukeni, amagama, ekuthinteni. Uma kukhona ubunzima bezezimali, lokhu akufanele kuthinte ubuhlobo bakho nomntwana. Ungangabazi ukuthi ufundisa umuntu nomuntu, ngisho noma ukhula wedwa. Gxila ekunakekeleni kwengane, umusa, ukunakekelwa nothando. Lokhu kuyitshalomali enenzuzo kunazo zonke, eminyakeni embalwa uzothola isithakazelo ngendlela yendodakazi enakekelayo ethandekayo nendodana ejabulelayo.
4. Baqeda izimpilo zabo futhi banqande ukuxhumana kwabo kuphela kwengane
Owesifazane onesizungu uyaqiniseka ukuthi imihlangano yabo nabangani, nendoda iyokwenza ingane ihlupheke futhi ingamlethela injabulo, kodwa konke lokhu akulungile. Ngokuphambene nalokho, umama ojabulayo onelisekile ngokuphila uzoletha ingane yakhe injabulo. Ungazicingo kwabanye. Kudingekile ukuba uye endaweni ethile ngaphandle kwengane, ubeke aphoyintimenti futhi uhlangane nabangani futhi wenze okuthile kuwe, othandekayo wakho. Ukuxhumana nabantu, nomuntu kuzokukwenza ukhohlwe ngezinkinga ezithile zokucindezela, uletha injabulo futhi unike injabulo. Futhi umama onjalo ojabulayo angenza ingane yakhe ijabule futhi.
Ungagodli isifiso sokuthembela ehlombe lamadoda eliqinile, ngoba kuyisidingo esizwakalayo nesokwemvelo ukuzwa ukunakekelwa komuntu othandekayo. Futhi egameni lomama, awukwazi ukuyeka konke lokhu. Mhlawumbe umuntu omusha nomngane omusha bayazuza kulo mndeni omncane. Imithwalo eyenziwe ngumuntu oyedwa ingahlukaniswa yaba abantu ababili. Ingane, ukukhulumisana nonina kamama, izothola ulwazi olusha nolwazi.
5. Ungathathi isizungu
Lokhu okudlulele kakhulu kubomama abangashadile. Phela, abazange baphinde bavuselele ngokomzimba nangokwemvelo ebuhlotsheni obudlule, futhi sebevele bezama ukwakha ubudlelwane obusha. Ezimweni ezinjalo, izingane zishiywa kubazali nogogo, futhi lokhu kuthinta izingane. Kubaluleke kakhulu ukuthola ukulinganisela phakathi kwezidingo zakho nezidingo zomntwana.
Manje siyazi ngamaphutha nokwesaba komama ongayedwa. Udinga ukwazi ukuthi abesifazane abanamandla bangakhula ingane yabo. Ungesabi izinkinga nezithiyo, ungene empilweni ngamahlombe aqondile ngokuziqhenya futhi uqiniseka ngokwanele. Ungumama wangempela. Futhi kumelwe simthande ingane kanye nathi. Jabulela!